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Yusuph2504:
I'm here to read comments but I'm really surprised to see what a lot men going through in their marriage so sad , I think I need to learn a lot before going into marriage

Blessedarethepe:
➜Just be 10x better than your wife and resist the plan to travel out with her.

Liazz:
Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.

jesmond3945:
6 years

lucianohase:
Sorry to say this, she is a very, very selfish person and the earlier you think of safe guarding yourself, you should know how best to go about it, the better for you. But if you don't, you will over labor yourself, get exhausted and die. But don't get violent, else you loose all you have laboured for. Secondly, you ought to have seen early signs of this in her before you got married, yet you still decided to go ahead with the marriage. Like someone said, she really has plans, so you need to act fast

Kobojunkie:
And when that same wife decides to bob other men while you are away, you go still dey form victim at that time, right? Una no dey ever learn at all, at all! 🙄🙄🙄

Adaumunocha:
She's not planning anything. The woman was a full housewife back in Nigeria

Blessedarethepe:
➜You no dey read ni...... Being better than her doesn't mean you will not spend on her.....

Liazz:
U get fully paid while on maternity leave. Moreso, I'm talking about the situation even while she was actively working.

Liazz:
Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.

Roseey0:
The funny thing about this thing is that when we ask your wife, she will have a long list of so many things she does monthly for the family without bothering you. But you won't count it. Everyone is already insinuating she's sending money to her family, some even said ex

Guy, sit your wife down and you both can plan your finances. You said, you earn double, so she expects you can handle everything while she saves for rainy days. If you feel you need help and not for you to start throwing money around( that's one of the reason women prefer to keep theres for emergency) discuss it with your wife. You both have to be as transparent as possible about finace so she can trust you and bring out hers .

The koko is to plan together. Let everyone have their own vex money, but contribute to family at each other's capacity.

onuku:
What if the wife does not communicate, or pretends to be an introvert?

Court-ordered marriage counseling is when a judge requires a couple to attend therapy sessions before finalizing a divorce or legal separation. This is typically done when the court believes there's a chance for reconciliation or when child custody is involved. The purpose is to help couples address their issues, improve communication, and potentially salvage the marriage.

Liazz:
Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.

Kobojunkie:
Get professional marriage counseling or tell her a court-ordered one may be it.
Introverts can be taken to court too.

Nnamdipapa:
You are not in a loving or supportive relationship, and there is no realistic future for your marriage. Begin planning for yourself by opening a private account in your name only. Keep your income, raises, and bonuses confidential; do not share these details. Save money in this separate account and never disclose it. Do not inform your spouse when you send money to your family. Many Nigerian women exploit men under the guise of marriage; you need to protect your interests. I am sorry for being direct, but you deserve clear and honest advice.

id4sho:
Sorry for wetin, drop am e dey hot. I learnt the hard way,I got no chill. The truth is one, others are lies📌👌💯

elijahozzy:
Take her to a court n fight for right my bro, she’s greedy and it’s bad for both of you since you are the only one footing the bills, am sure you’ll win.

Liazz:
Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.

Liazz:
Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself.

Henix:
Women are unpredictable. Take them abroad and see their real character

Itiskdg121:
Bro, that's women for you.

My advice for all men is "Prioritize yourself in all you do". Very important.
Refuse to be blinded by love, belief or religion. Be intentional about being selfish.

And above all, never be afraid to walk away at anytime.

My cent!!!

Liazz:
Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.

dipset01:
Most Ladies are naturally selfish and stingy, I have been married at for 7 years and can count the number of times my wife has supported me financially. My wife too can be stingy, I rarely ask sha, but i expect her to buy things in the house little things. I am still grateful sha, cos atleast she now cooks, gives me sex anytime i want it and looks after her kids. I also rarely ask her sha. My dad already sat me down when i was about getting married and told me this, The financial burden sits with the man. Yes a woman can support, but it is your job as a man. Although you guys are overseas and she will be earning decent. Stop putting eye on her money, from the way you spoke seems you are earning twice or more of what she earns, if that is the case then you should be able to carry all the house bills. And if you cant, tell her this is what you earn, you pay the rent, the utility bills, car insurance , feeding etc. and you need her help. If she is working and her income in not helping to move the family forward then she has no point working. Tell her she needs to carry the feeding and maybe utility bills going forward. The moment you begin to get concerned about how much your wife earns and want to deep your hand in her money, or you guys begin to share the bills, then know you will lose some respect in her sight be ready to split house chores 50 50.  A woman that truly loves you and wants your family to succeed will be willing to support her man financially. Or is she having projects or family members in need of money. Please your marriage will not fail. You also dont need to spend on her that much.


Some women are just eeew! Abroad life isn't where you can stay without support unless you are earning 7k up per month.

As an adult, she should use her brains and support the husband.