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In my own opinion, na ugliness be her major problem

I believe this your motivational talk would be useful if you actually commented on the original post. We don't need this here chief

Magnificenttop:
Well, wealth or death, good or bad can come for anyone at anywhere and at anytime regardless of age, education, race or status, that is why you shouldn't lose faith in God because he raises from the dunghill to the palace overnight, nor should you have faith in your own strength because anyone can fall from grace to the dunghill overnight. Things like going to school are good but while they create some opportunity, they're not a guarantee to success. Going to school itself doesn't guarantee education, nor does education guarantee success. So yeah, everyone is in the race of success and never look down on yourself because anyone can win or lose the race regardless of school or whatever else.
Another thing about life is, no matter your story, there are others out there with worse story, this should give you hope and motivate you. Don't wait till you see people at 50yrs with no life before you realize you're still at an advantage, people at 65yrs out of jail, where do they start from? You're still young at 23yrs with lots of opportunities before you.
So, start taking steps to greatness and stop complaining, start working on yourself, start acting and don't stay idle, work hard, work smart, set high goals and work towards them, be motivated, have hope, and most importantly, have faith in God.

ExAngel007:
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Who she dey tell abi na ask? No be her mother and father she supposed to dey query on all these things?

Jagermeister:
She no get job but she can smoke weed

I swear, she is a chain smoker judging by the very dark lips.

So sad and scary but she’s going through what millions of Nigerians are currently going through. No blame here because she’s your sister, daughter and cousin. Can someone give my NGO a clue on how to reach her. 10k for a Nairalander who can do this task. Pm me privately for her privacy. Thanks 🙏

Elusive001:
She is not even bothered with the most important thing in this life, the salvation of her soul. If she us not bothered about this number 1 thing, then she is right to say that she has no purpose. To be born again gives one the right purpose of life. It's only CHRIST JESUS can make her understand her purpose in life.

What a very stewpid comment this is!

Okay... Don Jazzy, over to you.

Credit her akant with what you gave to that other chick.

tommy589:
Some are late starters in life, it is not too late to give your life a new direction

She tell you say na late start be her problem? Her mother came to pray instead of waking her up to ask her what she intends to do, implying the parents are unable to afford much. Yet, you think a late start is the issue?

I love her sincerity....it is never too late for her sha....some of us started doing business at 35....she has got time....make she just pray first, commit her steps to God then go out....she will make it

So anyone that has that type of lips are smoker ❓ U don finish i swear

Jagermeister:
She no get job but she can smoke weed

Jagermeister:
She no get job but she can smoke weed

How do you know she smokes weed?

The black lips?

No now, that is not enough proof

Jagermeister:
She no get job but she can smoke weed

U notice the lips. Someone they wud av over piped nd toss back to the street...

No pontential suitor all these while! She should work hard to improve every aspect of her life. Some girls are not just it!

I blame the mum!

bluefilm:
In my own opinion, na ugliness be her major problem

Nah... It's just lack of drive and ambition.

When people who have not put in any effort into hustling or networking complain like this, the issue becomes quite obvious.


They feel entitled and think the universe owes them everything in life.

In this era of tech.....and endless online legit opportunities?

tobore4u:
Run from all form of betting to avoid impending doom

You no quick talk,I don stage one million this morning.. Abi make I cashout? What do you think?

Majesty33:
I swear, she is a chain smoker judging by the very dark lips.

I see... So, the following don't smoke:

Elon Musk
Cubana Chief Priest
Phyno
Burna Boy
Odumodu Black
Portable
Naira Marley
Davido
Wizkid
Etc

Though everyone's path is unique

1. Infancy (0–2 years)

Learning to walk and talk
Developing basic trust (attachment to caregivers)

2. Childhood (3–12 years)

Learning basic life skills (reading, writing, speaking)
Building social skills and friendships
Discovering personal interests and hobbies

3. Adolescence / Teenage (13–19 years)

Developing identity and self-awareness
Completing secondary school education
Building emotional and social independence
Exploring talents and career interests

4. Early Adulthood (20–35 years)

Completing higher education or vocational training
Starting a career or business
Building strong relationships or starting a family
Gaining financial independence
Discovering personal purpose or mission

5. Midlife (36–55 years)

Advancing in career or business
Raising children or mentoring others
Building assets (e.g., home, land, investments)
Refining personal values and legacy goals
Facing midlife reflection or transition

6. Late Adulthood (56–75 years)

Enjoying the fruits of long-term labor
Transitioning into retirement
Becoming a community leader or mentor
Focusing on health, travel, and relationships

7. Senior Years (76+)

Sharing wisdom and life lessons
Living simply and intentionally
Leaving a lasting legacy (family, spiritual, societal)
Preparing for end-of-life gracefully


Another version
Fela Durotoye's Life Stages
(4 Quarters of 25 Years)

1. First Quarter (0–25 years) – “Preparation Stage”

Focus: Learning, discovering identity, building foundations
Key Task: Acquiring values, education, discipline
Quote: “This is the season to know God and know yourself.”

2. Second Quarter (26–50 years) – “Manifestation Stage”

Focus: Career, business, marriage, parenting, leadership
Key Task: Applying what you learned to create impact
Quote: “Your time to build and shine.”

3. Third Quarter (51–75 years) – “Influence Stage”

Focus: Mentoring, guiding, managing legacy
Key Task: Pouring wisdom into others, strategic thinking
Quote: “You’re no longer climbing; you’re guiding others up.”

4. Fourth Quarter (76–100 years) – “Immortality Stage”

Focus: Rest, storytelling, legacy preservation
Key Task: Reflecting, handing over batons
Quote: “What will the world remember you for?”

Another version comes from Apostle Joshua Selman, who describes life in 4 seasons of 25 years:

Morning (0–25) – Preparation

Afternoon (26–50) – Manifestation

Evening (51–75) – Reflection

Night (76–100) – Transition

She needs a Councilor and a mentor. I understand her, but it's not enough to be sorry for herself, she can learn a skill and be prayerful about her life too. By the grace of God and with his mercies with all the many internal battles I faced while growing up, I graduated at 24. God is my helper

She has a very bright future but she's allowing the devil to minister to her, let her learn coding or how to fix computer and phones this thought of emptiness will be gone.

tobore4u:
Run from all form of betting to avoid impending doom

Soft Advice

Jagermeister:
She no get job but she can smoke weed

So, what exactly is the correlation between both?!

Did the following start smoking after they got employed or started making money?

Elon Musk
Cubana Chief Priest
Phyno
Burna Boy
Odumodu Black
Portable
Naira Marley
Davido
Wizkid
Etc..

Abi, is smoking meant solely for those working, inventing things, or running businesses?!!

joinnow:
Though everyone's path is unique

1. Infancy (0–2 years)

Learning to walk and talk
Developing basic trust (attachment to caregivers)

2. Childhood (3–12 years)

Learning basic life skills (reading, writing, speaking)
Building social skills and friendships
Discovering personal interests and hobbies

3. Adolescence / Teenage (13–19 years)

Developing identity and self-awareness
Completing secondary school education
Building emotional and social independence
Exploring talents and career interests

4. Early Adulthood (20–35 years)

Completing higher education or vocational training
Starting a career or business
Building strong relationships or starting a family
Gaining financial independence
Discovering personal purpose or mission

5. Midlife (36–55 years)

Advancing in career or business
Raising children or mentoring others
Building assets (e.g., home, land, investments)
Refining personal values and legacy goals
Facing midlife reflection or transition

6. Late Adulthood (56–75 years)

Enjoying the fruits of long-term labor
Transitioning into retirement
Becoming a community leader or mentor
Focusing on health, travel, and relationships

7. Senior Years (76+)

Sharing wisdom and life lessons
Living simply and intentionally
Leaving a lasting legacy (family, spiritual, societal)
Preparing for end-of-life gracefully


Another version
Fela Durotoye's Life Stages
(4 Quarters of 25 Years)

1. First Quarter (0–25 years) – “Preparation Stage”

Focus: Learning, discovering identity, building foundations
Key Task: Acquiring values, education, discipline
Quote: “This is the season to know God and know yourself.”

2. Second Quarter (26–50 years) – “Manifestation Stage”

Focus: Career, business, marriage, parenting, leadership
Key Task: Applying what you learned to create impact
Quote: “Your time to build and shine.”

3. Third Quarter (51–75 years) – “Influence Stage”

Focus: Mentoring, guiding, managing legacy
Key Task: Pouring wisdom into others, strategic thinking
Quote: “You’re no longer climbing; you’re guiding others up.”

4. Fourth Quarter (76–100 years) – “Immortality Stage”

Focus: Rest, storytelling, legacy preservation
Key Task: Reflecting, handing over batons
Quote: “What will the world remember you for?”

Another version comes from Apostle Joshua Selman, who describes life in 4 seasons of 25 years:

Morning (0–25) – Preparation

Afternoon (26–50) – Manifestation

Evening (51–75) – Reflection

Night (76–100) – Transition

Hmmmmm 😏

All those saying go rest all need to take a chill pill too, my dear, where to spend enternity does really matters, no be matter of go rest be this.

AmazingELixir:




Hmmmmmmmmm! Folks are passing through a whole lot.

Feel sorry for her, atleast diswan is self aware and wants better.

Complaining and doing online tears won't solve a damn thing...!

Successful people like Nathaniel Bassey, Sabinus, Brain Jotter, Mark Angel, etc, faced worst things at that age.


The biggest drawback many will face in life won't be unfortunate or poor family background... It is that mental refusal to forge ahead and find your path.


What is crippling some youths today is Mental Laziness... The dearth of ideas and drive to chase excellence, coupled with the inability to leave comfort zones.


Just ask people like this lady how much effort she has put into networking, creating ideas, applying for jobs, hustling, etc, and you would be shocked that they have not even scratched the surface.



Some ladies actually have the sole aim of getting into relationships or marriage as their major way out of poverty and responsibility.

But she dey gv bj

Ablesam171:
I hope you're not in a relationship or thinking of going into a relationship? Because you don't deserve one.
At 23 many were still jambites, some were still in their father's house playing PlayStation (boys), some have not even figured out what they want for themselves even some have not even started figuring out themselves so take a chill and look for ways of improving yourself.
If any guy try mistakingly toast dis one na liability promax ooo

E go take God's intervention for a woman wey don sabi the service of a man to think right. Even if u help her right, as I see am she no get focus.

okomile:
Pray well oooooo

Pray which well? So an unfortunate man with money should come take her out of poverty with zero interest in developing herself? You ladies are really funny, someone with zero skills instead of you to say go learn a skill , intern under someone for some years and then break out you say go and pray? So that a. mu mu man can come and take her out of poverty. I don't blame women for this way of thought i blame men who allow irresponsible women go through life with zero accountability and responsibilities as qn adult.

That is a stagnant life, it happens to people most times, but it is good that your sense quickly think about it. Pray and work towards keeping yourself busy with something before depression will set in. Engage yourself with people that matters not irrelevant people, pray for people that will stear the ship of your life to the glorious sea port, without demanding for anything in return.
Change location if it warrant it and God will help you.

Look at her eye balls like wike own, maybe she dey smoke igbo too

Yeye


Lack godly parents too

A failed mother using prayer to cover face, praying for imaginary helper to locate her daughter.

Elusive001:
She is not even bothered with the most important thing in this life, the salvation of her soul. If she us not bothered about this number 1 thing, then she is right to say that she has no purpose.

To be born again gives one the right purpose of life. It's only CHRIST JESUS can make her understand her purpose in life.

You need psychiatric evaluation