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Good evening nairalanders, I met my fiancé in 2021 but we officially started dating in 2022. The relationship was not all rosy because we do have minor misunderstanding in-between but we've never quarrelled beyond 24hrs before. I choosed her among other girls because she gives me peace and had never given me any reason to doubt her loyalty. So earlier this year I took bold step and went to see her parents for introduction and list collection with the intention to do our traditional marriage in December this year. But something happened yesterday. I was chatting with my fiancé via WhatsApp and one thing led to another then she sent me a screenshot of our chat in the past to buttress her point but then I noticed something in that screenshot she sent. I noticed that my contact was saved with my name. I was surprised because I'd always knew all my contacts were saved with "my world" in her phone so how come my name now? What changed? We never had a fight, no quarrel, nothing whatsoever that might make her change my contact from "my world" to my name. So I pointed it out to her to know her reason. At first , she was trying to play on my intelligence by telling me it was a mistake and immediately changed it back but I stood my ground and insist that she explain to me why she did so. Then later on she started begging, telling me she was sorry, that she'd never cheated on me. I was like, "who said anything about cheating?" I only demand an explanation on why you changed my contact from "my world" to my name, the apologies can come later but she kept on begging that it was a mistake so I ignored her. Later on, she finally accepted that she changed it intentionally but could not recall why she did. I simply told her to think and get back to me then I ignored her chats while she kept begging and went to bed. Now I couldn't sleep, I kept thinking why my fiance could pull such stunt and I've concluded that I might put our trads coming up this December on hold if I don't get an explanation on why she did such but another thought came to my mind that I should post here to see if I can get a better suggestion from experienced nairalanders. How do you think I should handle this situation? Please advice me!


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YoungDaNaval:
Good evening nairalanders, I met my fiancé in 2021 but we officially started dating in 2022. The relationship was not all rosy because we do have minor misunderstanding in-between but we've never quarrelled beyond 24hrs before. I choosed her among other girls because she gives me peace and had never given me any reason to doubt her loyalty. So earlier this year I took bold step and went to see her parents for introduction and list collection with the intention to do our traditional marriage in December this year. But something happened yesterday. I was chatting with my fiancé via WhatsApp and one thing led to another then she sent me a screenshot of our chat in the past to buttress her point but then I noticed something in that screenshot she sent. I noticed that my contact was saved with my name. I was surprised because I'd always knew all my contacts were saved with "my world" in her phone so how come my name now? What changed? We never had a fight, no quarrel, nothing whatsoever that might make her change my contact from "my world" to my name. So I pointed it out to her to know her reason. At first , she was trying to play on my intelligence by telling me it was a mistake and immediately changed it back but I stood my ground and insist that she explain to me why she did so. Then later on she started begging, telling me she was sorry, that she'd never cheated on me. I was like, "who said anything about cheating?" I only demand an explanation on why you changed my contact from "my world" to my name, the apologies can come later but she kept on begging that it was a mistake so I ignored her. Later on, she finally accepted that she changed it intentionally but could not recall why she did. I simply told her to think and get back to me then I ignored her chats while she kept begging and went to bed. Now I couldn't sleep, I kept thinking why my fiance could pull such stunt and I've concluded that I might put our trads coming up this December on hold if I don't get an explanation on why she did such but another thought came to my mind that I should post here to see if I can get a better suggestion from experienced nairalanders. How do you think I should handle this situation? Please advice me!


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Royalroy

we do have minor misunderstanding in-between but we've never quarrelled beyond 24hrs before.

Maybe the change of name happened during one of this. She might just be mad at that point and decided to change the name.

I have done that and women do that a lot.

I might be wrong tho, set traps for her and see.

END the relationship!
Regardless of her explanation and copious apologies, END it!

From "My World" to your legal first name is a huge LEAP. She didn't even change it to "My Local Government".

Dude, it's OVER
It's DONE!

Changing your name on her contact list is a SYMBOLIC move. It symbolises the DEATH of her attraction to you.

Her "My World" is dead. What's left is plain Ahmed, Emeka or Kayode.

She knows EXACTLY why she made the change. And it's because she no longer feels the way she felt about you in the past.

It is even more DISTURBING that she's already DENYING a cheating allegation you did NOT posit.

That's NOT a good look.
That's like FLEEING while no one is chasing you.

That is the way of a WAYWARD woman.
RUN!

You don't want to start a marriage with SUSPICION and ANXIETY.

Ignoring LITTLE signs like this that tug at your heartstrings is how people end up with HUGE disasters that SHATTER their hearts...like raising another man's kid for 20 years.

RUN!

Hezzyluv:
Maybe the change of name happened during one of this. She might just be mad at that point and decided to change the name. Women does that a lot.

Hmmm okay

Namaster:
From "My World" to your legal first name is a huge LEAP. She didn't even change it to "My Local Government".

🤣🤣🤣

To the poster:
Don't submit to her manipulative apologies. She must tell you why and when she renamed your contact on her phone. Refusal to confess implied impenitence.

You are lucky to notice it now.

The lady got relaxed after she saw you planning traditional marriage. This is how she feels about you right from the beginning. She was just settling for whatever reason known to her.

You were never her "world". Now you know who you are to her.

The ball is now in your court. I will just say 99pct of them settle for the ready highest bidder.

immortalcrown:
🤣🤣🤣

To the poster:
Don't submit to her manipulative apologies. She must tell you why and when she renamed your contact on her phone. Refusal to confess implied impenitence.

Thanks

Namaster:
END the relationship!
Regardless of her explanation and copious apologies, END it!

From "My World" to your legal first name is a huge LEAP. She didn't even change it to "My Local Government".

Dude, it's OVER
It's DONE!

Changing your name on her contact list is a SYMBOLIC move. It symbolises the DEATH of her attraction to you.

Her "My World" is dead. What's left is plain Ahmed, Emeka or Kayode.

She knows EXACTLY why she made the change. And it's because she no longer feels the way she felt about you in the past.

It is even more DISTURBING that she's already DENYING a cheating allegation you did NOT posit.

That's NOT a good look.
That's like FLEEING while no one is chasing you.

That is the way of a WAYWARD woman.
RUN!

You don't want to start a marriage with SUSPICION and ANXIETY.

Ignoring LITTLE signs like this that tug at your heartstrings is how people end up with HUGE disasters that SHATTER their hearts...like raising another man's kid for 20 years.

RUN!

Thanks boss

I saved my hubby’s number under the pet name I call him some time ago and some people in professional meetings could see it on my screen when I left my phone on the desk and a call came in.i thought it was unprofessional to let them peep into my private life through my phone and changed it again.

Don’t know why your fiancé brought up cheating though and why she can’t explain it.

It’s confusing and this thread will confuse you even more.

Bro, I’ll advise you put the marriage on hold and try pay more attention to the lady.

Women hide a lot plus you might not even get a genuine response to the questions you’ve been asking her rather she go gaslight you.

Abeg forget love and reason logically to the comments above to avoid disappointments.

You go tire oooo, nah marriage u come dey patakikize like this? I no dey reason all this thing ooooo till this moment nah my name my wife take store my number .....bur wait ooo for real u wan marry? Upon how we dey make noise say that thing nah scam

Listen to the second commenter...

Women change their guys name a lot when they are angry with him...

Meanwhile, this doesn't hide the fact that she might be seeing someone else other than you

So find out...

Don't rush to send her away and don't rush to marry until you are sure she in for you Nd not just all that you can give

People like this OP can be play . So cos of changing u dey para like the famous TIGER GENERATOR ? on top of "MY WORLD"? What if she stored yo name as *ODESON"MUMU,Adigun Eleran

MaziObinnaokija:
People like this OP can be play . So cos of changing u dey para like the famous TIGER GENERATOR ? on top of "MY WORLD"? What if she stored yo name as *ODESON"MUMY
U.Adigun Eleran

Read to understand

It's totally weird especially if you both aren't having any issues whatsoever. Just forgive her.

I am not sure what to make out of this.

But if her actions so far didnt put you in doubt about her commitment to you, then you might consider letting this slide. Women are petty, she might have changed it because you pissed her off, or for some reason she cant even explain herself.

Break up from her now

YoungDaNaval:
Thanks boss

Dont listen to him.

The internet should be the last place you bring your important life issue to. There will be all sort of advice that will make even a small issue turn a big issue. A lot of people on the internet are not happy and with their crab mentality, they wouldn't mind bringing you to their level.

Instead of chatting her, try and see and one and one to understand why she did what she did.

You cannot base it on assumption.

You can go through her phone to understand whats going on too.

So nowadays upon everything. Men still believe their babe is seeing only them. Thank God I learnt early. Marry someone that respect you boss, Forget love.
It died with Romeo and Julie. Marry someone that gives you peace of mind.

No lady is innocent anymore. Smart guys always catch them. I'll catch mine and pretend I never saw something like that. If you continue boss. You'll give yourself b.p.

Just postpone the ceremony for now and keep watching. If she deserves a pass, give her. If she doesn't pass. But don't leave the lesser evil for the devil.

My two cent tho.

Rilwayne001:
Dont listen to him.

The internet should be the last place you bring your important life issue to. There will be all sort of advice that will make even a small issue turn a big issue. A lot of people on the internet are not happy and with their crab mentality, they wouldn't mind bringing you to their level.

Instead of chatting her, try and see and one and one to understand why she did what she did.

You cannot base it on assumption.

You can go through her phone to understand whats going on too.

Nice comment so far
You say my mind

SpencerForbes:
So nowadays upon everything. Men still believe their babe is seeing only them. Thank God I learnt early. Marry someone that respect you boss, Forget love.
It died with Romeo and Julie. Marry someone that gives you peace of mind.

No lady is innocent anymore. Smart guys always catch them. I'll catch mine and pretend I never saw something like that. If you continue boss. You'll give yourself b.p.

Just postpone the ceremony for now and keep watching. If she deserves a pass, give her. If she doesn't pass. But don't leave the lesser evil for the devil.

My two cent tho.

Thanks

Namaster:
END the relationship!
Regardless of her explanation and copious apologies, END it!

From "My World" to your legal first name is a huge LEAP. She didn't even change it to "My Local Government".

Dude, it's OVER
It's DONE!

Changing your name on her contact list is a SYMBOLIC move. It symbolises the DEATH of her attraction to you.

Her "My World" is dead. What's left is plain Ahmed, Emeka or Kayode.

She knows EXACTLY why she made the change. And it's because she no longer feels the way she felt about you in the past.

It is even more DISTURBING that she's already DENYING a cheating allegation you did NOT posit.

That's NOT a good look.
That's like FLEEING while no one is chasing you.

That is the way of a WAYWARD woman.
RUN!

You don't want to start a marriage with SUSPICION and ANXIETY.

Ignoring LITTLE signs like this that tug at your heartstrings is how people end up with HUGE disasters that SHATTER their hearts...like raising another man's kid for 20 years.

RUN!

You have started again with your Savage response, let me cancel ✖️ your name from the register of Heaven, you are not going to Heaven again

AngelicBeing:
You have started again with your Savage response, let me cancel ✖️ your name from the register of Heaven, you are not going to Heaven again

Bia, where's Nwaamaikpe?

YoungDaNaval:
Bia, where's Nwaamaikpe?

Muchecheche, He was arrested by Tinubu for posting nonsense online and he is presently in Kebbi State DSS headquarters, he has been detained for 900 years, hahaha 🤣

AngelicBeing:
Muchecheche, He was arrested by Tinubu for posting nonsense online and he is presently in Kebbi State DSS headquarters, he has been detained for 900 years, hahaha 🤣

lol

YoungDaNaval:
➜Good evening nairalanders, I met my fiancé in 2021 but we officially started dating in 2022. The relationship was not all rosy because we do have minor misunderstanding in-between but we've never quarrelled beyond 24hrs before. I choosed her among other girls because she gives me peace and had never given me any reason to doubt her loyalty. So earlier this year I took bold step and went to see her parents for introduction and list collection with the intention to do our traditional marriage in December this year. But something happened yesterday. I was chatting with my fiancé via WhatsApp and one thing led to another then she sent me a screenshot of our chat in the past to buttress her point but then I noticed something in that screenshot she sent. I noticed that my contact was saved with my name. I was surprised because I'd always knew all my contacts were saved with "my world" in her phone so how come my name now? What changed? We never had a fight, no quarrel, nothing whatsoever that might make her change my contact from "my world" to my name. So I pointed it out to her to know her reason.[b] At first , she was trying to play on my intelligence by telling me it was a mistake and immediately changed it back but I stood my ground and insist that she explain to me why she did so. Then later on she started begging, telling me she was sorry, that she'd never cheated on me. I was like, "who said anything about cheating?" I only demand an explanation on why you changed my contact from "my world" to my name, the apologies can come later but she kept on begging that it was a mistake so I ignored her. Later on, she finally accepted that she changed it intentionally but could not recall why she did. I simply told her to think and get back to me then I ignored her chats while she kept begging and went to bed. Now I couldn't sleep, I kept thinking why my fiance could pull such stunt and I've concluded that I might put our trads coming up this December on hold if I don't get an explanation on why she did such but another thought came to my mind that I should post here to see if I can get a better suggestion from experienced nairalanders.[/b] How do you think I should handle this situation? Please advice me! Thanks

Break up with her and go find yourself peace elsewhere, abeg!

Since your particular expectation is that her view of you remains the same throughout the relationship, but she does not see it that way, clearly that red flag should not be ignored, should it? Fire her, abeg! Make she go find her own peace of mind with someone who would not mind much of fickle things as you do.

Smh. Seeing the username of the poster, I am not remotely surprised at the epistle over a change of phone name that happens during misunderstandings in many relationships.

Poor girl will explain tire inside marriage.

I wish her strength, she would need it if you are nice enough to marry her.

pocohantas:
Smh. Seeing the username of the poster, I am not remotely surprised at the epistle over a change of phone name that happens during misunderstandings in many relationships.

Poor girl will explain tire inside marriage.

I wish her strength, she would need it if you are nice enough to marry her.

Not today please

I save every one in my phone with a name. No endearment. That way if my phone is stolen the thief cannot identify who to send wayo message to

The point in the whole issue is that you must not trust blindly.

The trust you have for a woman or man you are in a romantic relationship with must be absolutely verified and corroborated with evidence beyond doubt.

Don't trust blindly. Trust with eyes wide open.

You need to vet her.
You need to vet her phone.

Keep emotions aside now.
You need to switch to your logical side asap.

Clear your doubt.

And also allow her to clear her doubts.

May the good Lord see both of you through.

Amin.

Consider the situation that she could have changed that name when she went to another man's house; that also goes through her phone, but forgot to change it back.

This is joy to you.

Maybe what she does is change another guys name when coming to you, with your own as my world, then when visiting another man, she changes yours to your name and another sweet name to the guy she's visiting.

It's a mind thing, women are experts in those type of things, because they know how to get the men to fall for them

CONSIDER THIS OPTION.

she just forgot to change it back after her last escapade