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press9jatv:
This Nigeria counselor spoke well here

He OVER SPOKE WELL.
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Brandiebird, do take a look at how to create one. https://www.wikihow.com/Relationship-Contract

I would recommend it to anyone considering entering into a serious relationship where peace of mind and maturity are a requirement.

Kobojunkie:
Brandiebird, do take a look at how to create one. https://www.wikihow.com/Relationship-Contract

I would recommend it to anyone considering entering into a serious relationship where peace of mind and maturity are a requirement.

It makes sense but I'm struggling with its practicality. It seems like something a neuro-divergent person like Sheldon would come up with. A prenuptial agreement sounds better to me. But this could be the bases for the prenuptial. Thanks for sharing and even making me think about it!

Kobojunkie:
Brandiebird, do take a look at how to create one. https://www.wikihow.com/Relationship-Contract

I would recommend it to anyone considering entering into a serious relationship where peace of mind and maturity are a requirement.

Yo! I spoke too soon! Having looked at it. I think it's a genius idea! I wasn't thinking about the practical devision of responsibility! I was stuck on the moral stuff. Thank you Kobo! I love the way your brain works sometimes 😂

Kobojunkie:
Pay attention to your definition of love there. My question to you is simple! Even in situations where the word is thrown around, can you realistically give us the number of relationships you have encountered or experienced where those attributes are found in the pure sense? For instance, how many men do you know of who married their wives based on a desire to seek in all conceivable ways, her well-being?

People keep saying things like marriage does not work without love, and when asked to define "love", they put forth ideas that defy even human nature. And I wonder, when folks will begin to realistically approach these things; dump the fairy tale delusions to embrace reality as they ought to.

Marriage is, in and of itself, a selfish endeavor; those who marry do so to claim a higher level of possession over the object of their desire. Both men and women enter into marriage for selfish reasons— they don't want to share the one they love with others. So, saying that marriage is founded on a selfless idea is a crock of bull. 😂😂😂😂

If something is not ubiquitous, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist!

LordIsaac:
➜If something is not ubiquitous, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist!

It also doesn't mean it is possible either.

Marriage is entered into by a man and a woman who are looking to selfishly possess each other for personal gain. The man selfishly claims the woman for his own and does so so that he may benefit the most, while the woman also does the very same. To suggest that there is a selfless aspect to the union is to contradict the very reason for the union. This notion that a selfless love is involved in marriage is utter nonsense.

alizma:
Lol, he is saying the truth, why do many of you ladies want court marriage? Going to court makes it a contract and no one goes to sign a contract without interest, so whatever your interest is, that is your investment

…but they’ll deny it

Any man who marries because of love is a fool

Brandiebird:
➜Yo! I spoke too soon! Having looked at it. I think it's a genius idea! I wasn't thinking about the practical devision of responsibility! I was stuck on the moral stuff. Thank you Kobo! I love the way your brain works sometimes 😂

Like I said, it is for those who value their peace of mind, and mental health above all the stewpid dramas that may ensue during the rollercoaster that is a relationship. I no wan wait until I almost murder someone abeg! Me...I like to know when it is OK for me to simply walk out and not have to look back 😂😂😂😂😂

Kobojunkie:
It also doesn't mean it is possible either.

Marriage is entered into by a man and a woman who are looking to selfishly possess each other for personal gain. The man selfishly claims the woman for his own and does so so that he may benefit the most, while the woman also does the very same. To suggest that there is a selfless aspect to the union is to contradict the very reason for the union. This notion that a selfless love is involved in marriage is utter nonsense.

If it were impossible, Scriptures will not affirm it. I have seen love, and I have been loved...and I have loved. Love someone today!

LordIsaac:
➜ If it were impossible, Scriptures will not affirm it. I have seen love, and I have been loved...and I have loved. Love someone today!

You religious goons too dey lie! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Which scripture book affirms what, abeg? Which of your scriptures definitively states that marriage goes hand in hand with selflessness and marriage cannot exist without this thing called selflessness? Na Buddhists note abi na Aphrodite love you dey claim? Nothing selfless about those.

I mean, think! How many men do you know of who have ever married a woman, not for their pleasure but her own?

Pacyrus:
He OVER SPOKE WELL.
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yes sooo

spiceadole:
Sad as it may sound,he is right.

Love is not enough

yes . Everything is transactional now

press9jatv:
yes . Everything is transactional now

. It has always been transactional.

Hmmmm..Is okay ooo

Kobojunkie:
You religious goons too dey lie! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Which scripture book affirms what, abeg? Which of your scriptures definitively states that marriage goes hand in hand with selflessness and marriage cannot exist without this thing called selflessness? Na Buddhists note abi na Aphrodite love you dey claim? Nothing selfless about those.

I mean, think! How many men do you know of who have ever married a woman, not for their pleasure but her own?

1 Corinthians 13. Jesus is Lord!

LordIsaac:
➜1 Corinthians 13.
➜ Jesus is Lord!

First of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
. It has always been transactional.

before it wasn't like that

Kobojunkie:
First of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

1 Corinthians 13.

press9jatv:
before it wasn't like that

It has always been like that— there is no before.

LordIsaac:
1 Corinthians 13.

Again, first of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
. This gobbledegook makes absolutely no sense!

Marriage came to quantify the amount of value a human life holds since birth? This value is only realized by those who enter into a marriage. Are you people incapable of reasoning outside of that damaged religious box your brainwashed minds have been carved from, or what?

The captivation of a soul in its hole.
English descriptives is not life.
Get married or try dying in one.....
Carry that cross or shut up

Faposky95:
➜The captivation of a soul in its hole. English descriptives is not life. Get married or try dying in one..... Carry that cross or shut up

I see you only speak blah, blah blah!

Kobojunkie:
Again, first of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2Tim. 3 Verses 16 to 17 [16] All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

Kobojunkie:
If dem ask you, "what is love?" now, you go begin to dey vomit gobbledegook! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Better engage your brain! Even love is a contract... spelled out, you are better able to gauge its progress. If you leave it up in the air, you will never realize when it actually abandoned you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sY4rhvB9LE?si=JFuVoNp26NzQBt-B

This over sabi man, you don quote me with una nonsense...

What kinda nonsense question is that? Who'd be so bored to be fixated on somebody else's definition of love? Or of anything in fact? Probably not this Daddy

Love like many others mean different things to different people oga...

If you can't even understand something as elementary as that and are just fixated in whatever definition you pick from somewhere and hold to be true, that's ya problem...
I no even watch ya video as IMHO, it's probably nonsense... This ancestor doesn't need anything outside our Royal self to define whatever we feel?


Oya slide comot go front...

correctguy101:
➜ This over sabi man, you don quote me with una nonsense...
What kinda nonsense question is that? Who'd be so bored to be fixated on somebody else's definition of love? Or of anything in fact? Probably not this Daddy Love like many others mean different things to different people oga... If you can't even understand something as elementary as that and are just fixated in whatever definition you pick from somewhere and hold to be true, that's ya problem... I no even watch ya video as IMHO, it's probably nonsense... This ancestor doesn't need anything outside our Royal self to define whatever we feel? Oya slide comot go front...

Clearly, this is literally an admission of having no clear, unambiguous idea of what love is. However, he pretends to be certain that this concept he is ignorant of, is what marriage is built on. Can you imagine that? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

LordIsaac:
➜2Tim. 3 Verses 16 to 17 [16] All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

Again, first of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
Again, first of all, Paul the Jew, the one who is supposed to have written that letter, said absolutely nothing of what you claim. If this marriage love is indeed as selfless as you pretend, then ask yourself, why did Paul the Jew forgo partaking in it? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I hope you also don't mean the same Jesus Christ of Israel, who also didn't partake in this selfless act of marriage love you supposedly described? Think! Think!! Think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Jesus is Lord!

SeriouslySense:
Love will always exist, its the central theme of creation itself, its the essence of the Creator.

And there have been loving families and homes, and it will continue to exist.

It does not matter what we think, Love is what brought us to reality.

I am not referring to sexual intercourse though sexual intercourse is potent, I am talking about love, which is a shared experience of kindness, selflessness, Joy, patinece, etc

You're quoting *Walt Disney!* relationships have never been what you quoted. It's been a contract since the dawn of time.

Love has always been a contract between two ✌ families, one or two tribes, and investors! It was never selflessness and it will never be selfless.

Its a contract.

The problem with our generation is we gaslight each other! There are no clear lines or guidance. In 2025 we have polyamorous or whatever the spelling is!

People can do whatever they want and still call it a relationship. Man has multiple partners (male or female) and the female is the same!

How is this not selfishness promax?!

Love has always been self serving.

PRINCESSFCFANSs:
OK ,


some people when they are frustrated will just be looking for how to make others share from their frustrations.




by sharing negative advice.




if love does not work for you ,



it will work for others.



For God so love the world.



God Is Love.



Princess Faith Chukwu.

You never chop correct breakfast before either in relationship nor marriage.
I prayed you don't learn in the hard way.