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Hello Nlanders!

Please I need your sincere public opinion.

I have a friend, we actually met on a Facebook group since 2022 and we have been really close, never met physically. He recently got into the world of tech and he has been doing very well for himself. He's actually working for one of the top fintech remotely.

He has encouraged me multiple times to come stay with him for some time so I can learn tech as my blue collar job is really taking tolls on me with a meagre pay, but he is a member of a known violent cult group predominantly in the South West.

I am scared to take this step as I don't want to be a victim of misplaced identity and caught in their notorious clashes we see everyday.

I do really want to improve on myself as I am barely living from hand to mouth as a family man and health wisely I am not enjoying good health with my blue collar job.

Please say a word of advise to me. Thank you.!

Cc lalasticlala,Mynd44,Nlfpmod

Better stay for your mama house 🏠

Notavictim:
Hello Nlanders!

Please I need your sincere public opinion.

I have a friend, we actually met on a Facebook group since 2022 and we have been really close, never met physically. He recently got into the world of tech and he has been doing very well for himself. He's actually working for one of the top fintech remotely.

He has encouraged me multiple times to come stay with him for some time so I can learn tech as my blue collar job is really taking tolls on me with a meagre pay, but he is a member of a known violent cult group predominantly in South West.

I am scared to take this step as I don't want to be a victim of misplaced identity and caught in their notorious clashes we see everyday.

I do really want to improve on myself as I am barely living from hand to mouth as a family man and health wisely I am not enjoying good health with my blue collar job.

Please say a word of advise to me. Thank you.!

Cc
lalasticlala,Mynd44,OAM4J,Nlfpmod,Dominiqu

Notavictim:
Hello Nlanders!

Please I need your sincere public opinion.

I have a friend, we actually met on a Facebook group since 2022 and we have been really close, never met physically. He recently got into the world of tech and he has been doing very well for himself. He's actually working for one of the top fintech remotely.

He has encouraged me multiple times to come stay with him for some time so I can learn tech as my blue collar job is really taking tolls on me with a meagre pay, but he is a member of a known violent cult group predominantly in South West.

I am scared to take this step as I don't want to be a victim of misplaced identity and caught in their notorious clashes we see everyday.

I do really want to improve on myself as I am barely living from hand to mouth as a family man and health wisely I am not enjoying good health with my blue collar job.

Please say a word of advise to me. Thank you.!

Cc
lalasticlala,Mynd44,OAM4J,Nlfpmod,Dominiqu

Go to Twitter and follow Naija confra and see how deadly these people can be. This afternoon I read where an innocent person was gruesomely murdered by a rival who came looking for the elder brother of the guy they killed. The pictures is so gory and I wept.

Fetula4u:
Better stay for your mama house 🏠

I am a family man sir and I still stay for my mama house. I want to go out there to better my life

vikgreen01:
Go to Twitter and follow Naija confra and see how deadly these people can be. This afternoon I read where an innocent person was gruesomely murdered by a rival who came looking for the elder brother of the guy they killed. The pictures is so gory and I wept.

I am on that page sir. That guy is really exposing their evil activities. I see those updates daily that's why I am scared...

Notavictim:
I am on that page sir. That guy is really exposing their evil activities. I see those updates daily that's why I am scared...

Better have a rethink

vikgreen01:
Better have a rethink

Thank you sir

It's either this story is fake (most probably) or, you're just not serious

KillahPriest:
It's either this story is fake (most probably) or, you're just not serious

The story is not fake sir and I am serious. What do you have to advice me...

Thank you for opening up. What you're going through is serious, and your concerns are entirely valid — especially as a family man and someone trying to make a better life for yourself.

Here’s my sincere opinion, grounded in care and honesty:

⚠️ Your safety comes first. Always.
No opportunity — no matter how promising — is worth putting your life or safety at risk. Your friend's connection to a violent cult group raises serious red flags, especially if this group is known for clashes, reprisals, or criminal activity. Even if your friend has never harmed you or anyone else, proximity to danger increases your chances of being caught up in it — whether intentionally or not.

You mentioned being afraid of misplaced identity — that’s not paranoia; that’s wisdom. We've seen too many tragic cases of people being in the wrong place at the wrong time, especially in areas where cult-related violence is real.

💡 But your desire to learn tech is absolutely commendable.
Wanting to escape a draining blue-collar job and build something better for yourself and your family is a strong and admirable motivation. Tech has opened doors for so many people — including those who started with nothing. So yes, you should pursue tech. But do it strategically and safely.

🚀 What you can do instead:
Here are some realistic, safer steps to start your tech journey without taking a dangerous risk:

Learn Online: There are free or low-cost platforms where thousands have learned tech from scratch — coding, design, data, digital marketing, etc.

FreeCodeCamp, CS50 by Harvard (YouTube), Coursera, Scrimba, Sololearn, Google Digital Skills, and more.

Many successful Nigerian developers started from YouTube and free platforms before getting remote jobs.

Join Tech Communities (safely and virtually):

WhatsApp groups, Telegram channels, Twitter/X communities, and Discord servers full of Nigerian devs, designers, data analysts, etc.

Ask questions, network, and share your progress.

Mentorship at a Distance:
Your friend can still mentor you remotely. Ask him to guide you online, help review your work, or recommend learning paths — without you needing to live with him.

Look into Scholarships or Tech Bootcamps:
Some Nigerian initiatives like ALX Africa, HNG Internship, or Utiva offer training and even stipends.

Side Learning: If you can manage even 1 hour a day after work, that small commitment compounds over time. Many people who switched to tech didn’t quit their jobs immediately — they transitioned gradually.

❤️ Final Thoughts
You are doing the right thing by thinking critically. You’re not weak — you’re responsible. Your fear isn’t cowardice — it’s wisdom born from experience.

You can change your life — but do it smartly, not dangerously. Your health, your safety, and your family need you alive and growing. Let your hunger for a better life guide you — just don’t let desperation blind you to the risks.

Notavictim:
Hello Nlanders!

Please I need your sincere public opinion.

I have a friend, we actually met on a Facebook group since 2022 and we have been really close, never met physically. He recently got into the world of tech and he has been doing very well for himself. He's actually working for one of the top fintech remotely.

He has encouraged me multiple times to come stay with him for some time so I can learn tech as my blue collar job is really taking tolls on me with a meagre pay, but he is a member of a known violent cult group predominantly in South West.

I am scared to take this step as I don't want to be a victim of misplaced identity and caught in their notorious clashes we see everyday.

I do really want to improve on myself as I am barely living from hand to mouth as a family man and health wisely I am not enjoying good health with my blue collar job.

Please say a word of advise to me. Thank you.!

Cc lalasticlala,Mynd44,Nlfpmod

lavylilly:
Thank you for opening up. What you're going through is serious, and your concerns are entirely valid — especially as a family man and someone trying to make a better life for yourself.

Here’s my sincere opinion, grounded in care and honesty:

⚠️ Your safety comes first. Always.
No opportunity — no matter how promising — is worth putting your life or safety at risk. Your friend's connection to a violent cult group raises serious red flags, especially if this group is known for clashes, reprisals, or criminal activity. Even if your friend has never harmed you or anyone else, proximity to danger increases your chances of being caught up in it — whether intentionally or not.

You mentioned being afraid of misplaced identity — that’s not paranoia; that’s wisdom. We've seen too many tragic cases of people being in the wrong place at the wrong time, especially in areas where cult-related violence is real.

💡 But your desire to learn tech is absolutely commendable.
Wanting to escape a draining blue-collar job and build something better for yourself and your family is a strong and admirable motivation. Tech has opened doors for so many people — including those who started with nothing. So yes, you should pursue tech. But do it strategically and safely.

🚀 What you can do instead:
Here are some realistic, safer steps to start your tech journey without taking a dangerous risk:

Learn Online: There are free or low-cost platforms where thousands have learned tech from scratch — coding, design, data, digital marketing, etc.

FreeCodeCamp, CS50 by Harvard (YouTube), Coursera, Scrimba, Sololearn, Google Digital Skills, and more.

Many successful Nigerian developers started from YouTube and free platforms before getting remote jobs.

Join Tech Communities (safely and virtually):

WhatsApp groups, Telegram channels, Twitter/X communities, and Discord servers full of Nigerian devs, designers, data analysts, etc.

Ask questions, network, and share your progress.

Mentorship at a Distance:
Your friend can still mentor you remotely. Ask him to guide you online, help review your work, or recommend learning paths — without you needing to live with him.

Look into Scholarships or Tech Bootcamps:
Some Nigerian initiatives like ALX Africa, HNG Internship, or Utiva offer training and even stipends.

Side Learning: If you can manage even 1 hour a day after work, that small commitment compounds over time. Many people who switched to tech didn’t quit their jobs immediately — they transitioned gradually.

❤️ Final Thoughts
You are doing the right thing by thinking critically. You’re not weak — you’re responsible. Your fear isn’t cowardice — it’s wisdom born from experience.

You can change your life — but do it smartly, not dangerously. Your health, your safety, and your family need you alive and growing. Let your hunger for a better life guide you — just don’t let desperation blind you to the risks.

This will live with me forever in my memory. Thank you so much for this wonderful input. I am indeed grateful.
Happy new week and stay blessed.

Follow your instincts.