SUGARBEE:
Really inspirational and motivating

Thanks.
What an irony.

Your post on the thread was what inspired this write-up.
I had actually mentioned you and wrote down most of the stuff you're reading up there, then I figured that sisters of like minds could use the words too, so, voila! I created a thread.....and a blogpost

MizMyColi:


Thanks.
What an irony.

Your post on the thread was what inspired this write-up.
I had actually mentioned you and wrote down most of the stuff you're reading up there, then I figured that sisters of like minds could use the words too, so, volia! I created a thread.....and a blogpost

SUGARBEE:


How sweet thanks... People see love and relationships more like a science which requires studying, guidelines and tutoring whereby I see love and relationships as an art

An art where you flow with the tides of an interpersonal feeling, a feeling of curiosity to another person.. Love really is mysterious

Kimoni:
Waoh! Beautiful piece.

Very deep, very insightful.

Much appreciated Ma'am.
Tenk

MizMyColi:

As ladies, we sometimes wonder where we got it wrong, if it's a crime to show emotions and love passionately, because we find somewhere down the relationship that our loving overtures and care is met with outright resistance. This continues for a while until we are finally able to write the guy off. Sometimes, when they come back, it's either too late or never as it used to be.

MizMyColi:


Well, personally I think Love is who we are.
It's not something that is learned.
It's a default state of being.

But somehow, we have deviated to practicing everything that love is not.
And we are so cool with it, it has become a norm!

pickabeau1:


Please explain this

Generally ladies sit back

I have been subconsciously waiting for you.


Usually, the guy does all the chasing, gives the girl she's the "best thing since butter was introduced to sliced bread treatment", and then the moment he notices that bae is falling hard, he balls out, either gradually, or completely.
Woe betide that girl if she gives in to sex too early and is the kind who prefers connecting emotionally to material connections.
O ba je ti ti ti.

I will not rule out the fact that some ladies too nuh dey try, and the fact that we tend to go lax when the guy shows too much care and attention, but that's a topic for another day.

I believe, like my friend opined, that...A relationship consisting of two self aware people is one to be desired.

MizMyColi:


Well, personally I think Love is who we are.
It's not something that is learned.
It's a default state of being.

But somehow, we have deviated to practicing everything that love is not.
And we are so cool with it, it has become a norm!

MizMyColi:



I have been subconsciously waiting for you.


Usually, the guy does all the chasing, gives the girl she's the "best thing since butter was introduced to sliced bread treatment", and then the moment he notices that bae is falling hard, he balls out, either gradually, or completely.
Woe betide that girl if she gives in to sex too early and is the kind who prefers connecting emotionally to material connections.
O ba je ti ti ti.

I will not rule out the fact that some ladies too nuh dey try, and the fact that we tend to go lax when the guy shows too much care and attention, but that's a topic for another day.

I believe, like my friend opined, that...A relationship consisting of two self aware people is one to be desired.

MizMyColi:



I have been subconsciously waiting for you.

SUGARBEE:


Spot on babe..
I was asking myself the other day if we all really knew the word "LOVE" but I guess we don't, in fact no one has ever apprehended it's true meaning...

It's not just a thing of the heart, neither is it when all things are fine and smooth..

Love for me is a decision to stay.. To stay when things are good and when things are bad... To stay when your husband or wife is inflicted with cancer for over ten years.. To stay when your husband can't afford to pay the bills any longer owing to his present circumstances...

Love love love we just say it like we breath in air whearas we don't even know anything about it

Cc, lalasticlala

SUGARBEE:


Spot on babe..
I was asking myself the other day if we all really knew the word "LOVE" but I guess we don't, in fact no one has ever apprehended it's true meaning...

It's not just a thing of the heart, neither is it when all things are fine and smooth..

Love for me is a decision to stay.. To stay when things are good and when things are bad... To stay when your husband or wife is inflicted with cancer for over ten years.. To stay when your husband can't afford to pay the bills any longer owing to his present circumstances...

Love love love we just say it like we breath in air whearas we don't even know anything about it

Cc, lalasticlala

In a way, we don't...yet, in a way, we totally do!!!!
It's a paradox.

Love lives in us.....for in him we move, in him we live, in him we have our being.

Let me give you an analogy, hope it suffices.

I believe that as I am now....I am love. I am goodness. I am joy. I am a replica, no, an original of everything that is good and lovely.
My having a good day is not a function of the fact that my boss just gave us nicely spiced chicken, or that I've been receiving affirmative words, or because it's been a pretty less busy day.....NO.
My day is good because I am goodness itself....if I walk with this mindset, even if anyone tries to hurt me, I can choose to let it go by remembering that goodness and love is the only reality that will ever matter to me.

Now here's the catch...To truly be these things above, my believing is not enough.
I equally need to know and walk in that awareness.

On the days when I am fully aware, I can take any kind of shyte and smile through it, I even pray for those who hurt me, but if I am not aware of these things and you cross my path.....well, your name is Gobe o

Now, apply this to the love scenario in our relationships and you will find that much of the corrosiveness will simply go away.

Kimoni:


We were both subconsciously waiting for him. Maybe our spirits jointly invoked his presence

Pickabeau1, what's happening naa? Are u on vacation ni? I have missed your trouble o

fredleo95:


Bae.... "LOVE" varies.... it doesn't just have to be from the boy and girl aspect... i very well understand the OP's point and from there i quote that regarding all those points and loving every being that God has created from your fellow boys and girls.... from there you build the loving spirit which is innate to enter into any kind of relationship that comes up from school, interactive sections, church, anywhere and then it wont be hard to love your partner cos you are already filled with the loving spirit....It definitely goes beyond Material things a long long way

SUGARBEE:


Hun.. What you're saying and what I said are merely bits and pieces to the word love..

MizMyColi:



In a way, we don't...yet, in a way, we totally do!!!!
It's a paradox.

Love lives in us.....for in him we move, in him we live, in him we have our being.

Let me give you an analogy, hope it suffices.

I believe that as I am now....I am love. I am goodness. I am joy. I am a replica, no, an original of everything that is good and lovely.
My having a good day is not a function of the fact that my boss just gave us nicely spiced chicken, or that I've been receiving affirmative words, or because it's been a pretty less busy day.....NO.
My day is good because I am goodness itself....if I walk with this mindset, even if anyone tries to hurt me, I can choose to let it go by remembering that goodness and love is the only reality that will ever matter to me.

Now here's the catch...To truly be these things above, my believing is not enough.
I equally need to know and walk in that awareness.

On the days when I am fully aware, I can take any kind of shyte and smile through it, I even pray for those who hurt me, but if I am not aware of these things and you cross my path.....well, your name is Gobe o

Now, apply this to the love scenario in our relationships and you will find that much of the corrosiveness will simply go away.

fredleo95:


You spoke the truth there cherie.... its in fact un-explainable

SUGARBEE:


Again and again our perspective may differ due to our different personalities but we're still heading the straight path to understanding love..

Good day

SUGARBEE:


Again and again our perspective may differ due to our different personalities but we're still heading the straight path to understanding love..

Good day

zicoraads:
SUGARBEE

Kimoni:


We were both subconsciously waiting for him. Maybe our spirits jointly invoked his presence

Pickabu1, what's happening naa? Are u on vacation ni? I have missed your trouble o

nigerianium:

The question is this: Do we really know who we are?

Is not by interacting with others (relationships) that our personalities begin to shape?

Do different situations/persons not provoke diffent reactions from us which are love, hate , indifference et al?

I don't think love is who we are but love is what can choose to be 'cause it's the BEST way of showcasing(?) our humanity. It doesn't make those who love less or are indifferent less human.

cococandy:
Nice one mizmycoli.

pickabeau1:


Ma'am..ive been around,,,tend to stick to the boys room n sports threads.. less controversy..
saw your debates on the glass ceiling in the diaspora and the impact of bad governance of the psyche of the people
I agree with you... human nature is universal

Suggest a topic in the boys room

This topic is good
You are the mistress of your destiny
However be aware of the universal principles