₦airaland Forum

otipoju:
1. The person is not my friend.

2. I did not say he was arrested after seven years. I said after the arrest, he was unable to get a job for seven years.

Why? because the arrest went on his record and would show up on any employment background check rendering him ineligible for work until it fell of after seven years. That is what he told me.

3. I am not a lawyer but I know the laws will be different for different countries and except you tell me that it's a universal law.

Anybody know abroad if you commit a crime, you get a record and it will affect you significantly. It’s not news. Which is why you do not go around beating people. Except you have the IQ of a toddler. If you go around beating people they have every right to report you. If the marriage is so bad, leave. You don’t need to teach anyone a lesson. He simply got the consequences of his actions I am confused as to what your point is? That he should not have been reported? Will you agree to your daughter being battered by a husband because of marriage?

America is the most strict when it comes to legal consequences especially against black men. So, try as much as possible to attain maturity, self restraint and sense before traveling to America. Don’t rely on the fact that you can keep assaulting people and get away with it. Europe is less strict on such cases and their sentences are less. If they tell you to leave a house after you mess up, that person is actually being very nice to you and I advise you to leave immediately to deescalate a situation. Not come online and be telling lies like a saint. Police will not arrest you if there is no evidence of violence, they will tell the man to leave to go and cool down.

helinues:
Probably one side of the story.. Let's hear from the woman as well before we can judge

Whenever we are telling our stories, we are not been sincere enough to point out to our flaws as well, most narration is mostly about others while claiming victim

No matter what story the woman have to tell, its totally unacceptable to send your 62 yrs old husband outta the house in a strange land.

End time merciless wife

Lawd have mercy on him and

tunjijones:
➜No matter what story the woman have to tell, its totally unacceptable to send your 62 yrs old husband outta the house in a strange land.

Stop foaming in the mouth, abeg! He claims he was married for 28 years. Was he married to himself all that time? You need to hear the other side of the story, maybe to help you better understand why even a 62-year-old man is not too old for the consequences of his past actions.

Amitex:
Not new, many Nigerian women do not deserve better life than what they had in Nigeria.
Recommendation: If you must take your Nigerian wife abroad, agree on two things, howbeit, three. 1. If you are marrying her newly, sign a prenuptial agreement. That way, when she gets to Europe, America or UK, she will be careful.
2. If already married, put all your savings in a trust account with clear % for yourself, your children, and her. That way, when she tries to fleece or chase you out, the property reverts to the Trust company. When you divorce, the trust company will be dissolved and assets disposed and proceeds shared in proportion to the original agreed %.
Lastly, consult a lawyer before you invest in property. Preferably, make ownership clearly based on contributions. Otherwise buy it exclusively in your name or family Trust company name.

Marriages abroad is not like we see it in Nigeria. In Nigeria, we marry for family, abroad, it is contract.

Some or all of these things may not be enough protection against divorce loss of property to greedy women.

It may be better to minimise assets in the abroad and maximise assets in Nigeria, shielded as needed.

How come we don't get to hear the woman's perspective?

No reasonable person makes decisions after hearing from one party.

BTW, why did they censor his face?

Women are complicated by nature
Trust meeeeeeeeeee

He should remarry, this time to a foreign woman. They treat Naija men like kings.

Amitex:
Not new, many Nigerian women do not deserve better life than what they had in Nigeria.
Recommendation: If you must take your Nigerian wife abroad, agree on two things, howbeit, three. 1. If you are marrying her newly, sign a prenuptial agreement. That way, when she gets to Europe, America or UK, she will be careful.
2. If already married, put all your savings in a trust account with clear % for yourself, your children, and her. That way, when she tries to fleece or chase you out, the property reverts to the Trust company. When you divorce, the trust company will be dissolved and assets disposed and proceeds shared in proportion to the original agreed %.
Lastly, consult a lawyer before you invest in property. Preferably, make ownership clearly based on contributions. Otherwise buy it exclusively in your name or family Trust company name.

Marriages abroad is not like we see it in Nigeria. In Nigeria, we marry for family, abroad, it is contract.

Just use Hakimi style. Buy all ur properties and investments in ur mothers name. Down to my cars will be purchased in my mothers name. Let's see how she will chop me wen i'm penniless because technically, my mum owns all the properties.

Seems Mr. Man made some poor decisions in life. The wife had had enough of the BS.

ozo13:
please shed more slight about prenuptial agreement.
Some bannies as soon as they jand and saw free opportunity to acquire a man's property base on the law there, they will grab that opportunity and send the man packing.
I was hearing just few weeks ago one of my guy that was married before moving to UK have been deported because of his wife.na so fear catch me.

Just use Hakimi style. Buy all ur properties and investments in ur mothers name. Down to my cars will be purchased in my mothers name. Let's see how she will chop me wen i'm penniless because technically, my mum owns all the properties.

Una never see something this japa of a thing don ruin many people, homes and families,

Blitzking:
As a Nigerian man be ready to become boy boy to ur wife if she change am for you for yaabroad cos u dey at loosing end..just try dey get evidence..if kamala gas just commot house go ur paddy crib if dey deycheat dey build evidence..if she dey violent dey record am..
If u neva get ILR just bear your years of bandage. But abroad no like men at all

You mean the way she was your slave in Nigeria and you saw nothing wrong in it, but now the tables have seemingly turned there's righteous displeasure and claims of injustice?

Sure. Nigerian men must be prepared to endure the flip side of the privilege they once enjoyed in Nigeria.

Two people must suffer in this life

Simps and Feminists

bluefilm:
End time merciless wife

Lawd have mercy on him and

Lol. Why merciless? Was he merciless when they lived in Nigeria and she was in his shoes then?

pocohantas:
He should remarry, this time to a foreign woman. They treat Naija men like kings.

She might kill him for his excesses. No Nigerian man really wants that. He needs someone who will give him no consequences for his actions.

Good for the SIMP there's always this respect when you are abroad and she is in 9ja plus you spend less. If he keeps her in 9ja and just send her 500-700k every month which is not even up to 1k Pounds the woman will be worshipping him like a god. Come only 1 or 2 times to 9ja for a visit, men should learn how to become a value and not a commodity that can just be discarded
Women are mostly humble when they don't have the opportunity to show their serpent sides.

Since they can't learn from others stories,make them suffer the consequences.

bestman09:
Na wao!

My own blood sister divorced her husband who laboured to take her to London because he had issues with immigration and was deported, after 8 years of marriage!

And what did you do to her?

Nothing!!

Na men dey do men

BRATISLAVA:
She might kill him for his excesses. No Nigerian man really wants that. He needs someone who will give him no consequences for his actions.

She won't. Foreign women are not like that.
He can also stay single. Men do not benefit from marriage.

Amitex:
You can google.com, however in simple terms, it means that if you divorce, everyone goes with what they brought into the marriage. For example, you own a property abroad, when your wife joins you, it does not automatically revert to her when you divorce. The house remains yours, but without prenuptial agreement, she can chase you out of your own property.

can one do normal court wedding and prenuptial agreement at the same time?

So sad for him - hope they work things out.

pocohantas:
He should remarry, this time to a foreign woman. They treat Naija men like kings.

Hahahaha!
Of course.
Afterall,men are always the prize.
Team foreign women!

helinues:
Probably one side of the story.. Let's hear from the woman as well before we can judge

Whenever we are telling our stories, we are not been sincere enough to point out to our flaws as well, most narration is mostly about others while claiming victim

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmsDqD3rAYs

That’s the other side.

That's oyinbo marriage for you different from the one in need.

spiceadole:
Hahahaha!
Of course.
Afterall,men are always the prize.
Team foreign women!

They can marry sweet 14 at 65yrs.
Now is the time for this one to prove it.

Houseofglam7:
There’s always three(3) sides to every story; his side, her side and the truth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmsDqD3rAYs

The other side.

bestman09:
Na wao!

My own blood sister divorced her husband who laboured to take her to London because he had issues with immigration and was deported, after 8 years of marriage!

Nawa o. I hope your former brother in law is in a better place now ?

pocohantas:
They can marry sweet 14 at 65yrs.
Now is the time for this one to prove it.

You know the deal.
Real time to prove it
I wonder why the lamentations

spiceadole:
You know the deal.
Real time to prove it
I wonder why the lamentations

I would never understand it, Spice.
It is just a broken marriage. Men don't even need marriage. Now he is free. 🎉🎉