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These days, I honestly don’t understand the point of marriage anymore.

Every Saturday, there’s one wedding or another. Fancy dresses, smiling couples, emotional vows about love and loyalty. But by Monday? One partner is already texting someone else’s spouse.

Why get married if you’re still going to cheat? Is it love—or just pressure from society, family, or age?

Now here’s what shocked me…

A married father of two casually told me:
“I don’t really cheat on my wife. I only did it twice last year.”

Excuse me?? 😳

So I asked, “What if your wife also cheated—just twice, like you?”

His face changed immediately. He said, “God forbid! She would pack out of my house instantly!”

That’s when I realized—we’re living in a generation full of double standards.

So let’s be real:
• If you’re not ready to be faithful, why not just stay single?
• Why ruin someone else’s life with your indecision and selfishness?
• Why do some men think cheating is a “mistake” when they do it, but “madness” when a woman does?

Nobody’s forcing anyone to marry. But if you say “I do,” then do it.

Nairalanders, I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?

Multiply that two by 100,

mayDtolu:
These days, I honestly don’t understand the point of marriage anymore.

Every Saturday, there’s one wedding or another. Fancy dresses, smiling couples, emotional vows about love and loyalty. But by Monday? One partner is already texting someone else’s spouse.

Why get married if you’re still going to cheat? Is it love—or just pressure from society, family, or age?

Now here’s what shocked me…

A married father of two casually told me:
“I don’t really cheat on my wife. I only did it twice last year.”

Excuse me?? 😳

So I asked, “What if your wife also cheated—just twice, like you?”

His face changed immediately. He said, “God forbid! She would pack out of my house instantly!”

That’s when I realized—we’re living in a generation full of double standards.

So let’s be real:
• If you’re not ready to be faithful, why not just stay single?
• Why ruin someone else’s life with your indecision and selfishness?
• Why do some men think cheating is a “mistake” when they do it, but “madness” when a woman does?

Nobody’s forcing anyone to marry. But if you say “I do,” then do it.

Nairalanders, I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?

the bases of your argument does not in any way undermine the meaning and purpose of marriage - like only in Nigeria do people cheat.

mind you it shouldn't be cheat but infidelity, meaning irresponsible. it is out of place to promiscuite in essence fornicate or commit adultery.

this don't make those that don't a better person than those that are promiscuous. many worse in other more evil and deadly atrocity than the promiscuous ones.

mayDtolu:
True, infidelity isn’t the worst thing or limited to Nigeria. But the post is more about double standards in marriage — like saying “I cheated twice, but if my wife tries it, she must go.” That kind of thinking is the real issue here.

there is something you all fail to realize, a natural order of things, as being established by Nature (God) which the modern man is toiling with. yet it keeps hurting us badly

check from any society, either traditionally or religiously, the norms and values of every setting and system don't take male promiscuity seriously like the female (take or leave.) it has been from time immemorial, one thing people fail to realize is there is this special glory about women that men lacks (settle down to this you'll discover the secret).

from any angle you view it nature allows for men to keep more women but women aren't allowed to, in essence polygamy, which the modern age is eradicating. even with polygamy fornication and adultery isn't allowed but the eradication of polygamy opens the door for 'cheating'.

I'm not an apologist of any cause I won't support either but it is what it is. strip a man nude yet you see nothing special about him but without you stripping a woman the glory nature (God) bestowed on her reflects and attract like a magnetic force.

if only you can understand, it is deep. I used nature for it not to sound too religious.

mayDtolu:
I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?

Nothing is wrong with marriage or monogamy, the players with low moral standards are the problem....

Yall jump from one penis /pvssy another during ur single days, then suddenly want to conjure faithfulness out of thin air...Welldone!!
Is that how faithfulness works??
.....some even collect good bye sex a week or night before their wedding......

being sexually faithful to one person is not something that automatically kickstart becos you signed marriage certificate ...it requires consistent discipline over time

SEGLIZ:
the bases of your argument does not in any way undermine the meaning and purpose of marriage - like only in Nigeria do people cheat.

mind you it shouldn't be cheat but infidelity, meaning irresponsible. it is out of place to promiscuite in essence fornicate or commit adultery.

this don't make those that don't a better person than those that are promiscuous. many worse in other more evil and deadly atrocity than the promiscuous ones.

True, infidelity isn’t the worst thing or limited to Nigeria. But the post is more about double standards in marriage — like saying “I cheated twice, but if my wife tries it, she must go.” That kind of thinking is the real issue here.

Who says the wife isn’t cheating or hasn’t cheated? she probably would have told her own friends too.

Just like athletes face the risk of injury, being cheated on is a risk you face when you choose to marry. You can do everything right and it would still happen.

You need to understand and accept the risk so it’s not a surprise if/when it eventually happens. You see people killing the other guy, their partners or even themselves and you just know these losers never thought a woman could cheat.

Hisroyalbadmeat:
Multiply that two by 100,

No, you're wrong.

It might be just one, which he probably added another one to fuel his ego.


Actually, men inflate their sexcapedes to make them seem as desirable in the sexual market, while women downplay their body count in order to be seen as modest.

[quote author=mayDtolu post=135495284][/quote]Marriage is not a realm, it's just a physical status.


If a man/woman has been with 20 sexual partners before getting married, the previous body counts from the 20 sexual partners doesn't just disappear into thin air.


If you're sexual reckless before marriage, getting married won't make any difference.

mayDtolu:
These days, I honestly don’t understand the point of marriage anymore.

Every Saturday, there’s one wedding or another. Fancy dresses, smiling couples, emotional vows about love and loyalty. But by Monday? One partner is already texting someone else’s spouse.

Why get married if you’re still going to cheat? Is it love—or just pressure from society, family, or age?

Now here’s what shocked me…

A married father of two casually told me:
“I don’t really cheat on my wife. I only did it twice last year.”

Excuse me?? 😳

So I asked, “What if your wife also cheated—just twice, like you?”

His face changed immediately. He said, “God forbid! She would pack out of my house instantly!”

That’s when I realized—we’re living in a generation full of double standards.

So let’s be real:
• If you’re not ready to be faithful, why not just stay single?
• Why ruin someone else’s life with your indecision and selfishness?
• Why do some men think cheating is a “mistake” when they do it, but “madness” when a woman does?

Nobody’s forcing anyone to marry. But if you say “I do,” then do it.

Nairalanders, I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?

I’m a strong advocate of polygamy, I’m tired of seeing weak men and g*y around me, to me men don’t cheat, we only need a better sensitization about real definition of marriage