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Former Big Brother Naija housemate Doyin David has addressed the tendency of some men to s3xualise women upon first meeting them, focusing on physical attraction without seeking to understand them as individuals.

During a recent appearance on the dating-focused talk show ‘Thanks For Coming’, hosted by Grand Prince Ita, Doyin stressed that while s3x is important, she is a complete person beyond her physicality.

“Most times when a guy meets a girl, it’s very easy for them to s3xualise her. What’s s3x going to look like with this person, without getting to know the person. S3x is important to me, but I’m a whole human being outside of my vagina,” she said.

Doyin also discussed the challenges of dating in Nigeria, describing it as highly stressful for both genders and noting that she hasn’t gone out on a date for several months due to these difficulties.

“It’s been a minute, to be honest. A couple of months ago. Dating in Nigeria these days is an extreme sport. It’s hectic,” she said.

She added that she remains open to emotional vulnerability and submission but only for a partner who truly earns it.

“I will be submissive for the right man,” Doyin said.

Speaking of her ideal partner, Doyin highlighted the importance of a man who listens actively and adjusts his behavior based on her concerns, viewing these traits as key indicators of a strong relationship.

Tallesty1:
Her frustration is valid, but she is also very, very foolish. Yes, men reduce women to their physical appearance at first glance, which is understandable since you have to tell them or show them what they’re not seeing—and it ends there. But what she, just like every other woman, often leaves unexamined is that the culture women criticize is also one they help construct.

If you invite 20 celebrities to an event, 10 men and 10 women. The men will come nicely or weirdly dressed. The women will wear expensive clothes that covered everywhere except the places clothes where originally meant to cover, the two decently dressed women will cheer them on and snap them for us at home to see.

We now live in an era where empowerment is often expressed through hypersexualized imagery. While everyone has the right to bodily autonomy, we can’t ignore the contradictions: the same platforms where women demand to be seen as more than their bodies are often the very ones where many self-objectify for attention, monetization, or validation.

Religion teaches that modesty isn’t oppression; it’s intentional dignity. Philosophy reminds us that freedom without restraint collapses into chaos. Academically, we know objectification is a two-way transaction: it requires both the objectifier and the one willingly objectified.

So yes, women are more than their bodies. But accountability requires examining how they present themselves to the world as much as how the world perceives them. You can’t wear a costume and be angry that you’re cast in a role. If you want a culture that sees the whole woman, you must help build one that honors her whole image—mind, body, and spirit.

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