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This is probably the default reaction to a bad incident. The average person believes in the reject system as a coping mechanism amidst a terrible situation.
For example
Bad marriage ( it can never be me)
Losing wealth ( it can never be me)
Domestic violence ( it can never be me)
Plane crash ( it can never be me)

Surprisingly it keeps happening over and over again, this time to a different person who at a point might have said " it can never be me".
We are by default attracted to a good life, I doubt anyone would want to put themselves in a terrible situation out of boredom or some flimsy excuses.
So it's amusing that something beyond human control is treated with such levity.

Faith , words of affirmation and declarations are beautiful, as it is a motivation to achieve. A positive mindset that keeps the mind focused and determined. But is it enough to avert an accident?
Why do you think it could never be you in that bad relationship, accident, fire outbreak, disaster and several terrible situations?
Maybe some situations can be managed with better decision making,
Maybe it's a situation of being in the wrong place at the wrong time, Life is unpredictable.

In my opinion uncertainty is a fact in life and it cannot be managed. Everything is flexible except death.
There are situations that can be averted with better preparation and luck ( luck is a strong factor), but a lot of things are beyond human control.
You cannot be careful enough!
It's okay to be positive ( luck and hope should be your mantra)
I hope it doesn't happen to me, (it is a far better reaction )than outrightly believing it cannot happen to you because you assume,
your lifestyle is safe
Your security is tight
Your investment is enough
Your experience would help you navigate.

A plane crash spares no one.
Life is indeed unpredictable and luck will forever be a factor.
Exceptions like they say don't negate the rule!

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Good write up.

I think another side of this 'it can never be me' is also religion, specifically Christianity.

Christianity transformed all accidents and unfortunate events of life into (A) Revenge of God (Karma) or (B) A trial by God.

This completely robs all unfortunate events of its innocence.

danvon:
Good write up.

I think another side of this 'it can never be me' is also religion, specifically Christianity.

Christianity transformed all accidents and unfortunate events of life into (A) Revenge of God (Karma) or (B) A trial by God.

This completely robs all unfortunate events of its innocence.

I agree 💯. Religion can sometimes be extreme with their beliefs.
It can never be me in a religion setting, makes it feel like other people don't have access to God! And they all have issues because of that.

So in the context of " it can never be me" religious people assume that by virtue of proclamation they are exempted

Others who haven't experience it, think they are lucky while others are unlucky until they become victims..

Almost 80 percent of Christians does that..

Mekuseh11:
I agree 💯. Religion can sometimes be extreme with their beliefs.
It can never be me in a religion setting, makes it feel like other people don't have access to God! And they all have issues because of that.

So in the context of " it can never be me" religious people assume that by virtue of proclamation they are exempted

Learn from the mistakes of others I stead of allowing others to learn from your mistakes

You're right jare. Sometimes life can be very unpredictable, no matter how careful you choose to be.

Number one experts on this kind of crap is the group of people called New generation Christians with their slogan IT IS NOT MY PORTION like the person who has been met with some horrendous misfortune just happened to be predestined for such PORTION.
Another favourite cloak of theirs is DESTINY.
The way they mention it like everything has been revealed to them.

Look at all the carnage in Benue and Jos. Look at all the tanker explosions, kidnappings and even our collective agony under a long set of bad governments; Whose portion or destiny is it?

AllBlack:
Number one experts on this kind of crap is the group of people called New generation Christians with their slogan IT IS NOT MY PORTION like the person who has been met with some horrendous misfortune just happened to be predestined for such PORTION.
Another favourite cloak of theirs is DESTINY.
The way they mention it like everything has been revealed to them.

Look at all the carnage in Benue and Jos. Look at all the tanker explosions, kidnappings and even our collective agony under a long set of bad governments; Whose portion or destiny is it?

Rule number 1, never think it can't happen to you