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Double0h7:
He's obviously enabled her bad behaviour. He could adjust his ways and lead his home instead of running away at the first sight of a problem. He has a child with her, that child shouldn't suffer for his father's choices. Men are always shouting about being leaders but when things become hard they run away from their children. Their marriage is still new, everyone goes through hardship in the beginning of their marriage, until they finally understand each other. He sounds weak af!

You see, unlike him, I went through the exact same thing he did. Identical. But I endured it all for a long time until the children grew up. And then I finally got divorced. Now, from this point of view, I can responsibly say that the children weren't worth it.

Wakatumbit:
So they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

You're probably in your early thirties or the story is for the gods.
Sincerely you don't know what you're in for..
God forbid, everything will crumble before your eyes while she keep dragging you down psychologically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
Stop deceiving yourself that everything is OK interms of finances.
That's how she will pull you till you fall into depression and lost focus and interest in everything.
Please, don't impregnate her again. Go and do family planning and watch what next.
Anytime she raise such thing again, change it for her.
Tell her that you don't want to see her again. She should leave immediately.
She's a low life that want to spoil your life.
Please free that girl, she's not a good wife.
After they beg and settle things, once in two days, remind her that you both know that the marriage is going nowhere. Let her feel exactly what she made you felt.

goran3310:
Get a divorce. It's not our fault. You're telling the identical story I went through. Get a divorce. The same, literally the same thing happened to me. Absolutely the same.
You have a child with her. How old is the child? How many years old?
Try to arrange with her for the child to live with you. She's the type of woman who isn't capable of taking care of a child. I know from personal experience. How old are you?
We will continue this conversation.

Have you separated..
I went through same but in my case, I turn the table but I woke up one day and my wife disappeared with my kids just to punish them and me.
Her mind is not in the marriage but she don't want to leave peacefully.
I beg her to leave the children and go start a brand new life she wanted. But instead she disappeared with my children saying I'm the one that wanted her to leave. Unfortunately she's back with the kids. But I couldn't forget everything she's telling people.

FuckYeyeMods:
Have you separated..
I went through same but in my case, I turn the table but I woke up one day and my wife disappeared with my kids just to punish them and me.
Her mind is not in the marriage but she don't want to leave peacefully.
I beg her to leave the children and go start a brand new life she wanted. But instead she disappeared with my children saying I'm the one that wanted her to leave. Unfortunately she's back with the kids But I couldn't forget everything she's telling people.

Wow It's very unfortunate for U. I hope Ur watching Ur back and Ur front cos she will strike again. Most of U men play with Ur lives. No wonder U die carelessly 😂

advanceDNA:
.guy....na their way be that for you...
.they always over estimate their worth in a relationship, believing they are doing you a favour by being with you.....

All I see is......she's just playing with leverage that she doesn't even know how little she has

Her case even funny.....Person wey nor fit pay bills dey threaten who dey feed her with divorce!!

Oga....get lawyer make he draft you divorce document ....sign am..give am make she sign

One of the two will happen..
1)Dem nor born am well make she sign am..... Na cry she go cry....come add victim game join

2) pride will make her sign...u don free be that

Baba...no let any body rob u of ur peace ooo
be selfish and ruthless about your peace of mind

No be like this divorce dey sup.
Nollywood don misled a lot of Nigerians
Meanwhile make I go red the main post because I saw this from a shared post

Op, all I can tell you is, whatever money brings, money keeps.
Keep up the good work. 💪🏼😬

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Oga dodoyo u never ready to get sense, if its time u will get it, but for now continue with the suffering please.

ediko5:
No be like this divorce dey sup.
Nollywood don misled a lot of Nigerians
Meanwhile make I go red the main post because I saw this from a shared post

Okay sir...please tell us how divorce they sup u wey nolly wood never mislead

advanceDNA:
Okay sir...please tell us how divorce they sup u wey nolly wood never mislead

Oga court divorce is a lawsuit and it takes place in the court with protocols like any court case and not like a document based agreement like land sale where a lawyer prepare a document from a chamber for concern parties to append their signatures from anywhere

ediko5:
Oga court divorce is a lawsuit and it takes place in the court with protocols like any court case and not like a document based agreement like land sale where a lawyer prepare a document from a chamber for concern parties to append their signatures from anywhere

I not sure i get you....so where exactly did say courts are not involved with final dissolution of marriage..

advanceDNA:
I not sure i get you....so where exactly did say courts are not involved with final dissolution of marriage..

Lolz, go back and read what you wrote.

You said he should get his lawyer to prepare divorce document for the wife to sign.

Divorce isn't like land sale, tenancy agreement or business agreement where a lawyer prepare a document for the concern party to sign from anywhere.

Divorce is a lawsuit meaning: the concern parties have to appear in court before a judge with their respective attorneys.

There are terms and conditions a divorce should be based on and conditions to be fulfilled from either or both sides before a judge can grant a divorce.

It's like a legal battle between Peter Obi and Tinubu

The truth is that in most failed relationships, the red flags are there but love, beauty or the urge to marry is there and it takes our eyes off the goal

Most women who see divorce as the cure to every marital issue would not last in marriage. When u use money to win love, that money must continue coming

We have not heard the woman side of the story so we cannot make a balanced judgement but from what the OP said, the woman is tired of the marriage

The major casualty of this is the innocent child who is caught in the middle of this cross fire

We as men must have high standards when choosing our partners. You see how must women even the ones when get nothing much to offer,get high standard, so we as men must man up and demand better. Its the least we can do for our unborn kids

Starboytwo:
Thank God I no get this kain problem.


Baba modupe 🙏🏾🙏🏾

continue dey dupe oooo, na the most problem wey dey outside b this ooo

ediko5:
Lolz, go back and read what you wrote.

You said he should get his lawyer to prepare divorce document for the wife to sign.

Divorce isn't like land sale, tenancy agreement or business agreement where a lawyer prepare a document for the concern party to sign from anywhere.

Divorce is a lawsuit meaning: the concern parties have to appear in court before a judge with their respective attorneys.

There are terms and conditions a divorce should be based on and conditions to be fulfilled from either or both sides before a judge can grant a divorce.

It's like a legal battle between Peter Obi and Tinubu

Someone will initiate divorce and serve the other person,before proceeding to court....some pple don't even show up to the court.....

advanceDNA:
Someone will initiate divorce and serve the other person,before proceeding to court....some pple don't even show up to the court.....

That's because there's nothing to argue about and the divorce carries no weight. Where there are cases of divorce settlement, property sharing etc.

It will be a serious of court appearances

@ Wakatumbit

With due respect you're the cause of your wife disrespect to you from you narration.

When you started dating her, you went beyond your limit to spend lavishly on her, you never checked if she's the hustling type, you gave her the impression that you're an odugwu that will take care of her and give her all the achalugo treatment.

You gave her the impression that she's doing you a big favour by accepting to marry you else she won't even dare to use divorce to threaten you.

If you like your life and want to live long - divorce her as soon as possible and never listen to any advice for settlement. She only married you because of the lavish spending on her during your courtship with her and never give a woman that impression that she's doing you a favour to date or marry you

Wakatumbit:
I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

plenty talk no dey full basket.

Have you ended it or not?

Finally I hope you have recorded proof because she will deny everything she said.

FuckYeyeMods:
Have you separated..
I went through same but in my case, I turn the table but I woke up one day and my wife disappeared with my kids just to punish them and me.
Her mind is not in the marriage but she don't want to leave peacefully.
I beg her to leave the children and go start a brand new life she wanted. But instead she disappeared with my children saying I'm the one that wanted her to leave. Unfortunately she's back with the kids. But I couldn't forget everything she's telling people.

We've been unofficially separated for 4 years and officially by court order for 2 years.
You won't get the children unless she gives them to you herself. She needs the children to play the victim in front of others.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

She married you because of money as the money finish she start to threaten u with break up. When u had the money, you shouldn't have use that same money to impress her

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

How did you even tolerate her to have grown wings up to this extent. Allow that stupid woman to go for now her brains will reset after some time. Maybe you can take her back with stringent rules

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

End it you sef don try

Baba no stress…just comot her from ur mind and peace will locate u then u will surely understand the reason to be with a woman with vision.
God bless

The truth is that you were never married!

You used the "money na water" line carry entitled mami water put for house. Now wey water don dey dry up, the river goddess is planning to move to a fuller river.

All of you that think money can buy love, na wetin una eye go see be this.

#Picks_tooth

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

To cut the long story short, let her leave. She's determined to leave. You don't beg a woman to stay in a marriage. She will learn her lesson wherever she goes.

dkidd:
Wow It's very unfortunate for U. I hope Ur watching Ur back and Ur front cos she will strike again. Most of U men play with Ur lives. No wonder U die carelessly 😂

I built my house in a very developed location years before I meet my wife.
She might have some reason to come do me bad but I have openly told her and my family that if anything should happen to me, natural or otherwise, they shouldnot allow her to spend the next day in the house.
Women are very heartless and wicked.

goran3310:
We've been unofficially separated for 4 years and officially by court order for 2 years.
You won't get the children unless she gives them to you herself. She needs the children to play the victim in front of others.

Exactly why we're back together.
She'll just dump the chicken with her mother and walkway.

FuckYeyeMods:
Exactly why we're back together.
She'll just dump the chicken with her mother and walkway.

Suggest to her that you get a divorce and that she gives you custody of the children. They would live with you, and you would take care of them, and in return, you will pay her alimony until the children turn 18. Instead of her paying you because the children are with you, you will pay her.
Women are greedy for money. She will agree. Try it.

Double0h7:
This is the place marriages come to die! Not a single person advised to try to keep the family together. Nobody giving op solutions to correct her behaviour and his enabling behaviour. If op follows all these people, another one bites the dust! So many broken homes. So many single parents and abandoned children.

What is your advice? I'm waiting to read yours and not just complaining with zero input

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

If these above are 70% true, I urge you to consider separation. Like a year to figure things out.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Let her go