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Lols.. How you guys turn to family Lawyers in NLand baffles me 😩

Futuristica:
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

This is your first big mistake... You don't threaten your partner with divorce, she would get use to it and prepare for such ...

SmellingAnus:
This is your first big mistake... You don't threaten your partner with divorce, she would get use to it and prepare for such ...

You are right

Futuristica:
Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?

that message is neither here nor there. Both of you need to see a marriage counselor ASAP and you need to learn to chill out, grow up and try making peace with madam. In fact, when last did you guys go for a romantic getaway even if it's for a weekend ?

KillahPriest:
that message is neither here nor there. Both of you need to see a marriage counselor ASAP and you need to learn to chill out, grow up and try making peace with madam. In fact, when last did you guys go for a romantic getaway even if it's for a weekend ?

She is not the outgoing type..we spent time away from home but she always looks unhappy and I feel she is just getting by..my thoughts sha..because she keeps a frowning face by default..lol

shortgun:
He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

You have a point sha

Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

divorce or break up....
She has emotionally signed out long time ago

She don cross carpet my guy.

She wan decamp.

For her to ask for divorce means she's cheating and proud about it...

Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

This comment just confirmed you're a kid

Chinny024:
Lols.. How you guys turn to family Lawyers in NLand baffles me 😩

You dey mind them?

Sope kini, sope otilo
In her head, She's already your ex wife, na you just dey struggle to hold on to her

I don't even know what to say to you, because I don't know how to advice a man that wants to remain in a marriage where he is not respected, not loved and taken for granted.

Are u handicapped,
Are u unemployed or jobless,
is she the breadwinner of the house,
are you obese,
do you have mouth or body odour
Are you unintelligent

Because I don't understand how a man with full penis will have low self esteem and be tolerating shit in the first place. Even men without working penis are taking charge and having their woman respect them

Why are you going through a woman's phone?

Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

Exactly.. the very moment a woman says go ahead and divorce me, just know that marriage otilo. No just waste your Time

Simp. Give her a divorce immediately. She have cheated on you.

Fork that her friend, you will know the truth

Zonefree:
Nawao.

God is your strength.

The gods are his strength.

His problem requires more than 1 deity.

You confronted her too early. This message is too vague. You should have dug for more information, you've furthered given her money ammo against you.

Futuristica:
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

Check your spermcount and sperm parameters ?

Take her to a pelvic \uss scan .. hormonal assay too.

Why a whole 7yrs

Apcshit:
Why are you going through a woman's phone?

Help me ask him o!

Futuristica:
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

As you dont have kids together is a blessing for you. Ask her if she wants a divorce and please brother give it to her and find love again before age starts creeping on you.

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

Hmmm...nkan be

Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

If na me she for don go since oo.

I can tolerate a woman not knowing how to cook as I can cook myself and even prefer to do the cooking, but I won't tolerate you talking to me anyhow. That one is not happening. If you make that mistake without apology, you're going.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Interesting

She no send you. You are the only one holding the marriage. Prepare your mind for anything in the nearest future. You ve lost your place in her heart

Never be a nice guy to women: marriage or otherwise. Rather b a gentleman but not a nice man.

Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Oga getout of here.

Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

You saw these red flags whole dating.

Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

Lost her womb?

Do you have money for surrogacy?

Ask her about the option of taking a 2nd wife ...

It's not ideal to suspect your spouse

Once suspicions sets in ...just end it.


Move on


Any day I start suspecting my wife....that's the end of our 10yrs marriage.

I never check her phone for once or be afraid of her whereabouts

Marriage is not for the faint hearted

Nothing here suggests she cheated or is cheating. However, you married a strange woman and let the gods guide you on whatever decision you want to make. From your explanations about her, I don't even know why you both are still together.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

r u not cheating?why are u bothered if she is cheating.na u and her gather come this life?all those Thgs no Dey bother me.U no be guy man.e no get any Toto when only one man Dey fork.once u come to terms with this u don overcome.