₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
I am not you spec and I woke up thankful for that. ❤️❤️❤️

Don't mind my posts here o, Na cruise we dey catch o. You know say I love you my sweet poco. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Taquin:
Only women are expected to complete schooling and hop into marriage after. Nairaland men and their "desnseee" thinking.

Do you not think you would also be respected for getting married immediately afer school? Your mates that got married right after school and still doing well, do they have two heads?

All these village old men who found small money and thinks the world revolves around them.

What else are you going to call them? Evening newspaper, After 7, Frusttyrated women. Archaic bluudoody iduitsooytss.

LOL..Madam feminist. You are pained I love it.

Nature made it very clear. Production of ovaries have an expiry date. Give or take 15-20 years shelf life from the day you start menstruating.
Sperm production continues for a lifetime.

So the man can still wait, hustle, make money, get married at 40 and still build a meaningful family life.

See you, see menopause, I know that is why you are bitter.

That guy who you thought was too short, too poor, too ugly or too fat and not your spec, has moved on and is now firing on all cylinders with his pinopino chasis wife of 20-27 years. You still dey find Odogwu dream man wey dem mould with clay..

Jman06:
Don't mind my posts here o, Na cruise we dey catch o. You know say I love you my sweet poco. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Nice to know it is cruise. It means you have another shot at attracting a sweet 18. I was 18 22years ago. You see? I am not your spec.

pocohantas:
Nice to know it is cruise. It means you have another shot at attracting a sweet 18. I was 18 22years ago. You see? I am not your spec.

Are you serious?! Hmmmmm... That means you're 40? That's quite old o

pocohantas:
Nice to know it is cruise. It means you have another shot at attracting a sweet 18. I was 18 22years ago. You see? I am not your spec.

Haaa omo o lo farrrrr

Jman06:
Are you serious?! Hmmmmm... That means you're 40? That's quite old o

Very old. I am a relic. I use a walking stick and you can hear my bones cranking when I walk.
But I am thankful for long life. 🥰

RealityKings1:
Haaa omo o lo farrrrr

I know...😃

Jman06:
Are you serious?! Hmmmmm... That means you That's quite old o

She's not anything close to that

Chummynoni:
this topic must have hit a nerve. Try to get some rest, okay ? You will be alright.

She is 32 and has few years for her ovaries to expire.

I read her dairy..

RealityKings1:
She's not anything close to that

Abi o. Maybe she's just pulling my legs.

pocohantas:
Very old. I am a relic. I use a walking stick and you can hear my bones cranking when I walk.
But I am thankful for long life. 🥰




I know...😃

I know you're lying but continue

What in the world is the problem.

Page three and it's the guys commenting ,must you people wail on every thread, cant you just wake pass ni.

You see most of this 30 to 38yrs old women! I don't really pity them

When there are young 🌱 many suitors are coming for their hands but no! They're looking for Elon musk, bill gate kind of guys
And if you look logically rich men are 0.001% among the population of men!
And looking at the life of rich men, rich men got no time of settling down.

The other issues with Naija women especially, is there mindset and mentality, that's why foreigners from other Africa countries are taking your Nigeria men away from ya!

I can confidently tell you that no any African country men is as good as Nigeria men but ya Nigeria women are taken we for granted, hence ya entitled mentality!

Let me just tell you the truth! As a woman from 30 to 38yrs years old! You have to revamp your mindset, get ride of your entitled mentality and think like a man and play entirely different tactics to see your husband.

Men are so easy to get

ruthieo:
I am in need of a God fearing,responsible and serious husband[31-37]
I want a Christian
I am 31years
I live in lagos
I am AA
I am from delta state
Kindly dm if interested

Thanks

To you Nigerian women, responsible always means a rich guy. I am interested, I have a job but I'm not rich.

Dalohad:
She is 32 and has few years for her ovaries to expire.

I read her dairy..

please at what age does ovaries expires so I will know the type of evening newspaper I will go for because I want to have a child. Thanks bro

sweetkev:
To you Nigerian women, responsible always means a rich guy. I am interested, I have a job but I'm not rich.

Shoot your shot
Send a mail

It’s honestly frustrating. Too many times, real men—men who are building, striving, pushing through life with integrity—are overlooked. Why? Because they don’t come wrapped in flashy cars or a six-figure lifestyle. Instead, women chase after the ones who flaunt wealth and status, even if those men are already married or not ready for anything serious. Just “enjoy and go,” right?

Meanwhile, the good guys are left in the background, grinding, hoping to be seen—not because they have everything, but because they’re genuine. But suddenly, when age creeps up, when time starts talking, some women begin looking for those same men they once ignored. Hoping they’re still available, still patient. That’s not fair.

And to the men who take women over 35 as wives without asking real questions—what exactly was she doing all these years? Why was she missing when you were broke and grinding? Where was she when real love meant patience and vision?

People say love is love, but sometimes, it feels like respect and consistency get tossed aside until it’s too late.

These children derailed the thread

pocohantas:
Thanks for your concern.
Hopefully you don't age, lest you get reminded.
🙂🙂🙂

I have a feeling you must be very pretty in real life…

Make we connect obim…I’ll put a ring on that finger aswear

Trust me bro

I am looking for a second wife , make una help my nation, she must have big bom bom and round tummy.


The Qualities I want

Big bombom
Round tummy
Full legs
Feminine voice
5 feet 8 inches in height
Average standing boobs (not flat, not big)
Very respectful, any tribe we are not racist.
Must be a graduate but unemployed (I don't want working class lady)
Skin complexion doesn't matter, she must be neat especially her private ward.

JobAndVacancies:

Na so na.. that u finally got the man doesn't mean automatic stay in marriage. If u don't behave yourself, d same man will ask for divorce

pocohantas:
Medieval low-thinking humans.
They have so much to say on the evening newspapers they won't marry, but nothing to say on the good women they are dating or married to. I don't even know how that makes any LOGICAL sense.

Funnily enough, I am not even offended by the Name. I just wonder why they grab any opportunity to use that phrase.

I will create a topic addressing this issue later in the week.

If you go on google and type "evening newspaper", Nairaland is the only platform that brings out that phrase.

Seun should not limit nairaland's antibot to tribalistic comments but also take derogatory terms like this seriously. The idiots up there think I am afraid to respond to them. I quote one and I am banned immediately.

Dalohad:
LOL..Madam feminist. You are pained I love it.

Nature made it very clear. Production of ovaries have an expiry date. Give or take 15-20 years shelf life from the day you start menstruating.
Sperm production continues for a lifetime.

So the man can still wait, hustle, make money, get married at 40 and still build a meaningful family life.

See you, see menopause, I know that is why you are bitter.

That guy who you thought was too short, too poor, too ugly or too fat and not your spec, has moved on and is now firing on all cylinders with his wife. You still dey find dream man wey dem mould with clay..

LoL. Don't worry. Be very grateful for the antispam bot.

I wil have your time on Thursday.

O ti de oju e bayi

Taquin:
Funnily enough, I am not even offended by the Name. I just wonder why they grab any opportunity to use that phrase.

I will create a topic addressing this issue later in the week.

If you go on google and type "evening newspaper", Nairaland is the only platform that brings out that phrase.

Seun should not limit nairaland's antibot to tribalistic comments but also take derogatory terms like this seriously. The idiots up there think I am afraid to respond to them. I quote one and I am banned immediately.

Same here. It is how they act like they are the marriageable men but marry none. That is my grouse with them. Leave the evening newspapers and marry the morning newspapers. Why do you have to constantly remind us you don't want us? We have heard. Move on!

Adanambra1:
This thread is Dedicated to all the Ladies of age 30s above trusting for Marital Settlement in 2025/2026

We have lot of Unlearning and Relearning to do here

How to Position your Self in the right Spaces to be seen by Good fearing, Kind and Eligible Bachelors.
How to work on your Self Esteem , Self worth after a previous Draining Relations. and MORE

This Thread is going to be very inspiring. i will share my Noble , Genuine Experience
and guide you ladies on how to build the character, feel seen, position your self for marital Settlement in 2026.
and i trust the Holyspirit to help me on this Assignment


Notabene... Dearest all men. Kindly do not Spam this Thread.
this will enable to me articulate my points insightfully


As we grow, i will set up a Master Class.
Happy Deliberations
God bless you

It’s quite telling that conversations about unmarried women over 30 in Nigeria still centre around “positioning” for marriage as if women are commodities on a shelf. Marriage is not the ultimate achievement for all women, some are choosing to prioritise peace, purpose, and partnership on their own terms. Many of them are unlearning the harmful ideologies that reduce a woman’s worth to a man’s validation and relearning the value of self-determination, emotional safety, and mutual respect in relationships. Let’s stop perpetuating the myth that a woman’s 30s are a deadline. Globally, more women are choosing to have children later, pursue postgraduate degrees, lead organisations, and live fully. Globally, women are marrying and having children later—average first marriage now stands at 31.5 in the UK, 28.4 in the US, and in urban Nigeria, many marry in their late 20s to early 30s (ONS, 2023; US Census Bureau, 2023; NPC & ICF, 2019). In Europe for example, women aged 30–34 now account for the highest birth rates (ONS, 2022). Feminism and women's rights aren't anti-men or anti-Christian, they're about dignity and equity. The real work is not in begging for visibility but in dismantling the systems that tell women they’re invisible without a ring.

Oya make one come here , make we talk .. no shy o

Adanambra1:
This thread is Dedicated to all the Ladies of age 30s above trusting for Marital Settlement in 2025/2026

We have lot of Unlearning and Relearning to do here

How to Position your Self in the right Spaces to be seen by Good fearing, Kind and Eligible Bachelors.
How to work on your Self Esteem , Self worth after a previous Draining Relations. and MORE

This Thread is going to be very inspiring. i will share my Noble , Genuine Experience
and guide you ladies on how to build the character, feel seen, position your self for marital Settlement in 2026.
and i trust the Holyspirit to help me on this Assignment


Notabene... Dearest all men. Kindly do not Spam this Thread.
this will enable to me articulate my points insightfully


As we grow, i will set up a Master Class.
Happy Deliberations
God bless you

Fact is.. In Nigeria.. Men are in the ratio of 30/70...that is men are 30 and women are 70. Inside this 30, 20 are either abroad or in prison or psycia or stupid or extremely poor. So na only 10% reasonable men dey wey fit take care of woman. Inside this 10%...5% are looking for younger women with intelligence while 5% are simps.

Therefore, at 38 to 45, if you don't have reasonable cash or asset for the 5% simps, you don't have a chance.

Your options are -

1) poor guys, which you can make rich if you work together

2) A foolish man, which you can adjust to your taste

3) A non entity which will just answer the father figure while you go about your normal business.

Otherwise, just be financially stable and be a baby mama to anybody.

hartson:
Consider smart working lady.Hardworking is old school beside those ladies that works hard wear out fast especially when they are above 30

Thanks so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏

I love this piece

KingDashx:
Even if them share 100 women give each man for this world, women still plenty

LIES!

Fake statistics.

Even in my family of 7 boys and 1 girl, we know that men and women population are within 3% of each other. And definitely not as you put it.

eulogised:
It’s quite telling that conversations about unmarried women over 30 in Nigeria still centre around “positioning” for marriage as if women are commodities on a shelf. Marriage is not the ultimate achievement for all women, some are choosing to prioritise peace, purpose, and partnership on their own terms. Many of us are unlearning the harmful ideologies that reduce a woman’s worth to a man’s validation and relearning the value of self-determination, emotional safety, and mutual respect in relationships. Let’s stop perpetuating the myth that a woman’s 30s are a deadline. Globally, more women are choosing to have children later, pursue postgraduate degrees, lead organisations, and live fully. Globally, women are marrying and having children later—average first marriage now stands at 31.5 in the UK, 28.4 in the US, and in urban Nigeria, many marry in their late 20s to early 30s (ONS, 2023; US Census Bureau, 2023; NPC & ICF, 2019). In Europe for example, women aged 30–34 now account for the highest birth rates (ONS, 2022). Feminism and women's rights aren't anti-men or anti-Christian, they're about dignity and equity. The real work is not in begging for visibility but in dismantling the systems that tell women they’re invisible without a ring.

You want to make sense on nairaland... that's against the rules 💄 💅. This forum is an incel haven. Women are the cause of all problems including tinbulation. Thank you for trying though! ✌

nnamdi640:
The men most of them have moulded in their minds, are on their ways, they should hold on for a while, those men will soon arrive to marry them all.

You are angry that they have expectations. Don’t worry, you will understand why it isn’t criminal for a woman to have expectations when you’re older.