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| Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 5:39pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
I will get married early next year,but I am a perpetual visitor of brothel and my wife think I am a virgin should I reveal my past to her or I should let it go Mods front page please |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Double0h7(f): 5:44pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Your wife knowing is the least of your problems. You have a lot of character issues to work through before ever becoming a husband or a father. 11 Likes |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 5:45pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Double0h7:Thanks ma, I have promised to change, I am just wondering if to keep it or open it up to her She is not a virgin as well but she thinks I am a virgin 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Double0h7(f): 5:52pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Inshame3:Stop lying that would be a good place to start. 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 5:55pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Double0h7:I didn't get you ma |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by duduade(m): 6:09pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
In that case you better you better take time out before the wedding …. On a weekend.. go lodge for better hotel… give her a taste of it so she knows the truth… |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Starz825(m): 7:36pm On Apr 13, 2025*. Modified: 8:33pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
I don't admire people who aren't genuine in relationships Besides, What's there in telling her you ain't a virgin? She go beat you?... after all she is also not a virgin....na she suppose even dey shame ..but look at you Do you even have to tell her you visit brothels? Just tell her you have had a taste of it couple of times in the past I no dey like make man no sharp... 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by tnerro1(m): 7:51pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Mumu, why? |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by pneumaticos(m): 8:13pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Inshame3:Are you born again with a renewed mind It's takes alot not to cheat In . marriage talkless of some one that visit brothels alot You will have issues as a man when you wife gives birth The first time I cheated was after 3 months of no sex from wifey as a result of child birth I use to think I was strong, considering I only met a lady in my entire 30 something years of living, infact , I only brought her in the because I suffered disappointment from the lady I intended to marry before meeting my wife, Men can never be committed to a single woman by nature The real commitment of a man is to God So how strong is the word of God in you, If you can commit your self to God while running away from every appearance of lustful feelings,then that commitment will apply to your marriage If you are not committed to God, no amount of swearing or preparations will make you not knack another woman, Final thing is hope you have money already, First level like making 5-10 million per month , you meet people And travel easily , The above will expose you to byforce pussies as you can afford it when ever you want it, But having the access and still denying yourself of it is what shows you are above it, There are 3 seasons of sexaul temptations for solid men First few years of marriage Prime age of 50ties and success, Last age when your wife is old As you can see..you haven't really started 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Dogalmighty17: 8:16pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
This young man doesn't know he has fallen into the worst trap ever. You don't start visiting brothels because you can never stop. Even if you get married, you will still be visiting brothels. Remember this. Matt God help you. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Balablue64: 9:34pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Double0h7:And what should the woman work on? |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Balablue64: 9:39pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Inshame3:Congratulations to you on getting married, nothing dey for Nigerian marriages except billing and expenses for the man, the sex you can get it from brothels. Anyway you can tell her about your past on one condition. If only she tells you how many men she have slept with and the styles and positions she likes. On a serious note, relationship supposed to have a deep connection, no secrets, u should know all about your partner's past, future and present. BUT IF YOUR PARTNER DOESN'T SHARE HER PASTS SECRETS PLEASE BRO DON'T SHARE YOURS 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Balablue64: 9:41pm On Apr 13, 2025 |
Dogalmighty17:Lol, not everybody is you bro 😜😜😜 |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by tanigororo: 4:09am On Apr 14, 2025 |
Inshame3:Did she ask or she assumed you are a virgin? One thing is if she asked and you lied, another is she insinuating you are a virgin. More so, I don't believe their is a virgin man, is either you have sexual experience or you lack sexual experience. Men are Judged by their future not their past, Women are judged by their past not their future. |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by AllBlack: 4:22am On Apr 14, 2025 |
Inshame3:Front page kee you there. Na so you go just dey imagine rubbish dey put for nairaland just to wyne people. seems your life is a very lonely and idle one. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by AllBlack: 4:25am On Apr 14, 2025 |
Dogalmighty17:Just because you have refused to leave ashawo and brothels don't mean that millions of men have not put it behind them. Speak for yourself. |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 7:00am On Apr 14, 2025 |
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| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by freddie009(m): 7:32am On Apr 14, 2025 |
Inshame3:Somethings are better left unsaid. Probably she is all lovey dovey, you will be surprised how she will switch up on you when you tell that. And any movement you make after marriage will be suspected. |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Baronthecelebri(m): 9:28am On Apr 14, 2025 |
Tell her now |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Twemi(m): 3:03pm On Apr 14, 2025 |
You better tell her cos she will still find out sooner or later and that will be a disaster because you have no control on what happens later. |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Rexymania(m): 3:24pm On Apr 14, 2025 |
Tell her that or not, it won't stop anything. What is she bringing to the table? |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Sonnobax15(m): 3:56pm On Apr 14, 2025 |
 Whether you tell her about your past or not is none of our concern,but my only advise for you as bro to bro is that--"Try as much as possible not to be arrested at the brothel whenever there's a police rading". Cuz that alone would definitely do the exposure for you  |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 9:00pm On Apr 14, 2025 |
Rexymania:Nothing All what she does is to paint lips |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Nobody: 9:01pm On Apr 14, 2025 |
Sonnobax15:Are you sure of what you are saying cus I always go there everytime |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by koladata(m): 7:19am On Apr 15, 2025 |
Don't tell her you go to brothel but let her know you are experienced and the few ladies you've had it with were not relationship based, it was casual sex Do not mention the number just say "a few", no matter the pressure DO NOT mention the numbers insist on the fact that you don't know but it's just a few. Find a way to stop going to brothel and hopefully when you get married you may become satisfied with your wife and stop visiting brothel but if you still feel the urge to visit brothel , my brother visit o , a man releases millions of sperm per minute , that is the way the designer had done it , so you have to release those sperm , but reduce the brothel thing till you find a way to completely stop because to be honest no reasonable MAN should feel comfortable sleeping with a woman that sleeps with multiple men in a day . |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Exceed15: 8:48am On Apr 15, 2025 |
She will use it against you later on.. Take your secret to the grave. |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by baralatie(m): 11:48am On Apr 15, 2025 |
Double0h7:You know am before ni |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by baralatie(m): 11:50am On Apr 15, 2025 |
Sonnobax15:As in ehn Na God save how many times wey police dey raid hotel Lord thank you for your mercies o |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by baralatie(m): 11:52am On Apr 15, 2025 |
duduade:Dem talk say Dem neva dey knack themselves |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by baralatie(m): 11:53am On Apr 15, 2025 |
Inshame3:Omo pray you no jam police hotel raiding |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by WhistlingB: 6:21pm On Apr 16, 2025 |
If you're serious about marrying her and building something real, then yes — tell her. But do it wisely. Here's how: Pick the right moment — private, calm, mature setting. Be honest but gentle — no graphic details. Just say: "There are things about my past that I haven't told you. I made choices I'm not proud of, including visiting brothels. But that chapter is closed. I'm committed to you and to building something honest and clean." Let her ask questions if she wants, but don’t lie or defend. Just speak from your heart. Inshame3:https://whistlingbeautiful.substack.com/publish/posts/detail/161401530?referrer=%2Fpublish%2Fhome 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Reveal My Past To My Wife by Kobojunkie: 6:36pm On Apr 16, 2025 |
Inshame3:On the other thread, you said you took sniper to kill yourself only days ago but somehow that didn't work. Why are you now planning to get married?  |
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