₦airaland Forum

2mch:
That guy lied to you. He can never be imprisoned for something that happened 15yrs ago, as long as it’s not murder. He certainly beat the wife and was arrested. A lot of these guys are too ashamed to tell the truth of what they did. This guy here is also probably lying. It’s better for him to be told to leave than to be arrested for what he probably did. Many Nigerian men respond to conflict with their fist. We all know this.

You guys argue a lot...what happened to P Diddy, R Kelly

Their offences were years ago

tonychristopher:
Japa...the greatest mistake married folks make

The simple reason is that submission-type marriage only works well in a system like the chaos you have in Nigeria. In saner climes, it breaks down quite easily.

tonychristopher:
➜You guys argue a lot...what happened to P Diddy, R Kelly. Their offences were years ago

Try to educate yourself on how the law works so you don't go around making ridiculous statements such as these. Statute of limitations on crimes vary.

tonychristopher:
You guys argue a lot...what happened to P Diddy, R Kelly

Their offences were years ago

R Kelly had relations with a minor which even if you are 100yrs you cannot escape. Diddy is facing charges of trafficking which were going on even as of recent.

Let men be deceiving themselves.this is what happens when you scorn a woman.
Remember those days when you bought a car for your side chick and your wife was still jumping keke.


I will give you two examples of a very bitter experience two women close to me experienced.

Aunty A has been trying to conceive.he got their maid pregnant and the maid will come and rub her baby bump in front of the aunty A and she will start crying.
Maid miscarried. He decided after much persuasion to do IVF,of which I supported the couple with most of the money.
The day she was ovulating aunty was calling him and laid naked on the bed after having shaved and cleaned up. Oga kicked her vagina and ran out of the room.

A lady B(not related to me) will come to my mom's women fellowship back in naija to always complain of her hubby.she did the same hairstyle her hubby side chick did to impress him and his response was," you think e fit you? If you no fine,you no fine.nothing fit change am"


Tell me when this women get abroad,what will they do?

Don't forget what men do in UK.you will study,work ,and still come back to house chores. And he will still expect you to submit your salary.

@gerrard59

BarrElChapo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmsDqD3rAYs

The other side.

Here we fuqin go!!!!
This is why I’m not in a hurry to react to posts like this!

Kobojunkie:
The law equally protects men from physical and mental assaults in marriage.

2. Rudeness is not against the law.

3. Are the women to blame or the men? The Law decides in each case.

..but why should a woman have the right to kick her husband out of the house in UK and abroad..the house the husband that is the owner of the house been kicked out by the wife and make him homeless ..does the UK law gives women such rights and power?...why is the UK law not against that and protect men from being kick out by their wives and make them homeless

pocohantas:
She won't. Foreign women are not like that.
He can also stay single. Men do not benefit from marriage.

Christian bums... that team foreign women guy will disagree with you on this. Although they tend to become tame, reasonable, equitable, partial, loving, humble and domesticated slaves once they encounter foreign women.

The irony is that he can't stay single. Nigerian men can't. They just nag online.

ufotunang:
➜..but why should a woman have the right to kick her husband out of the house in UK and abroad..
➜ the house the husband that is the owner of the house been kicked out by the wife and make him homeless ..
➜ does the UK law gives women such rights and power?
➜ ...why is the UK law not against that and protect men from being kick out by their wives and make them homeless

Where in the Law is it stated that a woman has the right to kick her husband out of the house in the UK and abroad?

2. Where in the Law is it stated that an owner can be kicked out of his home and made homeless by someone who does not own the house?

3. Neither the UK Law nor the laws in the U.S. have given women or anyone the right and power to do any of what you claim. So, I should be rightly asking you where you get these ideas that the Laws do what they do not state is possible.

4. Where in the UK Law is it stated that women have the right to kick men out of their own homes? You have yet to provide us with this detail, even as you continue to claim it a fact. How come?

Great100000:
Nigerian Man shamefully kicked out by his wife of 28 years narrates ordeal.

Despite being married for over 28 years back home in Nigeria, an African man cries out for help over fears of being homeless after being kicked out by his wife upon arrival in the UK.

Watch the video here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0KLzWiyito?si=QsXF7YlYxzrSjO42

Nigeria women never marry for love they marry for security

bigcasava1:
➜Nigeria women never marry for love they marry for security

Do Nigerian men marry for love, or are women merely NPCs for their manipulation and use?

Amitex:
Not new, many Nigerian women do not deserve better life than what they had in Nigeria.
Recommendation: If you must take your Nigerian wife abroad, agree on two things, howbeit, three. 1. If you are marrying her newly, sign a prenuptial agreement. That way, when she gets to Europe, America or UK, she will be careful.
2. If already married, put all your savings in a trust account with clear % for yourself, your children, and her. That way, when she tries to fleece or chase you out, the property reverts to the Trust company. When you divorce, the trust company will be dissolved and assets disposed and proceeds shared in proportion to the original agreed %.
Lastly, consult a lawyer before you invest in property. Preferably, make ownership clearly based on contributions. Otherwise buy it exclusively in your name or family Trust company name.

Marriages abroad is not like we see it in Nigeria. In Nigeria, we marry for family, abroad, it is contract.

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If one is having these thoughts in the first place, then there is no need taking her abroad.

BRATISLAVA:
Christian bums... that team foreign women guy will disagree with you on this. Although they tend to become tame, reasonable, equitable, partial, loving, humble and domesticated slaves once they encounter foreign women.

The irony is that he can't stay single. Nigerian men can't. They just nag online.

Lol! Trust me they have stopped marrying. I haven't seen a wedding in like 4yrs. Even the ones that marry are marrying from other countries. Nigerian women would kpai at Shiloh at this rate. 😩😩😩😩

Hehe hehe.....the issue is obvious

1. He didn't have a job for 1.5years of living abroad which means she's paying bills by herself
2. This guy na Igbo daddy, he most likely would be pulling the stunt of "our naanyi"
3. He was connected to his brotherhood but those ones are evicting him after 1.5 months
4. He is looking for people to aid his existence, feeding bills.


Hmmmm, while I understand that some of our naija women become unreasonable under the favorable laws of the west, this man is obviously not out to help himself.

Men should understand that when they move out of naija, they become equal partners with their wives and must contribute to the survival of their marriage financially and in-kind.

Same way they preach to you not to sell ur house to travel abroad but u didn't believe until u are facing it..



Don't send ur wife abroad una no dey hear 🙉 dead citizens of Nigeria

Tayorshd87:
➜Same way they preach to you not to sell ur house to travel abroad but u didn't believe until u are facing it..
Don't send ur wife abroad una no dey hear 🙉 dead citizens of Nigeria

The story does not state that the man sent the woman abroad. Rather, the man went abroad as a dependent, meaning his wife sponsored him.

Pythagoras001:
a judge can disregard a prenup if the woman lawyer can prove she was not in a right state of mind when she signed it and that no reasonable person would sign that prenup. If you are poor you can get married as you have nothing to lose. if you are middle class only get married to a middle class person because you would contribute almost equally to the marriage. If you are rich and can afford to setup and maintain asset protection scheme using corporate structure in tax haven do so. If not don't cohabitate, have baby mamas or even get married just keep a paid escort.

Well, a marriage contracted in a "not in a right state of mind" is null and void ab initio.

Kobojunkie:
So, na lie lie levels you dey now? I no blame you... na internet wey dey allow you knuckleheads tell these ridiculous tales I go blame.

Aahh, I tot we re on same page now
How cone u disown me instantly??

Pythagoras001:
➜a judge can disregard a prenup if the woman lawyer can prove she was not in a right state of mind when she signed it and that no reasonable person would sign that prenup. If you are poor you can get married as you have nothing to lose. if you are middle class only get married to a middle class person because you would contribute almost equally to the marriage. If you are rich and can afford to setup and maintain asset protection scheme using corporate structure in tax haven do so. If not don't cohabitate, have baby mamas or even get married, just keep a paid escort.

Talk about being penny-wise and pound-foolish! Keeping a paid escort is cheaper than having a wife?

OlawaleBammie:
➜Aahh, I tot we re on same page now How cone u disown me instantly??

What in he world are you going on about? You should probably go back through my comments to better understand my posts.

Kobojunkie:
What in he world are you going on about? You should probably go back through my comments to better understand my posts.

U know the funny thing? I didn't even know u made a comment. infaact I didn't care if u were on the thread or not, I just cared to pull ur legs and disturb you a little. Afterall it's bn a while na, old time lover.

OlawaleBammie:
➜U know the funny thing? I didn't even know u commended, infaact I didn't care if u were on the thread or not, I just cared to pull ur legs and disturb you a little. Afterall it's bn a while na, old time lover.

I don't remember what I ate this morning.🙄🙄🙄

I am afraid I don't remember any conversation we may have previously had, who you are, or why you think of me as this old-time lover. Ogbeni, my memory is not that sharp! Do I need to be blatant regarding these things? Make una no dey waste una time, abeg! 😏

Kobojunkie:
I don't remember what I ate this morning.🙄🙄🙄

I am afraid I don't remember any conversation we may have previously had, who you are, or why you think of me as this old-time lover. Ogbeni, my memory is not that sharp! Do I need to be blatant regarding these things? Make una no dey waste una time, abeg! 😏

Blatant regarding what??

Alaye calm down, u don't need ur memory here actually, I am just here to drag you, whine you, drag you and romance you till I get tired and run away as usual...

But today, I just want yuu to feel special like the days of old...

OlawaleBammie:
➜➜Blatant regarding what?? Alaye calm down, u don't need ur memory here actually, I am just here to drag you, whine you, drag you and romance you till I get tired and run away as usual... But today, I just want yuu to feel special like the days of old...

I am not that bored today, though. So, I will pass!

Kobojunkie:
I am not that bored today, though. So, I will pass!

So u re trying to say u don't need my jargons and sweet words today?

helinues:
Probably one side of the story.. Let's hear from the woman as well before we can judge

Whenever we are telling our stories, we are not been sincere enough to point out to our flaws as well, most narration is mostly about others while claiming victim

Quite true. It's always more beneficial to hear both sides of the story. I had a shocking experience recently

Should I say that oyibo government are stylishly striping African men of their children in order to replace their declining young population since they don't give birth to multiple children like Africans. All these men thrown out of their homes and possibly deported after divorce from their wives, their children will probably not come back to Africa again.

Maysdevices:
Arrest going on his record doesn’t mean he was convicted because there is no statute on limitations on assault

People in the first world value good behavior beyond your ability to perform. We are third worlders because we exhibit bad behavior and even congratulate each for it

Statute of limitations are mostly the same in all countries with a working judiciary

Of course he was not convicted because the wife declined to press charges.

But the arrest record used to turn up on his background search for domestic whatever.

And it affected his ability to get a job for a long time.

Even a traffic ticket will show up on your record.

For the Bible that married not according to the leading of the Lord. God can't make mistake. I sometimes empty money foru wife to keep. Bought my land in her name. Will do more in her name, hallelujah. Just ask God to give you a wife, that's all.

2mch:
Anybody know abroad if you commit a crime, you get a record and it will affect you significantly. It’s not news. Which is why you do not go around beating people. Except you have the IQ of a toddler. If you go around beating people they have every right to report you. If the marriage is so bad, leave. You don’t need to teach anyone a lesson. He simply got the consequences of his actions I am confused as to what your point is? That he should not have been reported? Will you agree to your daughter being battered by a husband because of marriage?

America is the most strict when it comes to legal consequences especially against black men. So, try as much as possible to attain maturity, self restraint and sense before traveling to America. Don’t rely on the fact that you can keep assaulting people and get away with it. Europe is less strict on such cases and their sentences are less. If they tell you to leave a house after you mess up, that person is actually being very nice to you and I advise you to leave immediately to deescalate a situation. Not come online and be telling lies like a saint. Police will not arrest you if there is no evidence of violence, they will tell the man to leave to go and cool down.

Of course I am not making any justification for whatever he did.

Nevertheless, you never see provocation before. When a person knows that he can say any mean and cruel thing and get away with it.


There was a day someone actually told me " you can beat me now" after saying many unprintable things. In spite of my anger I laughed and said...I never saw my dad beating my mom. I would be a bastard if I raise my hand on you. The trap you are setting for me will not work.

I don't know who you are but men are seeing things in this place. Some people will deliberately provoke you to hit them so that they can send you to jail and destroy your life.

Imagine experiencing this everyday.. most men eventually break unless they leer to recognize the triggers and and side step them.

I have one gift that has helped me in life so far. I am not afraid to loose everything and start afresh...and because i am not, I am in control of my emotions.