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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by tsmith(f): 2:22am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Rather than ask the internet who don't know you or your wife. Nor make assumptions that maybe misleading. The truth n solution would come from nothing other than continual conversation eith your wife.

Find out her thoughts and why she is no longer enjoying intimacy with you.
Check if she even ever did.
Find out what turns her on and off. Your supposed best efforts might just be water off a ducks back.
Similarly discusss your turn on n offs.
Plan sex, set the tone, mood etc. What many men fail to understand is that sex starts from outside the bedroom. The intention, sextexting, the thoughtful actions, the compliments, the gifts, the playfulness n stolen kisses and touches, the intentionality, the looks n stares that onky you both understand, the inside jokes and many more all set the pace for explosive, non forgettable
and highly sought after coupling.

And communication, it continues right through, before, during and after the act.

Before is for setting the mood
During is for both questions n feedback. How is this for you. Do you want more or less, with loads of commentary of what you're doing or plan to do to her, plus how she and the whole act is making you feel. These conversations as much as possible should be her focused n not you.

The after, is for feedback again. What worked. What didn't n how to spice things up.

I wish you the very best of luck. You both have got the ability to spin this hitch into something that cements your union and make your sexual relationship and even marriage wax stronger.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by 43Ronin: 2:36am On Apr 12, 2025

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
The problem outlined by the OP is the treatment that decent married men who don't cheat and whose wives know will never cheat suffer. A man whose wife is behaving that way should dress well, go out and come back looking happy, hold his phone up and be fidgeting with the phone smiling. If possible, put a password on your phone and don't ask her for sex. Provide always and act like her sex means nothing to you. She will come back to you. Most women don't like peace, if you are not quick to create chaos, she will create it for you and torment your life.

You are right and 90% of the time, it works. However if she cheating she would care less. I once unknowingly dated a married woman (she claimed she was divorced/separated) only to find out later she was still living with her hubby. She was wild. It was more of sexercise. After going 2 rounds of long rigorous sex and engaging in all her fetish after work thers no way she was going to fùck her man. That's because they are not sexually compatible. We used to fùck anwhere we find ourselves and she couldn't do that with her hubby. I fear that might be the OP case

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by seanery: 3:29am On Apr 12, 2025

Oga, líbido or no libido; just put sperm inside and make babies, thats all.

If she enjoy am thts her problem; so far u don knack u don release, that all that matter.

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Ganjafama(m): 3:31am On Apr 12, 2025

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
The problem outlined by the OP is the treatment that decent married men who don't cheat and whose wives know will never cheat suffer. A man whose wife is behaving that way should dress well, go out and come back looking happy, hold his phone up and be fidgeting with the phone smiling. If possible, put a password on your phone and don't ask her for sex. Provide always and act like her sex means nothing to you. She will come back to you. Most women don't like peace, if you are not quick to create chaos, she will create it for you and torment your life.

You are a real cowboy. 😂😂😂

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by invectives(m): 3:33am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Buy her Diamonds or pamper her with gifts and money and watch y'all resume 69ing!!!

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Melonsmasher: 3:39am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
Do you guys explore in the bedroom, or you just dive in like a scuba diver, do the famous "missionary" and it's times up?

Professor

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by tunapawizzy: 4:08am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
Do you guys explore in the bedroom, or you just dive in like a scuba diver, do the famous "missionary" and it's times up?

Hmmm Samantha the explorer, tell us something

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by tunapawizzy: 4:13am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
So this is true? I've heard rumours about how some of you guys would rather use money to entice women rather than improve your bedroom game.

She will enjoy your money while enjoying a side dude that has mastered his bedmatics skills elsewhere... Money will never improve your sexual prowess... Allegedly most rich men are not even good in bed...😒😒😒

Please o, I just want to confirm, is it true that this "good in bed" that women are always looking for is majorly for the man to be good with MouthAction? I am confused

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by tunapawizzy: 4:20am On Apr 12, 2025

When they tell you people to be sure you are ready for marriage, it's not just that you're sure u want to leave your father's house o or that you want to start living with woman. A lot is involved including the fact that your partner will be annoying you but u will put that aside and fulfill your marital obligations. You will find your wife/husband no longer attractive but you must give her/him your body if she/he demands.
...your partner go chop suya with plenty onions, begin touch u in d middle of the night. Your partner wan cuddle with early morning breathe, you no go push her/him away.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by mukthar2000(m): 4:24am On Apr 12, 2025

she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to.

all this jagaban hash policies and hard economy is enough for someone not to enjoy sex.

Don't blame her pls

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by tunapawizzy: 4:26am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Is your mouth smelling, because a lot of people no know say smelling mouth dey kill libido. Meanwhile inside Tinubu economy, u still dey get libido-na joke o

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Blazetrailer: 4:34am On Apr 12, 2025

OP, you dey craze.

In all of this Tinubu's mismanagement of the economy, this is the only worry on your mind?

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Omalicious1: 4:50am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Let her open up to you but if she doesn't then you're sitting on a time bomb.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Kog45(m): 4:58am On Apr 12, 2025

BlackyOne:
What has changed in your lifestyle? Financial status isn't as before or She's now more financially independent?

Check well

Na only you get it .... it's FINANCE,Kai this economy

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by VaginaAcademic: 5:13am On Apr 12, 2025

This is the stage where some men or women begin to cheat

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by VaginaAcademic: 5:15am On Apr 12, 2025*

If she has tasted other gbola after yours. Your gbola will no longer ignite the fire in her kpekus anymore grin

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by mirrael68(m): 5:18am On Apr 12, 2025

columbus007:
Oga I don't really understand, it's Nigeria not happening to you and her as she is like these, I mean what else do you need to know.

Gbam!!!

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by FreeSpirited: 5:22am On Apr 12, 2025

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
The problem outlined by the OP is the treatment that decent married men who don't cheat and whose wives know will never cheat suffer. A man whose wife is behaving that way should dress well, go out and come back looking happy, hold his phone up and be fidgeting with the phone smiling. If possible, put a password on your phone and don't ask her for sex. Provide always and act like her sex means nothing to you. She will come back to you. Most women don't like peace, if you are not quick to create chaos, she will create it for you and torment your life.

The only reasonable comment. Everyone else is saying rubbish

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by FreeSpirited: 5:32am On Apr 12, 2025

SamuraiXXX:
This one don go copy ChatGPT

Very disgusting thing to do.. And most Nairlander gave him likes... Shows the level of I. Q and awareness of people on this forum

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by femi4: 5:46am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

It's a medical condition, visit a sex therapist. She might hit menopause quite early

It's a treatable disorder - The medical diagnosis is called " Hypo sexual Desire Disorder "

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 5:48am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
Do you guys explore in the bedroom, or you just dive in like a scuba diver, do the famous "missionary" and it's times up?

What's wrong with missionary?

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Stevenbright(m): 5:48am On Apr 12, 2025

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Ask her what is happening with her instead of wondering!

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by femi4: 5:58am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
Do you guys explore in the bedroom, or you just dive in like a scuba diver, do the famous "missionary" and it's times up?

Some missionaries will give a long lasting experience than other gymnastics

Never underestimate missionary

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 6:00am On Apr 12, 2025

I can guarantee you don't give that woman orgasms.

Men should learn to take charge in the bedroom.
Learn the art of domination.

Some rainy days call for soft doings, other days call for pinning down and smashing away.

Give your woman back to back orgasms and watch her cling to you for life.

Women feel orgasms differently.
Its not the same as a man's feeling.

The problem with some men is that they rush into marriage without getting requisite knowledge.

Others know absolutely nothing about the steps a woman's body takes from arousal to orgasm.

Make that woman to involuntarily arch her back per day and complaints will flee a million miles from you.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Yestogood: 6:05am On Apr 12, 2025

Is your wife asthmatic?
Some of the drugs used to treat asthma have the effect of reducing a woman's libido.

Also, some women just have a reduced libido. The libido tends to reduce as well, when women are in menopause.

Don't look at the negative side alone. Some women have a heightened libido that pushes them to bed every Tom, Dick & Harry. Is that what you prefer?
The low libido woman is likely to have been married as a virgin. In addition, if you do sufficient pre-intimacy every time, you will see a side of her you never expected. Sex is not supposed to be just plug and play.
Bathe yourself well. Brush your teeth. Then refrain from driving in when she is dry. Touch and stimulate. Learn what moves her.
( I hope all you guys reading this are married o. All indomie children, go to bed now)

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by spiceadole(f): 6:15am On Apr 12, 2025

Men and sex sef.

Despite all the challenges in this world ,sex is their problem.
Smh

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by LeeSmart: 6:35am On Apr 12, 2025

spartachico:
Bro it ain't jokes cus in this current economy women libido are relatively low when you dont disburse funds into their aza, I watch one Instagram video, boyfriend buy iphone 16 for his gf and the gf started shouting pls come and fvck me hard like as if them no dey fvck before

One South African girl the tell me say so we dey use money dey entice our woman for this part of the world before we knack... No woman wey go dey wet (in the mood to have sex) when there's no food in the house to feed her children and husband, rent is due and the land lord is on their neck, even as the woman herself she can't even afford some basic things she would be needing personally. Except maybe the woman na nymphomaniac

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by Babatwo2: 6:40am On Apr 12, 2025

Possible she's satisfying herself secretly. She is use to self satisfaction, like mastubating. Do both of you bath together? Does she has musturising cream at home, like Vaseline.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by UncleKoboko: 6:58am On Apr 12, 2025

Samantha125:
Do you guys explore in the bedroom, or you just dive in like a scuba diver, do the famous "missionary" and it's times up?

This is the problem with Whørēs with different experience....
You can't satisfy them. A lot of men has programed different things in their soul psychologically and sexually.
I can never take a whorē seriously.
A whorē is any girl with more than 2 BODYCOUNT.

Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 7:02am On Apr 12, 2025

43Ronin:
You are right and 90% of the time, it works. However if she cheating she would care less. I once unknowingly dated a married woman (she claimed she was divorced/separated) only to find out later she was still living with her hubby. She was wild. It was more of sexercise. After going 2 rounds of long rigorous sex and engaging in all her fetish after work thers no way she was going to fùck her man. That's because they are not sexually compatible. We used to fùck anwhere we find ourselves and she couldn't do that with her hubby. I fear that might be the OP case

You're right, hat's another perspective. Imagine some clowns here talking about hormonal imbalance and post partum hyper active nonsense

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by WhiteLavender(f): 7:08am On Apr 12, 2025

iSense247:
Money could make a significant difference in women libido. The reason is that sex is psychological. It's not a joke but the truth.

A lot of men do not understand that. Even a lot of women do not understand either. It can be frustrating and that's just saying the least.

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Re: My Wife Is No Longer Responsive To Sex by WhiteLavender(f): 7:11am On Apr 12, 2025

Brandiebird:
Most women need to be relaxed to enjoy intimacy. If there's something on her mind, then it becomes hard to let go and enjoy the moment.

Pamper her, take her out, enjoy dating each other again because marriage and children can kill any romantic light.

Start flirting with her again, make her laugh, do something she enjoys. Send her sexy messages during the day. Make her feel like your girl again instead the parents and spouse roles you both play.

If you could afford to go away for a weekend together then do it and rekindle the spark. It's great that you care and want to please your wife.

You hit the nail on the head. Sex for a woman does not start when the action starts, it begins way before. I don't know if you're a man but you definitely know what you're talking about. Any woman would be lucky to have you cheesy

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