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Maeve7:
➜And the wife who is providing for the time being has to do everything else alone too?

Maeve7:
And the wife who is providing for the time being has to do everything else alone too?

Kobojunkie:
The traditional model actually does not suggest any such arrangement. Again, I blame women who give up their ability to critically reason every moment of their own lives while in marriage.

Love800:
➜No, its not like dat. It depends on the husband(the type of partner she feel he is).
➜ If i be guy wey dey up-and-doing, proactive and taking action to see things fall in place for my family, why won't she be gingered or motivated to help! Its all about the signs. And trust me, once she notices the positives in you, she will be your shield!

Kobojunkie:
The traditional system is rigid in its requirement that the man remain the provider throughout the marriage. The moment a man ceases to be the provider, what he has is no longer a marriage under the traditional marriage system, but something else.

2. So long as you are unemployed and not bringing money into the household, you are not a provider and hence not covered under the traditional marriage system. So, please stop yarning bullsheet!

Love800:
➜Marriages are modernised now a kind of.
➜Its now partnership. Who traditional or basic marriage help?... Both of us(husband/wife) are putting heads together in this.
➜ But when things are becoming tensed, a man assumes all the responsibilities himself!

Love800:
Marriages are modernised now a kind of. Its now partnership. Who traditional or basic marriage help?... Both of us(husband/wife) are putting heads together in this. But when things are becoming tensed, a man assumes all the responsibilities himself!

GloriousGbola:
So I had this friend who married a very very very smart and fine woman. Large age gap like 8 or more years. He married her as a virgin.

We became close family friends.

But my guy was a proto redpill maga guy before it was mainstream. And he unfortunately made bad moves at work. His wife actually pushed some buttons in her consulting role and got him a new job but he fked it up terribly. Summary they were living together she was paying all the bills and the guy was insisting on hot food and all that. Theres a lot more. All the man with no job imposing on breadwinner wife until things came to a head. Anyway they are separated now. The woman is doing amazingly well and the guy has just deprecated. It is really sad. Anyway she apparently really liked sex and since no more prick available she had to buy a toy. You women replacing us in more ways than one

Bigger, more penetrative and lasts longer

Kobojunkie:
Bullsheet! Equal partner marriages can be traced as far back as 437 BC in Rome, that is approximately 2500 years ago.

2. The only reason a man can assert himself as head/provider over the woman in marriage is that the traditional marriage configuration insists on this being the case, and compliance is necessary to maintain this status. Once you are no longer in compliance with the rules of traditional marriage, you are no longer married under the traditional marriage system, and are no longer the head/provider in the household.

3. Look, that maybe all and good in the man's imagination; however, the moment a man formerly subscribed to marriage under the traditional marriage system becomes unemployed or incapable of fulfilling his role as provider/head of the household, he ceases to be the head/provider; he needs then to occupy different roles from that which he formerly did prior to his demotion.

bukatyne:
@ bold:

Love800:
Yes na. What do you expect!
Seeing my ambition to put back my family in a place of zenith(comfort), she will be encouraged to help me. Her concern will grow, doing bookkeeping and monitoring my/our progress!

Love800:
Did you read my last line?

If, you need information, ask questions. Stop loitering at the corner!

bukatyne:
Relegating means you think household tasks are beneath him; fine.

So I ask; if this man who thinks chores are beneath him loses his source of income, what is his usefulness in the marriage? What other values is he bringing to the marriage at that point.

Maeve7:
Ok, no relegating to domestic partner. What else do you guys bring to the table?

➜I'm not in the best position to answer this, sadly. I don't have anything to bring to anybody's table again. I hope married men and others still willing to get married can answer you.

Acidosis:
I'm not in the best position to answer this, sadly. I don't have anything to bring to anybody's table again. I hope married men and others still willing to get married can answer you.

emmaodet:


Bro, you no dey marry again?

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmm
I understand you bro.
Really understand you.
The new generation of men are likely not marriage inclined anyway.
A sizeable percentage of modern women are highly risky investment for most men.
How do you invest your time, money, effort etc in something that can easily work out of your life for flimsy excuses? She is tired, lost interest, highly unfaithful/cheats, paternity fraud and God bless you she is financially more stable than you, then you have a woman rubbing shoulder with you in the house, disrespectful, insultive and unremorsefully unsubmissive

emmaodet:
You are not using that airtel ending with 89 again?

Esthered:
Your a strong and considerate man.

Mariangeles:
You can take all the time-off you need, but GOD is not done with you yet.

Don't write certain things off.

You don't have to think it, just loose yourself to GOD, and HE will take things from there.

GOD will perfect everything that concerns you in His time, in ways you never even thought of.

You will remember these words.

bukatyne:
Sorry about your loss. I pray that God comforts you and all she left behind.

It is well 🫂

Love800:
What do you mean by the bolded?

bukatyne:
You should read your last sentence and all your previous position on this thread.

Maeve7:
Which comfort? She is already providing.

Kobojunkie:
Enough of your ramblings already! Let other's more intelligent beings respond.

Love800:
Pls, try to always read quotes or comments well. Thanks.