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Achieverxoxo:
i regret being too serious in sch like i dont even have friends and its so sickening to feel all alone and no friends. havent ever been to a date no club no girls trip no flowers no nothing i was busy forming serious tech sis, going for tech events up and down i didnt even know people where learning skills. likeeee, i dont even have any tech skilll, no friends and now people think she has her life figured out already omo i de die in silence

Vello:
Dont marry for love, marry for value. And, one of such value is a woman that will give you peace. Not one to scatter your relationship with your mother. You can only marry against your mother's wish if it's confirmed your mum hates you.

My experience was a very bitter one. Met her in the University and tried forcing my mother to accept her. She gave birth and showed her true colours. She even told my mother her mission was to replace me with her child. Thank God for mother's prayers and fasting, I survived her.
Women are very very spiritual. They know more than they let us know they know. No man knows one woman better than another woman.
Trust your mum's intuition. Deep secret and knowledge is only natural for women. Never ever marry against her consent otherwise you might be walking into everlasting bondage.

NB: I'm not sure I support allowing your mum choose a wife for you either. Keep searching till you find one she's happy about so you don't live the rest of your life from one prayer mountain to another.
Thank you boss

Love is a fluke. It is a trap

Blitzking:
Buying luna at 15 dollars 100k naira worth when dollars was 570 or so


Not focusing on my laptop and phone sales business

Not accepting my first set of a Job in lagos

Investing 1800 dollars in a crypto project that was the profit I made by investing 400 dollars ..should have just cashed out and used the money to do other things

Not banging one of my ex in her office..well I didn't have cd on that faithful day before she moved to Uk,

Buying a land that my mum advised me to buy..3plots in yewa ogun state that the man needed money for his child school fees he later died and his brother resold the land cos I hardly visited the area.

Selling my 168 solana at 10 dollars cos I needed to pay for wedding hall and other expenses cos everywhere been tight

ManOfSon:
Joining the OccupyNigeria charade of 2012. I've never regretted a lot in life. But that one still hurts!

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Kampack:
You're not alone bro!
Yeah! I traveled to study. MSc & PhD. My PhD Supervisor and friends begged me to stay back. A friend from India (my MSc classmate in UK) particularly encouraged me to move to Canada as he was equally planning to move to Canada at the time. He successfully relocated to Canada afterwards and kept in touch with me via Facebook calls and occasional phone calls - encouraging me to do Express entry. I didn't understand the process at that time (2017), and even if I did, affording the cost of IELTS (50k) was a herculean task, as my take home pay was nothing to write home about. I had less than 40k left to saddle all home front expenditure after deducting my car loan then. Things were HARD! I bitterly regretted the move! I couldn't run anywhere for help. I couldn't even extend any money to my poor parents every month. I suffer no be small!

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Britishpea:
Amen. Long life is yours! Try to take care of your health.
However, mistakes are parts of life. Sometimes, it elongates life. There is a reason for everything. We human should begin to understand that life is circular. You could be in the UK, became successful in some ways but may have lost your life 5 years back!

pocohantas:
Not learning to ride bicycle when I was small. Now it is hard.

Akalia:
With due respect sir, you naively scuttled the life changing chance God offered you on a platter of gold.

Usually,life changing opportunity does not come by more than once in life unless providence decides to give you another chance by mercy.
Pray harder.

engrelvis:
lol. how r u? long time

Valwezzy:
Nawa oo😆😆

You can get one and try learning how to ride in your compound nah or register at a gym that has a Peloton machine — Use it to learn.

Nazgul:
It's not hard and you can still learn it. Just register in a gym that has exercise bike equipment. Practice on the equipment for a week or 2 and you're good to go.

pocohantas:
Ahhh! This would work? Never thought of it. I will try it out when I am ready to give it another shot.😃😃

chatinent:
Mine:

1. Putting others before my life...while others actually put their lives first.

2. If you live in a public yard, you must understand that your neighbours aren't your emergency family members.

3. Avoid taking things on credit from shops close to where you live.

4. You really do not owe anyone an explanation when you say NO to their requests.

5. Learn to speak not talk.

6. You are the most important person to you in this world. Remember that.

7. Don't let them kill you!

8. Learn when it's apt to walk away.

9. Set boundaries. Whether they call it pride or whatever, they will respect you.

10. Overthinking will only get you sick. Start doing whatever you can.

11. You really do not need to recruit others to hate someone you hate with you.

12. Some relationships should be valued by you than always trying to be right always.

13. Drink clean water always. Eat good food. Sleep when needed. It's your health. If you can ensure your car gets sealed engine oil and better fuel for efficiency, how much more your body?

14. You don't need to lie to refuse lending money to someone; a simple "I don't have" is accurate. You don't need to attach a reason..damn it's your money!!

And it is also very necessary to collect collateral or they put it in paper. If they refuse, it's ok to let them fck off. A lot of borrowers have no conscience.

15. Avoid too many friends. If possible, avoid it completely. When your are becoming more successful, too many friends and you are closer to your grave.

16. It's not everyone you should bring to your house. This is very important.

17. Refuse binge drinking or eating outside. It's a one-way ticket to hell.

18. Ensure you know how to respond to peer pressure bullies.

19. Buy what you can afford...everything depreciates..



Share yours.

PROPEACE:
No I mean you recent trip, is it still for study?

Sonofgod1990:
One of my scrotum is telling me to Cash dis game out

Chassypappy:
My greatest mistake is that I did not have any mistakes

Achieverxoxo:
i regret being too serious in sch like i dont even have friends and its so sickening to feel all alone and no friends. havent ever been to a date no club no girls trip no flowers no nothing i was busy forming serious tech sis, going for tech events up and down i didnt even know people where learning skills. likeeee, i don't even have any tech skilll, no friends and now people think she has her life figured out already omo i de die in silence

Kampack:
No! I went for PR. The process isn't as difficult as I thought it were. With some concerned friends who saw my sufferings and knew I've done myself a disservice by turning back after my PhD, and was also aware of the unending imbroglio between ASUU and FG, I was able to pull through. A few friends raised funds for me. I'll encourage you to move out as quickly as you can. It's not rossy abroad, but not as bad as it is in 9ja! Experiences differ though, but from my experience on both sides, I can tell you confidently that the odds are stashed more against you in 9ja - especially if you are a low income earner - in such a unproductive and unfavorable economy!

Achieverxoxo:
i regret being too serious in sch like i dont even have friends and its so sickening to feel all alone and no friends. havent ever been to a date no club no girls trip no flowers no nothing i was busy forming serious tech sis, going for tech events up and down i didnt even know people where learning skills. likeeee, i dont even have any tech skilll, no friends and now people think she has her life figured out already omo i de die in silence

Mariangeles:
What was that about, and why do you regret it?

PROPEACE:
Please bro, how do I get a guide from you on how to get out. If you are willing, I will give you my email address so you could furnish me with any info that may help me. How I survived the past years is a mystery to me, I believe God has a plan for me. Hoping to hear from you.

Achieverxoxo:
i regret being too serious in sch like i dont even have friends and its so sickening to feel all alone and no friends. havent ever been to a date no club no girls trip no flowers no nothing i was busy forming serious tech sis, going for tech events up and down i didnt even know people where learning skills. likeeee, i dont even have any tech skilll, no friends and now people think she has her life figured out already omo i de die in silence

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.