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If you are dating your coursemate in the same faculty or department don't ever sit down together with her during exam,I was a victim of that during one of my exams back then in school I was already done with the exam and gave her my answer script to copy so both of us can leave the exam hall together but unfortunately I was caught and my answer script was tore and that lead to my ectral year in school.

Ṣe una later marry?

Not regret for me, but more of a lesson.

I totally understand d country is a jungle, my eyes don see premium shege. Majority of university colleagues are hypocritical back stabbing jealous cunts..

PROPEACE:
Thank you so much. You just reinvigorated me. I will keep fighting.

It's worth it.The day we stop fighting then we are dead.Good luck bro,you deserve and will have it.

segcymoor:
Truly life is designed to be beyond our scope.. I pass through experience for the past few months... Only this statement saved me from loosing my mind because I am a great and deep thinker by nature

I know!

May we not be distracted by success

Eriokanmi:
You're welcome. Keep praying and don't lose hope. If it's foundational problem, continue to rebuke it. Sadly, we live in a wicked society...full of witchcraft and enemies. If you don't faint, God will show you the source/cause of your predicament and proffer a solution.

There are generational problems too. The same way some people have some diseases and features traceable to their lineage or genetics, like asthma, hemorrhoids, mental issues, albinism, etc, so do people also inherit problems from generation to generation. I had a colleague back in the days. He's urhobo from delta state. He called me in the office one day and said, he's scared cos they never age beyond 40yrs and he was almost 40 then. He's way older than me but we were on same level by qualifications. I told him to keep praying and I'd also join him. He's 56yrs today. Sadly, the last born died 4yrs ago. When I saw the picture on his Facebook wall, I called my colleague, he said its her sister who never took ill for up to 2 days and died. I asked how old and he said she was preparing for her 40th birthday, just imagine. Only God knows what their forebears had done wrong which had remained a curse from generation to generation. Nobody is spared from all these generational wahala. Only God can remove it by fervently praying for him. Until the curse is erased, one may never see helpers. Give it a try Good luck

Wow! Thank you. I will work on that

tobore4u:
if I have the opportunity of turning back the hands of time, I will never ever toil the path of sport betting.

I hope I can forgive myself.

Leave am for us wey sabi way.

Listening to people's opinions . . .

Getting married

Owain:
E don enter give you na, abi?

I letter cash out 18k. But d game letter enter Sha. We move

Love800:
The friends part. Am a home-alone now. I realize that they are many brainless peeps out there who only love you because they want to eat everything you have.

Nobody to trust!

Oh noo.
Same thing we see on dependent group.

Genuine people don't know who to trust. It's scary.

If you don't mind, can we play 10, 10 ?

I am Geechy

occfx:
At 40s...your energy will be dropping drastically... It's only your money/experience or knowledge will work for you. Physically, you are depreciating very fast and should be talking of retirement. No giving up... My own too I was stupid during my active years but I coupling back

I learning from this

PROPEACE:
Of course it does! Very few people realize it! We pray for breakthroughs everyday, but nobody wins every day, that is a fact. Then winning continuously over an extended period of time can be dangerous because it can make one complacent and careless. In a crime channel I once heard something interesting, they said when they are are going after a serial killer that has killed several victims without a trace, detectives just keep following the serial killer patiently, that at some point,the serial killers become carried away by their success and eventually become.careless, thus leaving behind a trace.

Omo this quote from you is the best thing I have heard this month. This is true because if you are betting for example and when forecasting your games the teams that have 4 or 5 straight wins doesn’t always win their next game(s). They are always been carried away by their previous success.

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my
wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Same issue my brother. I returned because I wanted to live in my country Nigeria . Didn't want to live in the UK permanently. I didn't know things could change this bad very fast in Nigeria. I have seen hardship. Sent you Dm may be we can connect and share information. I trust my God though. Is well my brother.

nony43:
Omo this quote from you is the best thing I have heard this month. This is true because if you are betting for example and when forecasting your games the teams that have 4 or 5 straight wins doesn’t always win their next game(s). They are always been carried away by their previous success.

Winning is exhausting. Those teams that keep winning over a long time may be trashed in the end by some very useless underdogs

Marrying individuals my early 20ies, the biggest mistake of my life. Should have married very late.

Kampack:
No wahala! God will do it!

Send me a dm

Same situation. I will send you a DM.

My past 5 years is filled with lessons. I see every regret as a lesson.
1. Trust nobody,human being is unpredictable.
2. Everyone is out for himself/herself.
3. Never take any woman seriously,even your wife.
4. Everybody coming close to you,is there for benefit.once they stop benefitting from you,they start avoiding you.
5. Love is just a fleeting emotion,it expires with time.
6. Date or marry for benefits.
7. Don't lend people money,they don't have the intention of paying back.
8. Sometimes pretend to go broke so as to see how People you call friends or family will react. This will expose the fake ones around you.
9. Money and power exposes the true character of human.
10.The world is a very competitive place,compete or lose out.
11. When people ask what you do for a living,they are assessing how much respect they should give to you.
12. People worship money.even in families,churches and social club money is worshipped.
13. If you are not a hypocrite,avoid religion. You can't make it if you practice what religion teaches.
14. Your colleagues in the office are not your friends. Do your job,get paid,and go home.
15.To the guys,make sure your girl friend/wife invests equally or more in the relationship.it is a woman's investment that keeps her glued to the relationship.
16. Set boundaries with women.once your boundary is crossed repeatedly,walk away. Your greatest power in any relationship is your ability to walk away.

PROPEACE:
Winning is exhausting. Those teams that keep winning over a long time may be trashed in the end by some very useless underdogs

Exactly.

Dropping out from learning Coding in 2020 when I had the chance 🥺🥺. Will still get back to learning it soon.

immortalcrown:
I avoided female friends even when I had become an adult.

I met responsible girls who genuinely love me, but I did not give them chance to get close to me. Some of them, after being taken by other men, confronted and blamed me for letting them go. They said they died in silence because the prevalent culture in our society makes it abnormal for girls to take the lead in starting a romantic relationship.

The first girl I dated was the one that asked me out. She spent on me and never allowed me to spend on her. One day, she collected the money I gave her, bought something worth of 20 Naira and returned the balance to me. She said she just wanted to prove to me that she was not rejecting things that came from me. She said she wanted to be the one spending, just to appreciate me. She said all she wanted was for me to love her as she loves me. She occasionally said to me, "One day, you will leave me". Each time she said it, she wept. So many things happened and she got married after some years.

Now, I search and wish I allowed one to dominate me then. Many of them still check on me and wish me well. But who knows tomorrow? Maybe the best is yet to come.

Dominate you? Bro! You have a BDSM fetish??

Downloading phantom wallet.

bluestone2015:
Nobody deprecates as 40+ except they are sick. You can learn something new and start a fresh carrier that you can practice into your 60s

Even at 80s, you can still learn something new you will practice in your 90s and 100s

WhizdomXX:
Good evening. I studied Electrical/electronics engineering and graduated last year with a first class. I have some questions,Can I message you.

Yes you can

PROPEACE:
My story is 100% true. My story is actually worse than this. There are uglier details that I am too ashamed to share even on an anonymous forum like this. I will not be able to get angry with anyone that calls me a fool because how can I even prove that I ain't one? God help me.

May u find peace hommie..

Kampack:
No! I went for PR. The process isn't as difficult as I thought it were. With some concerned friends who saw my sufferings and knew I've done myself a disservice by turning back after my PhD, and was also aware of the unending imbroglio between ASUU and FG, I was able to pull through. A few friends raised funds for me. I'll encourage you to move out as quickly as you can. It's not rossy abroad, but not as bad as it is in 9ja! Experiences differ though, but from my experience on both sides, I can tell you confidently that the odds are stashed more against you in 9ja - especially if you are a low income earner - in such an unproductive and unfavorable economy!

I read your story and laughed. I’m not trying to mock you pls. A lot of ppl made the same mistake and they have been unable to correct it. I’m glad you understand you made the wrong choice of going back home after your studies and now you have gotten another golden opportunity to leave. Luckily, you got PR at a period when it is very competitive.

Kampack:
You're not alone bro!
Yeah! I traveled to study. MSc & PhD. My PhD Supervisor and friends begged me to stay back. A friend from India (my MSc classmate in UK) particularly encouraged me to move to Canada as he was equally planning to move to Canada at the time. He successfully relocated to Canada afterwards and kept in touch with me via Facebook calls and occasional phone calls - encouraging me to do Express entry. I didn't understand the process at that time (2017), and even if I did, affording the cost of IELTS (50k) was a herculean task, as my take home pay was nothing to write home about. I had less than 40k left to saddle all home front expenditure after deducting my car loan then. Things were HARD! I bitterly regretted the move! I couldn't run anywhere for help. I couldn't even extend any money to my poor parents every month. Bills accumulated and debts soon spiralled almost out of control. Inflation didn't help matters! I suffer no be small!

You would have gotten the PR easily with your PhD back then in 2017 because the cut off scores were damn low.

miracle002:
Gambling, bet9ja, betking, masturbation, pornography. These are the greatest mistakes of my life. They really wrecked my life. I am just recovering gradually.

Honestly, they filling a void you are ignoring.... They're not the root cause of your problems but a results from unresolved issues like work, relationship and money.

Oosa4sure:
I was 27 yrs when I caught my wife with 3 children all girls with a man in our materimonials bed , which nearly cost me my life ,thank God I survived it ,but I took responsibility of the all the girls by taken them awa6with me,but today they're all married,doing well but failed to recognise me as their father, this really made me so sad

Sorry bro, but where the girls kids when you caught them in bed with your wife and the man?

Oosa4sure:
I was 27 yrs when I caught my wife with 3 children all girls with a man in our materimonials bed , which nearly cost me my life ,thank God I survived it ,but I took responsibility of the all the girls by taken them awa6with me, but today they're all married,doing well but failed to recognise me as their father, this really made me so sad

This is quite sad
You must have invested a lot on them all these years.

I did the right thing at the wrong time - marriage.
It crashed 2 years after and up till now, i still haven't been able to figure it out 7 years later.