₦airaland Forum

SisterAnn:
Thank God!

Makes one wonder why he's so against him, if this is a true story.

So she is supposed to remain unmarried or what?
If case was reversed would you expect your loving and caring dad to stay single?

SisterAnn:
Thank God!

🙏🙏🙏
😭

Phabulous4:
That's what happens to people who are unproductive and liabilities others end up making decisions for them!

Nothing stopped your mum from staying in PH or any other less expensive town after your dad’s demise, rolling up her sleeves, and taking responsibility for her children.

There’s little you can do at this point. Make sure both feet are firmly planted on the riverbank before trying to save others from drowning.
Save yourself first, then come back for your siblings.
Wishing you Godspeed.

Amen Sir. Thank you
😭😭

SmileDance:
Then let them be, don't cut ties with your mother, even though you are hurt, don't show it anymore. Just move on with time they will stop seeing you as a child.

Ok
😭

cyberbro:
As I mentioned earlier, being mad isn't the solution. Your mum is probably lonely and she's too young to remain unmarried for the rest of her life...

Your mom has intimate and emotional needs and you won't understand.

Let her try out the new man's house and if God says that's not her position, it will eventually end in a break up, but she's too young to remain lonely...

😭

Chram:
😭

Take heart bro, I know how you feel. You just have to be a man and a big bro to your younger ones, it's all part of life.

Make sure you honour your dad by always upholding his positive values in the family. All the best.

Hmmmn,Life happen to your Mum,l think you should allow her to move on,it is not easy for one person to shoulder the responsibility of two people moreover your mother also need to be Happy too,
If She found happiness in the new Man please let her be,desiring love is a basic human need but many people fail to realise it,even if your siblings have to go with her to answer the new Man name let them go,at least they would be taken care of there.
I pray God make a way for you and your siblings but please ask your Mum what She really want and support her,it not easy been a widow.

cyberbro:
Take heart bro, I know how you feel. You just have to be a man and a big bro to your younger ones, it's all part of life.

Make sure you honour your dad by always upholding his positive values in the family. All the best.

Thanks

Glowqueen3:
Hmmmn,Life happen to your Mum,l think you should allow her to move on,it is not easy for one person to shoulder the responsibility of two people moreover your mother also need to be Happy too,
If She found happiness in the new Man please let her be,desiring love is a basic human need but many people fail to realise it,even if your siblings have to go with her to answer the new Man name let them go,at least they would be taken care of there.
I pray God make a way for you and your siblings but please ask your Mum what She really want and support her,it not easy been a widow.

Try to also consider how her children feel at this point in time

Small pikin brain.....wise people say '' The tin wey small pikin dey find chair to climb look, older person don already see am since''.....Infact, Op just go school for notin sake i swear....this one go school but school no pass through him at all....Nawa o

Chram:
✓ Try to also consider how her children feel at this point in time

You said you are currently in charge of providing for your mother and siblings, right? Don't you see that once your mother gets married, it would mean you would have more money for your siblings instead. And your mother may be able to finally chip in every now as then?

Guy free your mother. Let her remarry it's Biblical. I doubt she will abandon her children in the process forget about the tradition that forbids her taking them along. with time everything will normalise.

And what is wrong with that? I am sure if it was your dad, even if he marries 6 months after, it would not be an issue. Women are treated differently in our society.

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

Please let her remarry. Six years is long enough to restart her life

Very selfish boy, you no care for ya Mama happiness bah?

Kobojunkie:
You said you are currently in charge of providing for your mother and siblings, right? Don't you see that once your mother gets married, it would mean you would have more money for your siblings instead. And your mother may be able to finally chip in every now as then?

Guy, you're really disturbing me. Please kobojunkie, leave me alone. How many times will u comment and quote me on this thread?
Haba na!
Its becoming annoying now pls

Chram:
➜Guy, you're really disturbing me. Please kobojunkie, leave me alone. How many times will u comment and quote me on this thread? Haba na! Its becoming annoying now pls

Why do my questions upset you? That is what I would like to know. I didn't realize that there were only so many times a person was meant to comment on this particular thread.

Chram:
Guy, you're really disturbing me. Please kobojunkie, leave me alone. How many times will u comment and quote me on this thread?
Haba na!
Its becoming annoying now pls

It's annoying how you fabricate stories that are disjointed that can't stand any better scrutiny.

Is it just the APC economy that has made you so jobless, or you are just a lazy guy

https://www.nairaland.com/8444673/depression-led-me-into-seeking

https://www.nairaland.com/8444673/depression-led-me-into-seeking

https://www.nairaland.com/8445470/what-difference-evening-night

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

fake story

you must be very lazy and jobless

Kobojunkie:
Why do my questions upset you? That is what I would like to know. I didn't realize that there were only so many times a person was meant to comment on this particular thread.

ignore the guy abeg. has nothing better to do with his time than to write fake stories for engagement.

2mch:
Abomination for you to visit. Abomination for your younger siblings to move in with her. Which village are you from? I seriously doubt your story. So for 6yrs, your mother just sat in her fathers house doing nothing, after having kids and being widowed?

It's true. It's nor abomination for him to visit but he can't sleep over.

What exactly do u mean sat in her fathers house and did nothing? Did u not read that he has younger siblings? Are u the one caring for them?

olaolaking:
Hello, your write up shows that you have little experience of the reality of life.

Your mum is young and her body must demand for love and touch. It is not her but the body system. Haven't you heard that "we cannot cheat nature"? Unless you prefer her to be having secret affairs.

The best I will advice you is to let her remarry, however, you can suggest or find a suitable man for her outside your village so that all those concerns of yours can be eliminated

She has every right to remarry but not to the detriment of her children. That is what she's doing based on his writeup.

How would people go about talking or begging your mum. No name, no village name and no village address.
Omo, I think you are a script writer.

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

Don't be too emotional about it, 6years is a long time and life must go on let your mom enjoy her life. Let's assume your mom die today, won't your siblings live? You are the one being selfish here, get a grip of yourself and support her happiness. If she desire to remarry give her the necessary support.

Chram:
Why can't she also consider the wellbeing of her children by waiting until we are old enough to at least handle ourselves?
Mothers are meant to make sacrifices

You just being inconsiderate or one sided. Think about those children that lost their mom at a very tender age. Don't they survive? You want her to consider the wellbeing of her children, do you also consider her feelings and happiness. She want to remarry, so what's the big deal, give her the necessary support be a good son or would you rather her widowed for the rest of life or to start sleeping around with different men in the village. Don't forget that her happiness also matter. Get a grip of yourself

immortalcrown:
Your caption says, "2 years after your dad's demise". Your post says, "Your dad died 6 years ago". No coherence.

[sub][/sub]

Anyways, your mother is still young, and it is not wrong for her to remarry. There is no dishonour in her marrying another man since she is not a divorcee and nobody has accused her of being responsible for the death of her first husband. Between she marrying another man and sleeping around, which one do you prefer?

Blame your barbaric tradition, not your mother.

Some of you amaze me. How selfish can a mother be to abandon her kids who recently lost their dad to fend for themselves so she can go and marry another man? So who does she leave HER KIDS to take care of?

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

My brother, I feel you. My advice - Life can be tough and unforgiving, your best response is to BUILD UP yourself in faith so you get the Power to move on without bitterness. I mean pray a lot!!!

BRATISLAVA:
Makes one wonder why he's so against him, if this is a true story.

Definitely not a true story.

It's sad about your dad, but she deserves a chance at happiness. Do you know that some people can live without sex while others can't. Some people can live without marriage while others cannot?
Let's focus on supporting each other rather than trying to control others' lives—that can be hurtful. On a different note, let me give you a practical advice, learning a skill can be beneficial. It can to provide you financial stability, help with family responsibilities, and potentially pave the way for your education. Balancing life's demands is tough, but you finding the right approach can make a big difference...

See this childish mentality... If you were in her shoes, what would you have done?
If it were to be ur father that is marrying after ur mother has died, would you have stopped him?
Because she gave birth to you, she shouldn't have a life for her own.