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Joining the OccupyNigeria charade of 2012. I've never regretted a lot in life. But that one still hurts!

chatinent:
Mine:

1. Putting others before my life...while others actually put their lives first.

2. If you live in a public yard, you must understand that your neighbours aren't your emergency family members.

3. Avoid taking things on credit from shops close to where you live.

4. You really do not owe anyone an explanation when you say NO to their requests.

5. Learn to speak not talk.

6. You are the most important person to you in this world. Remember that.

7. Don't let them kill you!

8. Learn when it's apt to walk away.

9. Set boundaries. Whether they call it pride or whatever, they will respect you.

10. Overthinking will only get you sick. Start doing whatever you can.

11. You really do not need to recruit others to hate someone you hate with you.

12. Some relationships should be valued by you than always trying to be right always.

13. Drink clean water always. Eat good food. Sleep when needed. It's your health. If you can ensure your car gets sealed engine oil and better fuel for efficiency, how much more your body?

14. You don't need to lie to refuse lending money to someone; a simple "I don't have" is accurate. You don't need to attach a reason..damn it's your money!!

And it is also very necessary to collect collateral or they put it in paper. If they refuse, it's ok to let them fck off. A lot of borrowers have no conscience.

15. Avoid too many friends. If possible, avoid it completely. When your are becoming more successful, too many friends and you are closer to your grave.

16. It's not everyone you should bring to your house. This is very important.

17. Refuse binge drinking or eating outside. It's a one-way ticket to hell.

18. Ensure you know how to respond to peer pressure bullies.

19. Buy what you can afford...everything depreciates..



Share yours.

Thinking of buying stuff when prices come down. They never did in this part of the world

What are you doing now? Do you have a regular job or are you into business?

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

RealityKings1:
I regret alot of things but I wouldn't change anything if I had a chance to.
These experiences are part of living

Liar. You'd make some different choices. Only thing is, you'd never get the chance so might as well be content with the ones you made

My greatest regret in life is by choosing the path of HONESTY. It has cost me everything there is to it.

I would have been rich now if not for honesty

Religion and Marriage

Do I have any? 🤔
I doubt it.
Just little mistakes I learned from.

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc in a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Means you were born in the 80s...you witness IBB, as a kid, you didn't learn, witnessed brutal Abacha still didn't learn witness the highest electoral fraud in 2003 by Morris Iwu yet you believed in the zoo. Oh no. I suspected one big nyashhh brought you back and dumped you or village people connected with you without effort and remote controlled you.

At 40s...your energy will be dropping drastically... It's only your money/experience or knowledge will work for you. Physically, you are depreciating very fast and should be talking of retirement. No giving up... My own too I was stupid during my active years but I coupling back

Blitzking:
Buying luna at 15 dollars 100k naira worth when dollars was 570 or so


Not focusing on my laptop and phone sales business

Not accepting my first set of a Job in lagos

Investing 1800 dollars in a crypto project that was the profit I made by investing 400 dollars ..should have just cashed out and used the money to do other things

Not banging one of my ex in her office..well I didn't have cd on that faithful day before she moved to Uk

Buying a land that my mum advised me to buy..3plots in yewa ogun state that the man needed money for his child school fees he later died and his brother resold the land cos I hardly visited the area.

Selling my 168 solana at 10 dollars cos I needed to pay for wedding hall and other expenses cos everywhere been tight

that solana own hurts

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Chai
This one village People doings

QuinQ:
Liar. You'd make some different choices. Only thing is, you'd never get the chance so might as well be content with the ones you made

Liar? do you know me?
the experiences shape how we integrate.
what i mean by integrate in a social context, means to mix with and join society or a group of people, often adapting to their way of life

pimplucious:
Leaving Nigeria for UK for my masters immediately after graduation. Mistake.

The other way around would've been the mistake.

Sonofgod1990:
One of my scrotum is telling me to Cash dis game out

Yes cash out... Juventus game na 1 - 0. Very useless club wey dey cut game anyhow

RealityKings1:
Liar? do you know me?
the experiences are shapes how we integrate.
what i mean by integrate in a social context, means to mix with and join society or a group of people, often adapting to their way of life

All I know is, you said you wouldn't change anything. And I know that's not true. If you had a chance you'd change some things. We all would

Kobicove:
I bet you thought that one's you acquire a Master's degree you will automatically get a job as a manager in a blue chip company even though you had no work experience

Spot on. My mates we graduated together are working and are relatively okay. I think I expected too much with a foreign degree.

pimplucious:
Leaving Nigeria for UK for my masters immediately after graduation. Mistake.

Why bro

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Bro this one no be your faultooo, This one na your village people doings 😭😭😭

QuinQ:
All I know is, you said you wouldn't change anything. And I know that's not true. If you had a chance you'd change some things. We all would

Stop beingStupid

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

This is 70% my story! Was also in the UK with scholarship up to PhD level! Foolishly came back to pick up a job in a federal university in Nigeria! The salary was paltry but I believed FG will fulfill its promises made to increase ASUU's salaries, and other allowances. Alas, none was fulfilled since 2013 till date. In 2020 and 2021 we embarked on a cumulative 20 months strike without salary! Not a kobo earned! Only God saw me through! My spouse wasn't working either! As if that was not enough, IPPIS was launched with inexplicable salary amputation every month! Throughout the job, I struggled to make ends meet with the miserable salary and lived a poverty stricken life. Nothing achieved in over 10yrs! I only recently raised money to japa! That country kills talents!

However my greatest regret remains not investing in bitcoin when it debuted in 2012 or so! Wish I poured my scholarship money into it and left it there all these years! My story would have been significantly different!

Babypal:
My greatest mistake in life is impregnating a lady without knowing her properly

I can imagine. Sorry

79733139:
What are you doing now? Do you have a regular job or are you into business?

I worked for a while for an architectural consultancy firm, it folded up during Buhari's regime and I currently freelance as an architect. I just recently started investing in non architecture-related ventures in hope of building much wealth and venturing in the future into real estate.

Not taking risks in my 20s. I've had a decent job since my mid twenties, when the economy was still fair and the japa movement was yet to be popular. If I was determined to leave Naija then, I would have been able to save up and leave via study route.

The painful part was that I was well informed about travelling abroad....I knew about the process and all but I wasted my time trying to get a fully funded scholarship. I pursued getting one for about 6 years of my life before I finally gave up.

Even when I got my Masters degree @29, a good age and profile for Canada express entry, I didn't make the move. A friend of mine, that we got our Masters the same time is in Canada today as a Permanent resident. He actually told me when he started the process, but I overthought the process like how will I get POF, and I didn't do anything. It was years later I got to know that POF can actually be arranged.

In my 20s, I was risk averse. I knew I wanted to leave Naija, but I wanted to go on a smooth sail. I didn't want to go abroad with uncertainties, and I missed opportunities of going abroad because of not taking risks and overtinking.

Another thing was not adapting to my career path on time. I studied Electrical Engineering, but somehow found myself in Internal Audit @ 26. I refused to adapt and chart a career in Internal Audit...I stubbornly went on trying to pursue a career in engineering. I did a Masters, got engineeering certifications like COREN, NSE and NIPE but could not land an engineeering job.

I became stuck in my career for years. I couldn't apply for senior Audit roles because I did not develop myself, I also could not land engineering roles.

But I thank God, delay is not denial. After working as an Auditor for 7 years, I decided to embrace my career as an Auditor and God gave me divine speed, I got Chartered within a year. My newly acquired qualification as a Chartered Accountant, coupled with my 8+ years as an Internal Auditor, landed me a senior role within the same industry.

I am sincerely grateful to God, because I thank God I am still young to learn from my mistakes.

My advice to the younger ones, especially those still in their 20s, do not be afraid to take risks and do not overthink anything you want to do, just start.

May God grant you long life and help you find your feet again.

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

pocohantas:
Not learning to ride bicycle when I was small. Now it is hard.

Nawa oo😆😆

You can get one and try learning how to ride in your compound nah or register at a gym that has a Peloton machine — Use it to learn.

Mistakes

Working for one man for 15yrs... Very stupid

Living close to home and I laws.

Moral lesson

Start your business earlier while working and fund your business with your salary. If you can run a business, work for different companies max 3yrs each and japa.

If you marry, after wedding leave that vicinity to a whole new environment... If possible another state or another country away from your home town/village and inlaws.

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Amen bro, that was a great opportunity then.
But never loose hope boss.

OnlyChris:
I haven't, but i reduce the urge by avoiding erotic contents in films, social media etc

Deleting an app that lures you into porn do help too.You can give it a trial.

Not marry early in life has been greatest regret of lifr

Pharaoh4rin:
My greatest regret in life is by choosing the path of HONESTY. It has cost me everything there is to it.

I would have been rich now if not for honesty

Honesty is forever employees. Thank agod u did not fall for the trap

Pharaoh4rin:
My greatest regret in life is by choosing the path of HONESTY. It has cost me everything there is to it.

I would have been rich now if not for honesty

Honesty is for employees. Thank God i did not fall for the trap

I'm not sure i have any because i have always been dareful,inclined to adventure,and willing to take risk just to be enterprising.As a resolve i consider my challenges and misgiven as part of the process or the ultimate design to my purpose.Thus,NO REGRETS