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Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Porksupplyib: 2:21pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
I am sorry to say, but u shouldn't have shown her the message or insinuated anything. Until u have concrete evidence of something, never start asking questions out of assumption and fear.
Why?
1.) You won't get the real answer. U will definitely get a LIE
2.) U will make the person start being on the defensive and might even turn it all on u.

Next time, just take notes and pile ur evidence.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by SugarRay001: 2:23pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce
Werey don already deh make excuse for her ,,,pele happy sallah
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by godliman: 2:25pm On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you
Abeg, I don't buy your view at all. Let us call a spade a spade. The hand writing is on the wall. That woman is unfaithful period.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Dronedude(m): 2:28pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
You are a lucky man if she ask for a divorce; divorce her and move on.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Tats(m): 2:29pm On Jun 07, 2025
That her friend that sent the message was likely Japaing. Your wife did not even remember as she was shocked about your confrontation and doesn’t even care about the marriage anymore as she isn’t gaining anything being in it. She has lost her womb, she has been depressed but wasn’t really being comforted. She may have her flaws but she is going through a lot and needs support. If she isn’t the outgoing type, she probably never even had an affair even if she may have fantasised about it hence the video her friend sent. She just needs some love.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by gigabyte13: 2:32pm On Jun 07, 2025
Mr Man, you knew her ways and lifestyle very very well before you wifed her
You knew what you are wifing
No come dey expect pity on this forum
Let's hear from her too

Something is telling me
You are as guilty as her
Make l hear her side of the story first.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by neonly: 2:34pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
Probably.But if love is gone as they say,then what's left?
Don't listen to d OP
It never your fault guy
Once they fall out of love na blackmailing remain tto make you look like d devil
Guy find your way
God still love Iu dat why she never born for u
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by ravensckar(m): 2:35pm On Jun 07, 2025
adabaraabdul:
Well not really, FROM MY experience, women will say alot of rubbish without a care. A woman saying she wants a divorce shouldn't be a big deal especially if it's a word that's commonly used.
The Zonefree that you quoted is unmarried, na why him dey always yarn rubbish on marital issues. angry angry

If a woman is telling you that she wants a divorce, she's only whyning you. If she truly wants a divorce, she knows how to go about it.

My friend's wife packed out of the house in bits. She was moving her things bit by bit without the husband's knowledge. On the last day that she'd be leaving, she and bros even smash in the early hours. Only for bros to return from work and see that she had left. Everybody beg tire but she no return. Na since that day I start to dey fear women. cheesy cheesy
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by neonly: 2:35pm On Jun 07, 2025
joceey:
My brother how is it him?
She can't cook and still refuse to learn
Lost alot of money invested in her to ponzi scam
Still refuse to say she is sorry when she is wrong due to her been too egomaniac.
If na you will u be happy.
A wise man once told me this word (am sorry )is a big breakthrough that comes without any cost.
Look when trust is broken sorry means nothing
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Johnthesuccess: 2:37pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
She is done with you. Seek for divorce as quickly as possible. Make sure you are safe. Be very careful at home so she won't poisson you. Don't worry about the children,they would be alright. They have their life to use,you own life and safety matters now. Be very wary of family advise not to divorce,they are not in the picture. Good luck to you.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Johnthesuccess: 2:39pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
And you never saw all these during your courtship? Of course you did. You were blindly in love.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Bwaal(m): 2:39pm On Jun 07, 2025
favour32:
Person wey lost her womb, go dey triggered emotionally with any little thing.
If una nor settle matter, make una go una way.
exactly my POV , she is probably acting that way cuz she sees no reason to life she is psychologically not fit , she needs help
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Prechgold1180(m): 2:42pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
Bro you ignored the red flags during. Dating.


Reason why I can’t do expensive wedding

Once you act anyhow u are out of my house

Marrying a wrong woman in this present age is same thing as suicide
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by slimik: 2:48pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
Oga run DNA ASAP!
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Cleanthes: 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2025
it was a power of a gigantic cucumber, bro move on with your she is gone
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by GboyegaD(m): 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o
Could she be scared of you eventually leaving her because she's lost her womb and had no child for you? I feel there are many sides to this and counseling can help you both decide what the next best action will be i.e. either you remain together and work it out or go your separate ways.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by ak22(m): 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
This how my first wife started then . just get prepared so that it won't come like a surprise to you.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Trendtips(f): 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
Oh dear
I think you guys should stay away from each other and move on
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Patojargz: 2:51pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
Otilo!
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by shortgun(m): 2:53pm On Jun 07, 2025
alobright17:
. The WE are other work colleagues and the close friend that’ll miss her . You can never say the wife is the one using the WE . The colleague is the one that sent the WE will miss you not the wife .

How can a single person referred to as WE ? The WE means I and others will miss you. Think .
There's no "We" anywhere on the caption
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Blackdisciple(m): 2:53pm On Jun 07, 2025
she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce

She lied to you not remembering the message on her phone.
@bold she has made herself clear so the choice is yours...
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by AngelahFlo(m): 3:01pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic
My Guy your cross is a heavy one o. I pray you have the Grace to carry it.
I won't tell you what to do. Search your heart and figure the next step to take and be ready for the consequences.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by OluwatobiJoshua: 3:02pm On Jun 07, 2025
She was done with you like 6 months before that WhatsApp post. Think deep about it.
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Neveragaininthi: 3:05pm On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife
Very well said bro especially if she too had at any point in time found out he cheated
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by alobright17(m): 3:07pm On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
There's no "We" anywhere on the caption
But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much You mean you read the post without seeing this most important line ? Gosh are you kidding me right now ?
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 3:09pm On Jun 07, 2025
alobright17:
But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much You mean you read the post without seeing this most important line ? Gosh are you kidding me right now ?
Is there a 'we'?
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by shortgun(m): 3:09pm On Jun 07, 2025
alobright17:
But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much You mean you read the post without seeing this most important line ? Gosh are you kidding me right now ?
There's nothing like that in the post.
Check the post again
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Neveragaininthi: 3:11pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy
Please take it easy with her.she is frustrated and not cheating. A woman who lost her womb is very emotional and easily triggered. Do ubkniw what that mean? Imagine if for any reason in that marriage u become infertile. Life is uncertain. This is time to show more live. This life is very uncertain as we can only pray and hope for the best. Everything is not about pride and stubbornness. That decil u know is better than the Angel you don't know. May God bless your home n restore peace and love
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Okhuadams(m): 3:11pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
Just know that she is already testing and receiving another man's plantain in her pigeon hole
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Ndidi2: 3:14pm On Jun 07, 2025
Futuristica:
She is not the outgoing type..we spent time away from home but she always looks unhappy and I feel she is just getting by..my thoughts sha..because she keeps a frowning face by default..lol
which woman go de happy when she hasn't given birth n
7 years of marriage?
Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by alobright17(m): 3:14pm On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
There's nothing like that in the post.
Check the post again
Bros eyes Dey pain you or you’re just joking ? Say you did not see it instead of saying there’s nothing like that on the post . Now see the screenshot .

Re: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Neveragaininthi: 3:14pm On Jun 07, 2025
[quote author=Futuristica post=135657669][/quote]Please, do not be discouraged. Be a little bit emphatic towards her and watch how you will be rewarded
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