₦airaland Forum

ruffhandu:
➜They are talked into it after marriage, not really before

A woman who looks forward to having children before marriage would suddenly change her mind about them after marriage because someone talks them into it? Come on naw!

Chetas81:
➜you're not solving this problem,you're creating more, break up is the best

There is no problem to be solved given that the woman's choice is exactly that... not to have babies even in marriage. If you, as an individual, would rather have babies, then you should seek out only those women who would like to have babies with you. Simple!

Creamypie:
➜When she don turn 45, whether she born or not, make she come dey maintain shape for who. A woman, no matter how she put herself in shape, dey begin loose alignment, ball joint, rings and pistons go weak, same as chain and sprockets and plugz go cold. Buttom plate for oil go begin lose nut

Lots of women are doing exactly that, keeping their shape and maintaining it well into their 60s/70s as well. A woman's body is not a baby manufacturing machine. Yes, it can be used to manufacture babies, but she is not obligated to do so with it. That is her bodily freedom with it.

blackgold2018:
No man will allow that. Unless a stupid one. Then the lady is not yet ready to marry. Divorce her immediately

Stop lying! There are lots of even Nigerian men who would rather not have kids at all. And they do not forego marriage because of that. They simply seek out, date, and marry like-minded partners.

sofeo:
➜Only a fish brain will trade body shape for the blessing of womb.

Blessing that has contributed so much in turning life and living in Nigeria into a world-renowned curse? You people just no dey fit learn at all. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

alizma:
➜You forget her parents house? Send her back ASAP, over there her shape will remain same forever.

Like the man, she probably had a life outside of her parents' house before the marriage. She could simply go back to living that life and keeping her body... nothing wrong or unfascinating about that life.

Nelly4you:
➜Everybody with their own choice.. it's lame to judge people who decide what they want to do oth their lives.

You are talking here of those who have established themselves as womb-watchers coven... they decide what a woman can or cannot do with her very own womb. Fascinating, right?

Kobojunkie:
Preserving? It is merely about making choices like every human out there does, and nothing more. We will all die someday and become food for worms, but that does not imply we should all have children. Two different things entirely.

You and all these leftist satanic ideology of yours.

Hajokexyz:
➜This is serious. Better to know your partner's stand before marriage.

No mind OP and his coven! They refuse to learn the particulars of their partners in order to spot and avoid the red flags and potential tears. Something tells me many of these womb-watchers coven members intentionally ignore the red flags, only so they can pretend themselves victims after reality hits.

themanderon:
➜You and all these leftist satanic ideology of yours.

It isn't satanic that you think it is your place to decide for another what he/she can or cannot do with their own body, but it is satanic to call you out for being a control-obsessed? Anyways, na your kind dey know satan pass sef. That na una way, after all. 🙄🙄

Talkisneeded:
➜Crazy place the world is currently,one said she only wants ivf because she doesn’t want a father figure for her children

And so? Why are you unable to handle her right to choice?

Phut:
This is a skit nu?!
It even says Part 17.
Why then are so many posters commenting with such seriousness and emotion?
A lot of the nairaland populace is wierd

No skit, this is the 8th woman identified so far. It started with one man seeking solution to his childlessness. You may take your time and through.

AdolfHitlerxXx:
Lol. Most women will size you up and drop absurd conditions .. If you're unintelligent enough not to set boundaries early... you go really hear am

Boundaries for whom, though? You force a woman who doesn't want to get belle to get belle?

ruffhandu:
➜No skit, this is the 8th woman identified so far. It started with one man seeking solution to his childlessness. You may take your time and through.

Seeking a solution to his childlessness by engaging women who would rather remain childless? The problem is clearly arent the women but the man going around finding himself women who don't share the same desires he does. Why paint them as belonging to a coven when the issue here is the man?

Kingray10:
➜Then what's she doing in marriage, when she is not ready to give birth. Besides tell her to also stop aging too so won't grow old.

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Exceed15:
Then she had no business getting married in first place.

Marriage has never been one-size-fits-all. There are child-free marriages out there, of which about 25% of those who enter into marriage agree to.

thesicilian:
➜Shape that will still go within a few years is what she's sacrificing her children for

. Thanks to science and medicine, individuals are able to keep their shape even until the end.

abobote:
➜These days before you take any girl to the alter, you give her belle first, to be sure of the market you are buying.. The only thing men benefit from marriage is children, if she is not ready for that, then you can cancel the marriage

Give her belle, and when she eventually abandons you and the child after a while, you go come complain say na her fault, abi? Some of you are indeed destined never to learn from the mistakes of your ancestors and those around you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

GboyegaD:
➜There's no need for deceit. Tell your boyfriend/fiance you don't want to have kids. There are men who are comfortable with such.

You are right, but some men would conveniently ignore the red flags, believing that marriage will change the woman's opinion on such issues.

Kobojunkie:
...Marriage has never been one-size-fits-all. There are child-free marriages out there, of which about 25% of those who enter into marriage agree to.

We are African, not just Africans but Nigerians.
This 40 character thing is rubbish

Kingray10:
➜We are African, not just Africans but Nigerians.

. They are equally Nigerians with some of them living in Africa with human rights, same as you, to live as they choose under the law of the land. There is absolutely nothing in Nigeria that requires you to produce children, whether as a man or a woman.

Kobojunkie:
. They are equally Nigerians with some of them living in Africa with human rights, same as you, to live as they choose under the law of the land. There is absolutely nothing in Nigeria that requires you to produce children, whether as a man or a woman.

Yeah, but no let the man mother hear. Them go Waka both juju and church for that girl head

chidiokay:
➜ thats like looking for a church in mecca ... a country like Nig. where family pressure is predominant, maybe men that know they have fertility issues sha.

Not true at all! Some Nigerian men have sworn off childbearing, some going as far as getting a vasectomy. And there are also Nigerian women whose minds are set on remaining child-free.

Kingray10:
➜Yeah, but no let the man mother hear. Them go Waka both juju and church for that girl head

Nonsense! Na your mother life you dey live? What sort of ridiculous utterance is this? If you have a religiously brainwashed mother, that issue is one you need to tackle with her, not have it impact your choices in life. 🙄🙄🙄

FitCorper:
Giving birth will sure disfigure her body. Don’t pressurize her to do what she doesn’t want to do. Discreetly look for another woman run am outside.

She will not have that figure 8 or sexy shape forever..at a time when old age catch up with her all those sexy shape will go and disappear and she will later regret of not having a child or children at old age

ruffhandu:
Nigerian married women have gone Haywire: This One Is Unheard Of


Caveat: You don't need to watch the video, I'll summarize and give you even more context.


This is the first time I will hear a Nigerian woman desisting from giving birth to a child in Nigeria because she wants to maintain her shape. In Nigeria of all places where childless women are called barren just after one year of marriage, where they face immense pressure from their family, the man's family, and the society at large. A society where they are shamed and looked upon as having lived filthy lives and, in most cases, nobody ever looks the husband's way, the woman is always the first to be blamed.

Now here, a cult disguised as a club where only married women are members. They are coached on how to prevent themselves from getting pregnant so they continue to look elegant and beautiful. Some, like the lady in this video, did not only rely on pregnancy-preventing pills, she did other forms of family planning just to be double sure she doesn't get pregnant.

The reason why I tag the club a coven is that these women are so wicked that they not only pretend to their husbands to be innocent , they most times initiate the moves to go with him in search of solution. The sucker in this act is that it elicits more trust from the husbands and and blinds them from even reasoning clearly. Imagine one of the women prays 3 hours every night for the fruit of the womb, the man was hooked.

One of the men, on one of their numerous visits to the hospital, was called aside by the doctor who had conducted deep tests on the wife and reliably informed the man that the woman had been consuming something that had been preventing her from taking in. Instead of the man to conduct an independent investigation to ascertain the veracity of the claim, he "subtly" confronted the wife, which of course she denied.

The tragedies is this dilemma is that most of the men are taken to white garment churches amongst other places they were taken to (hospital, churches, native doctors, herbalists, etc), where they are flogged. At least in one case, the couple were flogged mercilessly. This has not mentioned the amount of money the man is made to shell out in the search. Some have flown these women abroad in search of solution.

One wise woman, once her dear husband suggested taking a second wife who will bear them children, she covertly got pregnant immediately and tricked her club members. Disappeared for a while, and after delivery, hired a nanny to take care of the child. Five years later, she took in again, hoping to pull off the same stunt. Mind you, the first child was born 10 long years after their marriage.

Advice to men:
If medicine has proven that both of you are ok and fit to have a child, and you are still childless, do the following:
1. Be observant to see that your wife does not take anything immediately after sex.
2, If there be any medication both of you should be taking for fertility, make sure she takes her own (they are able to deceive the man that they have taken it. If it is tablet, they hide it in their mouth and shift to dispose of it in the toilet. Another said she consumes another substance that looks similar to the concoction they are given. Like when they are given animal urine, she arranges lucozade or wine, or some soda to drink in his presence.)
3. If you are rich. Arrange for abroad treatment. Find a way to make her accidentally lose her luggage (including her handbag), then while abroad guard her like a toddler to ensure she doesn't visit a pharmacy, then make sure you knack her everyday.
4. If you can, also arrange with a good doctor to ascertain that she is not undergoing any form of family planning (especially the one they implant).
5. If you notice your wife belongs to any association, pry in as know exactly what is going on there.
6. Discuss having a second wife. Many of them rely on the fact that the man may get tired and seek to adopt a child, which they will gladly accept. Honestly, the foolishness of these women beat me.
7. Some of the women said they gave in to the invitation because their husband had emphasised on their shape while they were dating and they feared he may leave them if they lose the shape. To this, I advise men to be subtle about this and help their wife stay fit, WOMEN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO LOOK EXACTLY THE WAY THEY DID AFTER CHILDBIRTH AND BREASTFEEDING, IF YOU GET IT EXACTLY THE SAME BEFORE AND AFTER, NA LUCK.

Advice to Women.
1. If you need to maintain your shape, you know what to do.
2. If you must form a club of married women to war against losing shape, it should be teaching them how to maintain shape after childbirth, don't be foolish and evil. to even think that this club goes about recruiting newly married women is not only self-destructive, it is a crime against the institution called marriage.

Although many things could lead to childlessness, including witches and wizards, village people, God's timing, medical conditions, etc. But this self-inflicted childlessness from women is one thing I do not understand and may never understand. If this is happening in western countries, I won't bat an eyelid. But in Nigeria? Something is definitely wrong. E be many things for these days. These women are worse than the devil. Imagine your wife causing her childlessness, causing you shame, making you spend money unnecessarily, causing you bodily harm, wasting your time, and causing you financial strain. I simply spit.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3mMNQltOr2s

She will not have that sexy shape forever.. when old age catch up with her all those sexy shape will go and disappear.. and later regret of not having a child or children at the time she was young and able to give birth to children

Kobojunkie:
...Marriage has never been one-size-fits-all. There are child-free marriages out there, of which about 25% of those who enter into marriage agree to.

U can still have terrific intimate relationship without the " I do". It's just common sense.

SUNNINO:
My wife looks more beautiful as she start giving birth. Their evil choice,fear some girls,Ogbanje at it peak and have given birth to to children in marine kingdom.

Get mental help immediately before it is too late.

uuzba:
➜That is what courtship is for. Discuss everything well and understand each other's plans before deciding to propose and marry. Otherwise, walk away .

That's expecting too much from people who would rather believe that marriage will change their partners into the image that suits them.

Exceed15:
➜U can still have terrific intimate relationship without the " I do". It's just common sense.

Again, marriage is equally open to those who have terrific intimate relationships and desire the commitment of marriage without the children. Pretending the institution has to be according to your whims is idiotic.

vision202020:
Seun. It is not every comments that needs long post.
Please, save us the time of typing meaningless comments.

You and others need to stop crying daily about a work in progress. Either don't use the platform or go build your own .

Kobojunkie:
Not true at all! Some Nigerian men have sworn off childbearing, some going as far as getting a vasectomy. And there are also Nigerian women whose minds are set on remaining child-free.

By virtue of % " Not true at All" sounds baseless. In africa, esp. Nig. huge % men wants to have kids highly because of how we are raised/sired.
5 out of 10 typical naija man that dont want kids ever have fertility issues, 4 probably are not raised in Nigeria and the last one naa rev. father
I dont doubt they exist But their number is INSIGNIFICANT decimals