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Inclusive of the ones who are active LGBTQ but married to straight people.

Lol.

A lot of people are in sexless marriages indeed.

I'm sure by the time you find out, she'd have already been tired of you because you'd have been failing to perform your duties in the other room for a whole two years.

Bobbynobobby:
I will find out and cut her off like a doubtful game on sporty

Excuses, excuses... Go and improve your bedmatics skills and be a man in bed.

YoungBlackRico:
sex sex sex, probably why y'all are the HIV capital of the world

I don't know what you're talking about...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

DarkJeddi:
You done carry your unalloyed genetic South African ha tred come this site?
Everything is an opportunity for you people to pour opprobrium on other Africans.

Go and improve your bedmatics skills and stop looking for a scapegoat for your poor performance.

GoodSpirit:
In your mind only these set if women do infidelity in marriage? Generally speaking women are hypergamous even the so called independent (still look to be given money don't know why they refer to themselves as one) do same. Only a negligible minute percentage aren't hypergamous when they have their own money.

Why wouldn't 80% of divorce be initiated by women when they're feeling lonely in their own marriages? You're right, sex alone doesn't build a marriage and same goes for money... You need to learn to balance between the two.

When you're at work, you're making money, but immediately you get home, you're a husband and have to perform your conjugal duties... Even if you're tired, sleep for at least three to four hours, then wake up and perform your duties...If my husband starves me that long, I'd sue him for emotional distress, I didn't agree to be his wife only to starve...😋😋😋

GoodSpirit:
Sex alone won't build your marriage go and make money for the family...in your delusional mindset men are the fault and you ladies still think men divorce ladies the most even when 80% of divorce are initiated by women.

Even this so called divorce lawyer who is a woman will probably be painting the account of her spouse who mainly happens to be women most times, you all should learn to be accountable in issues that has to be between a men and women, men aren't the problem as you all depict it ro be look inwards you may actually be the problem nut your delusional mind has refused to accept that men can not be right anytime

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myrates:
Hmm! Man dey try o! You go hustle get money to give woman financial orgasm yet you must not relent to give her steady sexual orgasm without compromising fatherly role to the children.Tell me why man no go die quick?

How sure are you that your mothers weren't getting serviced elsewhere in secret, were you monitoring their movements 24/7? I'm very sure that we'll also be telling our children and grandchildren the same stories our mothers have been telling us...😂😂😂

Gabrielshow24:
One thing, I have come to know in this life is that you can never satisfy everyone. If the man doesn't have money it's a problem 🤨, when he doesn't touch her, it's also a problem🤨. Everything these days can be weaponized as a problem 👀. How can I work to provide and my wife will be worrying me with "emotional dramas" related to sex after producing two already? Is it sex that will provide food on the table? It's just a fleeting desire! These women are not like our mothers that their husbands will not touch for over six years and still they won't cheat, neither will they throw tantrums👀. Modern women and sex are like five and six🤨.

Then don't get married if you're not ready to perform your conjugal duties as a husband.

You can't say you're busy to a point of starving your wife for a whole 2 years.

Dynamicboss:
The strength in making money alone is very demanding. Expecting the same energy in sexual rendezvous is a difficult task. Please men are not machine. It is not easy to balance both equation.

Most of those ballers are not making legit money and we all know it... That's why it's mostly SA gold diggers and those ladies of the night who go for them.

Those ones making legit money like keeping low profile and are usually married to Nigerian ladies.

iamL:
I am proud of my Naija brothers who are chasing legit money over there in SA and spoiling their wives to the extent that even Souties knows them as ballers.

Kobojunkie:
You have seen it happen millions of times yet the same una dey always admit say na the SIMPs — nice men — dey always get the girls?

K

DrAda:
Hello luminouz, we both know how our conversations go. I will sit this one out. Hope you are good

I'm good Ada!!! You?
Don't leave naija oh..let's save the country together!!!

If you want to be at peace within, don't starve your woman... Like how do you expect a woman to give you a peace of mind while she's starving and you're right there beside her snoring? The entire house will be turned into world war 3 because a hungry woman is a frustrated woman... Plates will be flying in the air the following morning.

Trymeee:
I'm not married so this might not count, but a man will only be interested in experimenting in the other room when he's at peace within.

To be a man is the biggest of all sin as the kind of responsibility and pressure on you is underscored. And this are societal pressure that everyone might judge you on. Some of us are not interested in marriage in lieu of this pressure. We'd rather enjoy the perks of singlehood and stay happy.

As for me, I approach mine... In fact, I wake him from his sleep...😋😋😋

Watcharena:
if your husband doesn't approach you, approach him you have equal rights on each other especially as it regards to sexuaal satisfaction. Woman should stop lamenting

Don't worry about that...🤣🤣🤣🤣

NSNO:
Jollof bros? This is my first time hearing this. Is this what south Africans call us?

Sorry, just asking, Is this happening to gen x or gen h or which one or all of them? 🥴🙏

luminouz:
I'm good Ada!!! You?
Don't leave naija oh..let's save the country together!!!

I'll try my best

Brilliancepower:
Hmm... Unless the man is a porn actor, once a woman disrespects you or monitizes her private part it kills the affection of a real man. Making love is from a loving heart, fucking without emotions is a different ball game!

This is the crux of the matter. A woman cannot be disobedient, hard to teach, unnecessarily secretive, unduly selfish and expect me to feel like laying down on the same bed with you.

With time a real man will loose any affection towards the woman.

Bobage16:
Sorry, just asking, Is this happening to gen x or gen h or which one or all of them? 🥴🙏

We all know the truth. Let's stop lying to ourselves abeg!

Samantha125:
As for me, I approach mine... In fact, I wake him from his sleep...😋😋😋

that is the right thing to do

Some women only God knows what they want
If you check today 80 percent of those that want to get married are women
If you go to court 90 percent of those that don't want the marriage anymore are women

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Men are biologically wired to get tired of their wives some years after marriage.
It takes an intentional man to keep the sexual and affection fire burning even after marriage.

When you stress a man so much before agreeing to marry him, one day he'll look at you naked and be like, Is this what I was chasing all over the place? Omo I mumu that year no be small.
Once that realization hits him its all over.

If you are the type that rations sex based on good behavior, one day he'll find alternatives and call your bluff.

Most men will not react to your bad behaviors.
They simply withdraw affection and intimacy.

If you are cheating physically or emotionally or living a smart deceitful life, one day he'll find out for himself and just reorganize his life and may never even tell you he has seen your deceitful life.

If you subscribe to online feminists, be ready to attain their marital status of Single and bitter or divorced and confused, soon.

Words on Marble 👍

Akalia:
You are not entirely spot on. Take myself for example, I have being married for 5+ years and I still have a strong sexual attraction for my wife. In such on a few occasions that I cheated in the past, came to the realization that the women I slept with didn't give me the high level orgasm I usually get when I do it with my wife.
Unfortunately,my wife seems to have realized that I am sexually drawn to her strongly even after birthing two male children, she deprives me sex often citing tiredness or comes up with some flimsy excuses. She has weaponized sex.

I no gbadu cheating because of the fear of GOD and I also do not get the same high level satisfaction with other women like I do get when I do it with my wife. So it's not entirely true for all men that their sexual drive towards their partners wane with the passage of time.

Where I work I have a lot of female IT intakes and colleagues but I have never being moved to approach them discreetly with a sexual motive, just don't find them sexually attractive even through they got all the right features.

Your wife's attitude is trying to get you a new wife. Maybe you should toe that line make everybody sit up.

Samantha125:
If you want to be at peace within, don't starve your woman... Like how do you expect a woman to give you a peace of mind while she's starving and you're right there beside her snoring? The entire house will be turned into world war 3 because a hungry woman is a frustrated woman... Plates will be flying in the air the following morning.

And you expect that same man to be useful in the other room when he's the sole provider.


I know I won't end up with a useless woman and if I do, it won't last.

DrAda:
I'll try my best

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Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

This can only happen when u marry a wayward woman who doesn't have any self discipline or fear God.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

South africans leave Nigerians alone

Samantha125:
Go and improve your bedmatics skills and stop looking for a scapegoat for your poor performance.

Bedmatics , why not go look for money first then we can discuss about bedmatics if that's your life objective?

omozu1:
Some women only God knows what they want
If you check today 80 percent of those that want to get married are women
If you go to court 90 percent of those that don't want the marriage anymore are women

They're looking for whose wealth to steal especially in the western world

Samantha125:
Most of those ballers are not making legit money and we all know it... That's why it's mostly SA gold diggers and those ladies of the night who go for them.

Those ones making legit money like keeping low profile and are usually married to Nigerian ladies.

Jealously and pan isn't that hard to spot. Proud of my jollof brothers.