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Awon feminist lawyer. Hope she's not been facilitating some of the divorce?

Maurindo:
➜Awon feminist lawyer. Hope she's not been facilitating some of the divorce?

Are you OK at all? Is she to blame for the many problems people who come to her have in their marriages? Kai! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

When insults is being heaped on him daily how can he perform in the night? Too much nagging kills emotions/erection

Ten06:
When insults is being heaped on him daily how can he perform in the night? Too much nagging kills emotions/erection

. How come insults do not stop men from pursuing those small girls outside of their marriage?

Kobojunkie:
1. So, the woman is to blame for her hubby ignoring all of these habits before marriage, only to turn around and assert them as reasons why he would no longer sleep with her afterwards? Isn't that some sort of entrapment?

2. And just yesterday, I read someone extolling arranged marriage, declaring it the solution to finding the right marriage partner for Nigerian men. Talk about people being all over the place. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

3. Love has no place in marriage, and this lack of love is the reason why women are denied sex in marriage. Yet many a Nigerian man wails regularly over how they are not loved by their wives. 😐😐😐😐

Let's not fool ourselves. Marriage is overrated. Love, if it exists, is fickle. Those who have spent decades in it know better.

Fact is, men or women, most go into it for the wrong reasons. Often rose-tinted in the beginning. If not for procreation, I see no reason for it anymore.

But women never accept responsibility for anything.

I can only say what I have seen from a man's perspective to the topic.

The topic is from a woman's perspective.

Life of a woman is full of demands. What a life! You want a man that will be affectionate, that will provide money, that will touch you every time, that will take care of bills and family issues. Men are just humans and not gods.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

You done carry your unalloyed genetic South African ha tred come this site?
Everything is an opportunity for you people to pour opprobrium on other Africans.

Kobojunkie:
. How come insults do not stop men from pursuing those small girls outside of their marriage?

How many of the small girls insult the men?
You people will go around making your homes a war front,and will cry foul when men keep away from the lack of peaceful environments you create.

Kobojunkie:
Are you OK at all? Is she to blame for the many problems people who come to her have in their marriages? Kai! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Yeah?
She's not to be blamed ,but we can all see how she's making men the culprits.
Women and accountability are strange bedfellows.

NSNO:
Jollof bros? This is my first time hearing this. Is this what south Africans call us?

Samantha nah clown 🤡

DrAda:
If there is no love or mutual respect, if the man or woman is physically and emotionally abusive, then what exactly is the sex intended to achieve?

A woman complaining of not being touched in 2 years is a form of abuse and disrespect, reason why i call it a symptom of issues in marriage. There may be a primary cause that leads to a man or woman not wanting to consummate their marriage. I agree with you on that basis. Poor financial status in a home may lead to one party using withholding sex as a weapon. A man not having sex with his wife may also have lost physical attraction to his wife and there is a good chance he is commiting adultery.

DarkJeddi:
➜How many of the small girls insult the men? You people will go around making your homes a war front,and will cry foul when men keep away from the lack of peaceful environments you create.

Nigerians and denial ehn! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

DarkJeddi:
➜Yeah? She's not to be blamed but we can all see how she's making men the culprits. Women and accountability are strange bedfellows.

What nonsense is this? Making men culprits of what exactly? Did she suggest in her statement that her clients are only women? 🙄🙄🙄

If the man no go out there to work his ass out, na them go still complain say he is lazy. All he does is stay at home and make love
Bills have to be paid and most times these naggings kills the man's emotions

okoloto:
➜ If the man no go out there to work his ass out, na them go still complain say he is lazy. All he does is stay at home and make love Bills have to be paid and most times these naggings kills the man's emotions.

So, a hardworking Nigerian man is not expected to have sex at all with his wife? Yet many of these same men are not by any means celibate?

Akalia:
You are not entirely spot on. Take myself for example, I have being married for 5+ years and I still have a strong sexual attraction for my wife. In such on a few occasions that I cheated in the past, came to the realization that the women I slept with didn't give me the high level orgasm I usually get when I do it with my wife.
Unfortunately,my wife seems to have realized that I am sexually drawn to her strongly even after birthing two male children, she deprives me sex often citing tiredness or comes up with some flimsy excuses. She has weaponized sex.

I no gbadu cheating because of the fear of GOD and I also do not get the same high level satisfaction with other women like I do get when I do it with my wife. So it's not entirely true for all men that their sexual drive towards their partners wane with the passage of time.

Where I work I have a lot of female IT intakes and colleagues but I have never being moved to approach them discreetly with a sexual motive, just don't find them sexually attractive even through they got all the right features.

@bold:

Why do you think your wife weaponized sex?

Why would she weaponize sex if she enjoys it and looks forward to making love to you?

Kobojunkie:
BINGO!

It is well!

How can someone think a marriage without sex for years is normal or worth emulating?

DrAda:
Much ado about sex. There are many more important things to worry about like physical abuse, emotional abuse and financial abuse.

Lol..
Ada...can you have all those other factors absent but no sex and you will stay?

I say you won't!!! Women who ask if sex is food are the freakiest beings in the universe!

bukatyne:
@bold:

Why do you think your wife weaponized sex?

Why would she weaponize sex if she enjoys it and looks forward to making love to you?

Isn't it blatantly obvious?

Women don't appreciate nice men or anything they already have dominion over. Once she knows she is your weakness, she will weaponize that...it's in their nature. But pretend you don't give a fûck or even have female admirers and watch how she will go extra lengths to give you 20 orgasms in 3 mins.

I have seen this a million times and I'm sure you have...even if you play naive

luminouz:
➜Isn't it blatantly obvious? Women don't appreciate nice men or anything they already have dominion over. Once she knows she is your weakness, she will weaponize that...it's in their nature. But pretend you don't give a fûck or even have female admirers and watch how she will go extra lengths to give you 20 orgasms in 3 mins. I have seen this a million times and I'm sure you have...even if you play naive

You have seen it happen millions of times yet the same una dey always admit say na the SIMPs — nice men — dey always get the girls?

luminouz:
Lol..
Ada...can you have all those other factors absent but no sex and you will stay?

I say you won't!!! Women who ask if sex is food are the freakiest beings in the universe!

Hello luminouz, we both know how our conversations go. I will sit this one out. Hope you are good

GoodSpirit:
Most often than not they started this , you will see a woman refusing advances from the husband snd even shaming him as a s*x addict for wanting sex from his wife but the moment he now forbids to be a s*x addict to her she then begins to complain. Once you demistify s*x no one can use it to make important decisions for you in your life and that's what women don't like. They want men to be running around and worshipping them because of sex, wny man who can avoid this has become his own decision maker in life.

You get the point….

I used to be in a relationship with someone that initially gave me the impression that she didn’t really like sex, making me feel like a sex freak.

Until I decided to tone down on it and practice semen retention, na their kasala burst.

This babe worry me for sex like mad I began to wonder if it was the same person that wasn’t into sex when we started dating.

Better gaslighting oooo

lenghtinny:
➜You get the point….I used to be in a relationship with someone that initially gave me the impression that she didn’t really like sex, making me feel like a sex freak. Until I decided to tone down on it and practice semen retention, na their kasala burst. This babe worry me for sex like mad I began to wonder if it was the same person that wasn’t into sex when we started dating.
Better gaslighting oooo

Is not liking sex the same thing as not wanting sex at all?

Kobojunkie:
Is not liking sex the same thing as not wanting sex at all?

Madame defender of the female gender, I don’t have your time tonight

lenghtinny:
➜Madame defender of the female gender, I don’t have your time tonight

I am on the side of commonsense, not a gender. So, tell us why this simple question scares you?

Is not liking sex the same thing as not wanting sex at all?

Kobojunkie:
. How come insults do not stop men from pursuing those small girls outside of their marriage?

Those ones don’t insult them. They do collect their money and go

Kobojunkie:
I am on the side of commonsense, not a gender. So, tell us why this simple question scares you?

Is not liking sex the same thing as not wanting sex at all?

Shift go one side with your commonsense

It’s not about the question, it’s the fact that responding to your question is pointless

Vergovert:
If your husband refused to touch you, were you forbidden from touching him.


Is he not your husband?

The thing is just surprising me over here. Which law said is only a husband that is supposed to initiate sex?

And the lawyer is also bias, she only stated what her fellow women complained about in their marriage, but never said anything about what the men complained.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

sex sex sex, probably why y'all are the HIV capital of the world

EmperorIsaac:
You just told us what women say, how about men? You are part of the problem, madam lawyer.

What were you expecting before lol

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

I will find out and cut her off like a doubtful game on sporty

lenghtinny:
You get the point….

I used to be in a relationship with someone that initially gave me the impression that she didn’t really like sex, making me feel like a sex freak.

Until I decided to tone down on it and practice semen retention, na their kasala burst.

This babe worry me for sex like mad I began to wonder if it was the same person that wasn’t into sex when we started dating.

Better gaslighting oooo

This behaviour isn't healthy for marriage at all...

Most women believe sex(which they believe they bring to relationship but brought by both sides) isn't mandatory but money (which they believe men should bring but should be brought by both sides) should be mandatory . If i ever be in a marriage and a woman intentionally removes sex from the marriage i will intentionally remove what i bring to the marriage. Most women don't know this behaviour is antithetical to the union but see it as a girly behaviour to test the resolve of the man I don't entertain such.