chinae:
Before it got to this stage, he must have been giving you signs

Thank you...Some people can't read the handwriting on the wall even when it's staring at them on their faces

Messi1:
I've always visited this my uncle at least four times a week..that is where i pass away time. His children all like me and any day I fail to come they must ask me why didn't come. I use the time i spend in his house to teach his children Mathematics and do their home work for them. Today I was in his house, he stormed out from his room and ask if i don't help my mother at home..he yelled at me and what pain me most is that he said food is costly and they are only managing. He made me feel like i was the one finishing the food in his house. He said I should not be too freequent in his house if at all I must come. I'm considering severing all ties to this my uncle, will that be right?

Richy4:

Thank you...Some people can't read the handwriting on the wall even when it's staring at them on their faces

GboyegaD:


He is an uncle and there are better ways to put it than yell at a nephew. That was condescending on the part of the uncle.

jamesversion:


Yes, this is the best comment. Your sisters son, your children's nephew. That was way too condescending.

The uncle could have discussed with his wife and she would stylishly deny him food.

jamesversion:


Yes, this is the best comment. Your sisters son, your children's nephew. That was way too condescending.

The uncle could have discussed with his wife and she would stylishly deny him food.

brain54:

Sometimes being blunt is better than being subtle…


I respect blunt people. Maybe the uncle has even been subtle in approach but OP didn’t understand as someone pointed out by a previous comment.

Someone that visits 4 times weekly. Some times you need to yell!

jamesversion:


To the point of telling your nephew that he should stop coming to your house becos food is now expensive.

So when food becomes cheap and easily affordable then he can resume visits??

Your nephew is like your child. You can effortless stand-in for him in the absence of his parents. I think I'm getting you wrong maybe cos we don't share same culture.

In my place, we value our nephews and neices to the point where we are the only ones to dig their graves in their demise.

jamesversion:


To the point of telling your nephew that he should stop coming to your house becos food is now expensive.

So when food becomes cheap and easily affordable then he can resume visits??

Your nephew is like your child. You can effortless stand-in for him in the absence of his parents. I think I'm getting you wrong maybe cos we don't share same culture.

In my place, we value our nephews and neices to the point where we are the only ones to dig their graves in their demise.

GboyegaD:


He is an uncle and there are better ways to put it than yell at a nephew. That was condescending on the part of the uncle.

Richy4:

My brother being an uncle does not prevent a mean man from showcasing his character..OP totally missed the signs in my opinion

If I was to be in OP's shoes, I will never go there except on a life and death situation... I won't even drink water there again... I will take my own water bottle to avoid finishing their water during such invite..

GboyegaD:


I understand your point of view but there are better ways an uncle can talk to a nephew. I once had an encounter with an uncle on something not related however, he embarrassed me in the presence of my friends. I haven't seen him since then however, we had a telephone conversation last year because the son had a baby and I had to call in on the day of christening and he was there.

Everyone should always remember every man has an ego.

brain54:

Pls what place is this…? I mean the digging grave…


I just feel things are a bit hard at the moment for everyone.
I don’t know what the uncle does for a living or how buoyant but I believe if he ain’t feeling the pinch he would not complain.


That’s his feeling and being blunt about it I feel is not wrong. Right or wrong I ain’t judging that now. But being open enough to say your mind is what I commend.


If you notice I quoted the person who stated the wife should be diplomatic about it…just tell the guy directly to know his stance if you don’t want him around.

But right or wrong can depend on a lot of factors which I am no here to judge now


Afterall it is he who wears the shoe that knows we’re it pinches.

habsydiamond:
Stay away for the time being... don't cut ties cos family is all we have got.. you saying away may even make him realise and apologise to you.

Messi1:
I've always visited this my uncle at least four times a week..that is where i pass away time. His children all like me and any day I fail to come they must ask me why didn't come. I use the time i spend in his house to teach his children Mathematics and do their home work for them. Today I was in his house, he stormed out from his room and ask if i don't help my mother at home..he yelled at me and what pain me most is that he said food is costly and they are only managing. He made me feel like i was the one finishing the food in his house. He said I should not be too freequent in his house if at all I must come. I'm considering severing all ties to this my uncle, will that be right?

Messi1:
I've always visited this my uncle at least four times a week..that is where i pass away time. His children all like me and any day I fail to come they must ask me why didn't come. I use the time i spend in his house to teach his children Mathematics and do their home work for them. Today I was in his house, he stormed out from his room and ask if i don't help my mother at home..he yelled at me and what pain me most is that he said food is costly and they are only managing. He made me feel like i was the one finishing the food in his house. He said I should not be too freequent in his house if at all I must come. I'm considering severing all ties to this my uncle, will that be right?