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Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

If this woman has not been seeing other men, then am wrong, either you like it or not, the woman you put for house never Loved you from the beginning. You forced yourself on her with your spending.

Go your separate ways

All I can say is...
THE LION IS NOT A DOMESTIC ANIMAL!
no b!tch born of a woman dare try such nonsense with me!
# been there, done that

Marriage requires lot of sacrifices
But
Peace of mind is paramount.

Double0h7:
He's obviously enabled her bad behaviour. He could adjust his ways and lead his home instead of running away at the first sight of a problem. He has a child with her, that child shouldn't suffer for his father's choices. Men are always shouting about being leaders but when things become hard they run away from their children. Their marriage is still new, everyone goes through hardship in the beginning of their marriage, until they finally understand each other. He sounds weak af!

You are a lady I guess.
He's weak, but in his weakness, he open a business of 3m for her, but she choose to press phone at home, 3m worth of naira gone, when they are ladies that are just looking for 500k to start a little business, some just need 100k to start selling groundnut, and some little things.
All marriages have ups and down at the early stages, If your partner is reasonable and understanding, then you guys can work things out, but not in this case, and I don't think you understood the write up. I don't blame her, he's at fault, that's what you get when you try to buy a woman with money.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

She was never a good woman from the start and I know that you knew that but went ahead to marry her.
Let her go! She already have options.

Double0h7:
Reading...

how old is she?
I have 2 reasons for asking about her age

Sonnobax15:

Bro,the bitter truth is that your wife has left you emotionally....

There is nothing bitter about that!
She needs to drop off leaching him... Her eyes are already elsewhere.
He needs to save himself the burden and risk... Nothing bitter, he got off easy... Life intact, no scandals.

I just escaped from my liability woman too. Now my savings has increased. Bro let her go, your life won't remain the same.

[quote author=emmaodet post=135497556]
Advance, you sure say you go enter heaven this Sunday so?
To be honest, it is the ego for me.
These modern ladies have so so so much ego.
You will see a stark broke lady claiming she has taste, how biko?
How can you be broke yet have high taste and wild mouth? Just make it make sense to me.
The kind shege wey dey wait for her outside ehn, all the men deceiving her will all chop and clean mouth and dump her.
It's cheaper sleeping with a married woman since the financial burden is mostly not on you - house rent, kids sch fees, clothes etc
That is why one of the best sex you will have is school sex because the financial burden is not on you, rather her parent.

So mostly you people bang like rabbits and when she is going, you can give her peanut but sex after school? Na there wahala go dey start[/

quote] this part week me oo you actually nailed it bro.

You will die early and untimely if you don't let her go. She may even push you to do something you will regret.

Let her go for good, marriage is not a do or die affair. She thinks it's easy for unmarried, single mothers and divorcees, allow her to find out herself.

Lastly, you got her with money and now she has placed too much expectations on you and the marriage. Give yourself Sense and let her go.

No let any woman stress your mental health… Let go and live your life marriage no b by force

anonimi:
How many days or weeks ago was this incident?

Why are you not separated since then

He is not a serious individual. He complains for a living

TheWebbers:
I saw your matchmaking post from last year. Na that woman you marry?

Abi this your marriage issue na after your divorce?

Matchmaking wey be say na slap I take end am. Mtwee.

Mummyfour:
how old is she?
I have 2 reasons for asking about her age

And I know the exact reasons you're asking. They also crossed my mind

How many children did she had for you? Before I will know what to comment

Your funny bro
You should even be happy she's leaving
Let her go and don't tell any family member
She'll come to beg you later


We married gang must be sharp

I actually like the comments I read on all pages of this thread. It shows men are beginning to wake up. Never negotiate your peace of mind fellas, nothing is worth more than it.

Double0h7:
Reading...

U married her with money
Only money can keep her

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Stupidity.

The notion that a man's primary role is to provide food for the family, particularly when financial resources are limited, can be misguided. Marriage is a partnership, not a dependency, and both spouses should contribute to the household's well-being. Selecting a partner who is self-sufficient and capable of sharing responsibilities is critical to a balanced relationship.
As a responsible father, my focus is on significant family obligations, such as:
Constructing homes in both my village and the city where we reside.
Covering children's school fees and related educational expenses.
Ensuring timely payment of rent.
Organizing family outings approximately every two weeks.
Prioritizing personal development through additional training and certifications.
Providing emotional and physical support for the family.
It is reasonable to expect that a spouse, equipped with their own capabilities, should contribute to basic household needs, such as food provision. Marriage should not be viewed as a means to alleviate poverty, and both partners must actively support the family unit. Life is finite, and it is essential to make the most of it by fostering mutual respect and shared responsibility in relationships.


We only have one life to live, make best use of it.if you die you die Sara, on your burial day, another man go dey kiss and smush your wife to-to inside room.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Let me tell you the last thing you need to hear..She’s still with you cause your replacement is on the way and once she sees your replacement,it’s over..We won’t lose another brother to depression so be wise..

Lifestone:
Things dey happen o

oh! Hey shock you?

During your courtship, you made her believed you are dangote, why complain now?
The signs were there during courtship but you ignored them.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

What scares me about marriage is not knowing the IQ of the spouse you're getting married to.. some people are not just intelligent, there are things you don't say or do to your partner but their own level of reasoning no reach that stage.

Why will you be blackmailing your husband that you'll leave the marriage over every arguement?.. that's immaturity laced with stupidity.

advanceDNA:
..but u ddnt even give him any advice how to keep living with a woman who doesn't want to live with him.? Yet u dey tackle others

Just dey reason and talk exactly like me. Kudos bro.

Africonji:
Bro, if you've been married long enough, or heard enough sad tales from experienced men, you'll understand that this statement of yours isn't exactly true. You know why? People change. That's why. That woman you think is the right person today might flip on you later in life, under same or different conditions. It is what it is.

My advice for young unmarried men is to hope for the best while preparing for the worst in marriage, coz women can be very unstable emotionally. She'll likely flip on you as you both age, at some point. Again, it is what it is.

Exactly...you are right

Be the right person and find the right person... however to enjoy the right person ..ensure to lower your expectations....yet still find the right person . Thanks

You really tried for your woman and you spoiled her from the beginning. A woman you have not married and you stated treating her as if she is already your wife. She is used to too much comfort from you and she is not readily to consider your current purse. My brother if I were you I will drop her like piece of used tissue paper. She does not deserve a pity or second chance. She is already threatened you and you are still waiting for for what to do ??

She wants to enjoy life . Let her be , by the time she begins to jump from one man to the other and compare what he is getting to from them to what he used to get from you , she will realize she has lost a good man like you. Dump her and move on with your life. Many like her are on the street regretting their actions but it's too late.

Chief2410:
Bros,human nature is fickle.even with this your method,you fit still fall victim.The moment a man decides to marry,he should hope for the best but also expect the worst case scenario.

You are right

However , I never said anyone is perfect...but there are certain things that has to be there before you take anyone seriously...that can somehow guarantee your longevity.. moreso, we all need to lower our expectations on people generally...especially with women....

Anyone can mess you up....your close pal...your parents...your siblings...your friends...your colleagues.....so it's not just your woman in the house....

This is Life

omolasho:
I have made same mistake though. But come to now think of it base on my present experiences, why do men end up with bad wife?: major reason is premarital sex(FORNICATION)!

No girl suddenly change after marriage. The red flag were there staring at you in the face always. You saw them all but lacked the ability to ACT bcause your psyche was DROSS and reflex NUMBED through sex with her.

A woman without her virginity is a LovePeddler, prostitute. Trying to be “reasonable” is settling for the least and expecting the best after marriage.

The day you marry such was the day you formerly told her, “i have no honour”, and shouldnt be treated honourably.

For the unmarried stay away from fornication and you may never need to pray to get a good wife because you will see them to the bone like Xray machine. I wish you grace of Jesus Christ!

Aptly put 👌

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Let her go. She married for the wrong reasons

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.

Makaveli217:
You are a lady I guess.
He's weak, but in his weakness, he open a business of 3m for her, but she choose to press phone at home, 3m worth of naira gone, when they are ladies that are just looking for 500k to start a little business, some just need 100k to start selling groundnut, and some little things.
All marriages have ups and down at the early stages, If your partner is reasonable and understanding, then you guys can work things out, but not in this case, and I don't think you understood the write up. I don't blame her, he's at fault, that's what you get when you try to buy a woman with money.

You clearly don't have money.
What should he have attracted her with?
A big dick?
Love songs?
What should he have attracted her with?
What do you attract woman with?