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Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by correctguy101(m): 4:21pm On May 02, 2025
TossTos:
If any one say it is a lie , when e hit him or her in another flavor , e go understand ad turned a counselor like this one here.
Funny thing is...

Na true and na lie at the same timegrin

See ehn, experiences must be different. So try love, if e no work, go for contractual union if you see anyone ready for something similar. It does not even mean that too would work...

In fact, try both and if them no work, just kukuma stay on ya lonesome... grin

Such union is never for everyone...

Just look for whatever rocks ya boat and leave all these frustrated motivational speakers with their nonsense.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by press9jatv(op): 4:24pm On May 02, 2025
Very true oooo
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by nwirinedu(m): 4:24pm On May 02, 2025
Offcourse its an industry.

What a typical day looks like for those who Japa to the middle east. Therapeutic.

Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Funkyswagzz(m): 4:32pm On May 02, 2025
Make sure you prepare to leave that woman after her child birth since its contract and investment
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 4:39pm On May 02, 2025
correctguy101:
➜Funny thing is...Na true and na lie at the same timegrin See ehn, experiences must be different. So try love, if e no work, go for contractual union if you see anyone ready for something similar. It does not even mean that too would work... In fact, try both and if them no work, just kukuma stay on ya lonesome... grin Such union is never for everyone... Just look for whatever rocks ya boat and leave all these frustrated motivational speakers with their nonsense.
If dem ask you, "what is love?" now, you go begin to dey vomit gobbledegook! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Better engage your brain! Even love is a contract... spelled out, you are better able to gauge its progress. If you leave it up in the air, you will never realize when it actually abandoned you. undecided

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sY4rhvB9LE?si=JFuVoNp26NzQBt-B
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by 2mch(m): 4:39pm On May 02, 2025
Marry who you love o. You don’t want to wake up for the rest of your life seeing someone you don’t care for. You will hate yourself and the person. Like the person you marry very well and be attracted to them. Miserable people are the ones always giving advice looking for others to suffer with them. If you intend to marry for a long time, that’s a very long time to be unhappy and it will end in divorce.

See Prince Charles and Camilla for example. If you marry who you no love, everything the person go do go dey irritate you. Even the children from the union go de vex you. No try am o. Whatever investment or contract you think you will get from it, una go kiiii una sef before the thing make money.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by eastOFwest(m):
PRINCESSFCFANSs:
OK ,


some people when they are frustrated will just be looking for how to make others share from their frustrations.




by sharing negative advice.




if love does not work for you ,



it will work for others.



For God so love the world.



God Is Love.



Princess Faith Chukwu.
Whether you like it a not, marriage is a CONTRACT, that is why you sign papers. Why go into one of the biggest contracts that you will ever make in your life, just because of love? Love is just a feeling, the same way the effects of alcohol and drugs are just feelings too. Yes, love usually takes a longer time to fade, but just like alcohol and drugs, you will have to face the consequences of your good or bad choices when the effects fade away.

It's best to first actually understand what marriage means and the responsibilities, duties and expectations of each partner. With your eyes fully open, you can then choose a partner that is suitable. Marrying someone just because the person is fine and you love them is a wild gamble and can be a recipe for disaster. Most women understand this, that is why they will marry a man who they are not attracted to but they feel can provide for them. But men....
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Chief2410: 4:51pm On May 02, 2025
The man said the bitter truth.love is a fleeting emotion. It changes with time,so not something you can bank on.These days I see even dating as investment that you have to go in base on interest.Both parties involved must be willing to contribute equally to make it work. If both are hugely invested,they would think twice before breaking up cos there is something to lose.Guys especially should have this mindset even from dating phase before it graduates into marriage.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by LordIsaac(m): 4:51pm On May 02, 2025
Kobojunkie:
You mean desire -- chemically induced attraction, right? grin
Empathy, care, seeking the others' well-being in all ways conceivable...
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by judewrites: 4:52pm On May 02, 2025
Love is the foundation of any marriage....

Once people marry out of love, the union becomes baseless.

A little shaking and it crumbles.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Exceed15: 4:52pm On May 02, 2025
This is it

Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Snowx: 4:52pm On May 02, 2025
shawnfamous:
If Una nor fit type am, make Una rest.


I don come again.
Don't mind them..lol
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by shinaola21(m): 4:54pm On May 02, 2025
🌺

Op we all know,why do you think men open shop for a woman??

Isn't it because he wants the other hand to be working and supportive so to me that's an investment

Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 4:56pm On May 02, 2025
LordIsaac:
➜Empathy, care, seeking the others' well-being in all ways conceivable...
Storyland... In how many relationships where the word "love" is thrown around can you honestly say that you have identified any or all of these in action? 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Maeve7: 4:59pm On May 02, 2025
Lovenorth:
Ok I understand, let's marry based on hate. I hear you
grin
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by femi4: 5:02pm On May 02, 2025
press9jatv:
Marriage is an investment and a contract, Don’t marry based on love - Nigeria Man explains

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLKchD08XO8
All relationship/friendship are Investments

They get attached to you for one gain or the other

Free ride, assignments help, financial help etc
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Bananapill: 5:03pm On May 02, 2025
press9jatv:
Marriage is an investment and a contract, Don’t marry based on love - Nigeria Man explains

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLKchD08XO8
Lots of this kind do not know what love is.
Dem think say love na doking. That's what they know love for.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:04pm On May 02, 2025
Bananapill:
Lots of this kind do not know what love is. Dem think say love na doking. That's what they know love for.
Tell us... what is love? huh
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by SeriouslySense(m): 5:05pm On May 02, 2025
Love, Love Love, marry for love. Marry because you want to see the best of others, not because you want to gain. If you both want the best for each other it could be potentially potential grin

I understand it like this hopefully i can practise what i wrote grin grin, bring value to your partner, it could be gentleness, a listening ear, good advise, a shoulder to lean on etc cheesy. It does not have to be money.

Its actually an investment, but you determine what kind of investment you are making abi
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:06pm On May 02, 2025
SeriouslySense:
➜Love, Love Love, marry for love.
➜Marry because you want to see the best of others, not because you want to gain. If you both want the best for each other it could be pontentially potential grin
What is love? undecided

How many of the people you know are married for the best of the other and not for their selfish gain? undecided
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by press9jatv(op): 5:08pm On May 02, 2025
Bananapill:
Lots of this kind do not know what love is.
Dem think say love na doking. That's what they know love for.
hmm 🤔. Their love get k-leg
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by press9jatv(op): 5:08pm On May 02, 2025
femi4:
All relationship/friendship are Investments

They get attached to you for one gain or the other

Free ride, assignments help, financial help etc
yes. Financial aspects of it is the most important thing in the family
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by SeriouslySense(m): 5:09pm On May 02, 2025
Love is kind, not self seeking, patient, enduring, love is costly, money cannot buy it.

Love builds people up. Personally, i think moeny is good too, seriously. But love is better. It's good to have good finances, good planning, like that. The lack of money can destroy a loving marriage.

At the end of the day, when we are old, the memories we create is all we are left with, though it may become fleeting and a fading reality, vaporizing to dementia.

When we die as many have reported from encountering near-death experiences, they often say, they became aware of their life experiences, from birth to their death bed, they see the people they held dear, they see their parents, their partners, their children. At the end of the day, when we die, we only cling to love itself.

So it seems love is everything, although this paper money or digital money seem so relevant.

Kobojunkie:
What is love? undecided

How many of the people you know are married for the best of the other and not for their selfish gain? undecided
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:18pm On May 02, 2025
SeriouslySense:
➜ Love is kind, not self seeking, patient, enduring, love is costly, money cannot buy it.
➜ Love builds people up. Personally, i think moeny is good too, seriously. But love is better. It's good to have good finances, good planning, like that. The lack of money can destroy a loving marriage.
You said, "Marry for love." So, tell us, "How many men do you know of who married not for self-seeking purposes?" undecided

2. Again, you said, "Marry for love," and this is how you define this marriage love of yours. So, tell us, "How many men do you know of that married their women to patiently and selflessly build them—dreams, goals, and ambitions in life—up ?" Your definition of love does not meet up with even your cultural ideas of marriage, if you are honest with yourself at least. undecided
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:19pm On May 02, 2025
SeriouslySense:
➜At the end of the day, when we are old, the memories we create is all we are left with, though it may become fleeting and a fading reality, vaporizing to dementia.
When we die as many have reported from encountering near-death experiences, they often say, they became aware of their life experiences, from birth to their death bed, they see the people they held dear, they see their parents, their partners, their children. At the end of the day, when we die, we only cling to love itself.
People like you, who are most disconnected from reality itself, are usually some of the loudest when it comes to talking of things you know absolutely nothing about. grin
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by nigeriansamurai(m): 5:21pm On May 02, 2025
PRINCESSFCFANSs:
OK ,


some people when they are frustrated will just be looking for how to make others share from their frustrations.




by sharing negative advice.




if love does not work for you ,



it will work for others.



For God so love the world.



God Is Love.



Princess Faith Chukwu.
bullshit talk it goes both ways if you like go marry narcissist because you love am
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by SeriouslySense(m): 5:22pm On May 02, 2025
I am not denying we mostly marry for gains, i am just saying why do i have to program myself in a certain way, when its also posssbile to marry for love. You are not wrong either.

Irrespective of what anyone says, Love is everything and it is only love that will be relevant in death and in the beyond.

Kobojunkie:
People like you, who are most disconnected from reality itself, are usually some of the loudest when it comes to talking of things you know absolutely nothing about. grin
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:24pm On May 02, 2025
PRINCESSFCFANSs:
➜OK , some people when they are frustrated will just be looking for how to make others share from their frustrations. by sharing negative advice. if love does not work for you , it will work for others.
➜ For God so love the world. God Is Love. Princess Faith Chukwu.
What is love? undecided

2. So, this God's love is the same as man's love in marriage, abi? Can you at least define it? undecided
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Emma1Oj(m): 5:25pm On May 02, 2025
Still don't marry a woman that will poison you or hit object on your head while at sleep.. Neither should you marry a man that will use punches and back flit punchor your face to death.

Always look out for redflag.. Don't say I will cope or talk him/her out of it.. You cannot change a full grown adults
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by SeriouslySense(m): 5:26pm On May 02, 2025
That is part of the investment, if one wants peace of mind very important, some people are not fit for partners.

Emma1Oj:
Still don't marry a woman that will poison you or hit object on you head while at sleep.. Neither should you marry a man that will use punches and back flit punchor your face to death.
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Kobojunkie: 5:28pm On May 02, 2025
SeriouslySense:
➜I am not denying we mostly marry for gains, i am just saying why do i have to program myself in a certain way, when its also posssbile to marry for love.
➜You are not wrong either. Irrespective of what anyone says, Love is everything and it is only love that will be relevant in death and in the beyond.
1. What proof do you have that it is possible to marry for love—kind, not self-seeking, patient, enduring, love is costly, money cannot buy it? If the majority of what you know is marriage for selfish reasons, then tell us, have you ever in fact witnessed or experienced this marriage for love that you speak of? undecided

2. You claimed that people should or can marry for love, and you define love as a selfless act that focuses on the benefit of others rather than on self. And I am asking you how you came about the conclusion that men can, in fact, marry for this love? undecided
Re: Marriage Is An Investment And A Contract, Don’t Marry Based On Love - Man(vid) by Awesome01(m): 5:28pm On May 02, 2025
This advice is dumb in my own opinion but worthy of further thought.

My advice would be that the "Till death do us part" in marriages should be deleted. Let marriages be renewable by 5 or 10 years.

If both still want themselves after expiration, they renew or re-wed and continue. But if not, court decides on custody of children and financial support from who doesn't have custody and every body part as amicably, mowing on with their individual lives.
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