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Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

Tell am

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Can't you just walk away? The lady is not in love with you again

From the message, it appears she's having party with her colleague's husband. It's a dirty world, anything is possible

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

You no go give her the divorce make you rest?

Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

And you're still in the marriage? This might kuku b a fable

shortgun:
There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

. You maybe wrong . The wife maybe planning life in another city or country with another guy already that’s why the colleague said so because she’s aware of the plans .

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

how u take sure say d belle na u give am?
abi she abort am because no be ur own.
Make u try d reason different possibilities.
dey smart

Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

Go and marry a second wife

Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

hope say u get plans to give another woman belle?
or u choose to remain childless?

The third fictitious thread on the front page. Seun can do better than this nau🙄

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

You have a roommate and you are calling her your wife.
From your write up, you sound weak and she has preyed on your weakness for long.

If you are the type that barks and threatens your wife, but barely carry out any action, she will lose respect for you.

For her to ask you to give her a divorce shows that she's not scared of loosing you.

The video her friend sent may not be as harmful as you are thinking it, it can also mean something unpleasant.

She hinted she would miss her, did your wife go anywhere or travel that period?

If so, maybe she went to see a married man.

Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Run while you still have your legs. I say run.
The list you put up there might look like nothing to people that never experienced such, but I understand it because I've seen such; run away from that relationship.

shortgun:
A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.

too early ke.... Na until she put something for d man food arbi.... a cheating will can kill d husband

Can't you see you are driving her towards a suicidal thought? Are you not reading between the lines? When someone say we live once, it's either they have given up or are nonchalant. And from your words, you have been threatening her with divorce.
She can't cook or she doesn't cook, are you just knowing? After Seven years . Do you actually think a woman trying to make babies will be happy to lose pregnancy? Even now that she's diabetic, you still blame her for sugar intake, and you are the husband?
Ask yourself, are you really her husband or a man she share the bed with? If you can answer that, you will have solution to the issue of infidelity you are insinuating.

Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.

Well not really, FROM MY experience, women will say alot of rubbish without a care. A woman saying she wants a divorce shouldn't be a big deal especially if it's a word that's commonly used.

OP what do you want?

shortgun:
There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you

. The WE are other work colleagues and the close friend that’ll miss her . You can never say the wife is the one using the WE . The colleague is the one that sent the WE will miss you not the wife .

How can a single person referred to as WE ? The WE means I and others will miss you. Think .

Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

Chai! This one weak me.

Abeg make una adopt a a child and let her learn how to cook.

She's probably living like she got nothing to live for again.☹️

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

It's simple for her to tell you if you feel she cheated you should give her a divorce means she is definitely cheating and doesn't care about the marriage, so you have to quit that marriage immediately, if she cares about you she won't have answered you this way nonchalantly with an I don't give a damn attitude I wonder how you even met her to the extent of marrying her

Divorce her asap i know it might be hard for you, but that’s a hint she no longer in love with you, don’t reconcile, press further and tell her to expain what she meant by you give her a divorce, if she can’t explain what that chat means bru forget, it will be left unexplained and she will continue with her shit! She just told you with style(one of the ways a woman who is done with you would hint you) and yes , you gotta be a man by getting the message and taking the move first.. or you regret later

She's gone!
There's a saying..... You cannot snatch a man's wife, it's the woman that relocated.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Little boys are getting married unprepared.
How can you confront your wife with such a silly thing.
What's the evidence in that sh!t?
If you are mature enough, you should be patient and pretend as if you don't know what is happening until you get your evidence right.

Let me tell you what you should do.
Jee chuba ego. Go and hustle for money and more money.
Pretend as if your so called wife does not exist.
Women chase who does not chase them or give them too much attention.
You are giving too much attention without much money.
Forget about her and go out to make money and you will see how she will start rushing you.
Stop this bn too good without money.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Give her the divorce....when they tell u simps to avoids high mileage...una go de talk say it was in her past ... she gaslighted u into marrying her and she is gaslighting u into a divorce ... u are just her pup boy that she uses however she likes

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

There are two things you have to understand about women:
1. They DONT always mean what they say. Infact some women say things to see your reaction
2. A woman that is sexually attracted to a guy would never want to create a window to lose that guy.

Remember i said sexually attracted because some men mistake a woman attracted to you because you are capable with sexually attracted. A capable man is resource while a sexually attractive guy is connection. Resources are in abundance for women especially if she is gifted with looks.

This issue is not something you should ask others however you should ask yourself:
1. Does this go against my principles.
2. Does it affect the way you view your relationship.
3. If you find out the truth, are you willing to take the huge step of divorce.
4. Can you still trust her.
and the most important
5. Does she still respect you. Any lady that is in a relationship with you that doesn't respect you doesn't love you.

So sir it all depends on you.

this is very painful. I think itz time u face the truth and let her find her own happiness.

If u don't let her go now, she will be miserable and she will make life a living hell for you.

It is dangerous to live with a woman that doesn't love you. Very very dangerous.

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

wow 😧

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

every day you comeback from buy her ice cream, breakfast at home should be tea and bread ,get her a house help so that she doesn't do anything at home, 2 to 3 years from now you will be free from bondage.

We won't cheat and we won't tolerate a cheating partner

Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic

And if u leave her now she will blame the diabetes on u
See wahala when u put urself now?
Most men no dey hear word the moment u are saying hello to any girl start psyching her to gage her mental capacity cos most of these ladies are living in fantasy from how u look to how u feel and the family u will both have and the life too and when any of these starts to fall out of place she's subconsciously seeking another main actor. And again I hope u didn't sell her fake dream life by playing to her tune and trying to win her acceptance and approval with ur actions u perceived might move her towards u then now matter come cast she needs a new actor for the role. It's when u here things like I'm not feeling this, It's no more fun, I can't go on like this, It feels I'm in a cage blah blah blah... she's been seeking ways out of the ship. Na only babe when done outgrow those fantasy lifestyle, babe when done shed everything fake, babe that see u and the world at large for what it truly is U need dey reason now... The one willing to do the whole nine yards. God is ur strength oo

Chinny024:
Lols.. How you guys turn to family Lawyers in NLand baffles me 😩

honestly,even turn marriage counsellors

Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy

she frustrated already bro