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I am asking because i honestly dont know what it means to be in love.
like, how do i know i am in love?
is there any kind of sensation to be felt?

i am a working class man, and i have never been in a serious relationship.
any response(s) will be appreciated.

You will know what love feels like once you meet the right person, you just haven't met her yet... Or maybe you have an untreated childhood trauma that has been hindering you from giving love a chance.

Many Africans find themselves having to live with the burden of carrying their childhood traumas because of lack of emotional support from their loved ones.

Well, u wl definitely feel a sensation, something wil change in u once u fimd d right woman, u will b obsessed, u wil hav imaginations, u wl feel extremely happy aroumd ha

Love is peaceful and amazing. When you love someone, you exaggerate them, you tolerates them, as if they are flawless. They become extraordinary in your eyes. That's why you are under the illusion that when he or she go out, every other guys or girls would be after him or her. You want them to be happy, to achieve their goals and grow in life. You think of ways to help them, to please them. You want to spend time with them.

Love is like a spell, when you fall out of love, you will realize how ordinary the person is but only your love made him or her special.

Samantha125:
You will know what love feels like once you meet the right person, you just haven't met her yet... Or maybe you have an untreated childhood trauma that has been hindering you from giving love a chance.

Many Africans find themselves having to live with the burden of carrying their childhood traumas because of lack of emotional support from their loved ones.

i probably haven't met the right person, i hope i do soon!
Nothing traumatic enough to cause this have not occured.
Thank you.

henndukwe18:
Well, u wl definitely feel a sensation, something wil change in u once u fimd d right woman, u will b obsessed, u wil hav imaginations, u wl feel extremely happy aroumd ha

some will say i am not ready, but constant communication with someone is a hassle to me, or maybe i have not found someone that interest me enough to not find it a hassle.

Demigod22:
Love is peaceful and amazing. When you love someone, you exaggerate them, you tolerates them, as if they are flawless. They become extraordinary in your eyes. That's why you are under the illusion that when he or she go out, every other guys or girls would be after him or her. You want them to be happy, to achieve their goals and grow in life. You think of ways to help them, to please them. You want to spend time with them.

Love is like a spell, when you fall out of love, you will realize how ordinary the person is but only your love made him or her special.

This sounds so dreamy!
I definitely want to feel this.
Thank you.

Any love U fall out of was never love in the first place. Don't base it on those dreamy Hollywood and Bollywood bs stories. It's why it's best not to pay them any attention when they claim to love U. They're just either infatuated, lusting, love the idea of having u as theirs etc. Apart from familial love, agape love, friendship love, love for pets objects and ideas, crafts etc that romantic love is 98% fake. Don't look for it cos U will only find the duplicates and it will turn U into something U never imagined U could be. If it's out there and it's for U, it will find U. My 2 Naira

mnuggets:
This sounds so dreamy!
I definitely want to feel this.
Thank you.

I wish you well. Although, it's rare in this Gen z era because this generation has gone nut. We are too toxic for genuine feelings.

mnuggets:
This sounds so dreamy!
I definitely want to feel this.
Thank you.

man listen, don’t expect agape love from a woman because they are not capable of giving what they don’t have, so it’s better you save your self the stress of falling in love. even the bible never instructed a woman to love a man, rather it said men should love their wife and women should submit to their husband.

mnuggets:
I am asking because i honestly dont know what it means to be in love.
like, how do i know i am in love?
is there any kind of sensation to be felt?

i am a working class man, and i have never been in a serious relationship.
any response(s) will be appreciated.

Baba...love is just an addiction fueled by sexual pleasure, ... Do urself a favour by not looking for that shiit...it messes up your mind, makes u lose leverage and opens you up to exploitation....

Open ur eyes and consciously look for a kind, team playing woman...trust me..u will enjoy and be happier living with such a woman than someone that makes ur heart race, exploiting your emotions

Honestly op, that romantic feeling you're trying to understand should be called anything but love.
(I wonder who came up with the idea to call it love, because they're not in the same league.)
It should have its own different term.

True love is generous and peaceful, not needy and desperate.
True love is of God.

mnuggets:
I am asking because i honestly dont know what it means to be in love.
like, how do i know i am in love?
is there any kind of sensation to be felt?

i am a working class man, and i have never been in a serious relationship.
any response(s) will be appreciated.

As a man, if you are typing this. Egungun be careful, na express you dey go ooo.

mnuggets:
some will say i am not ready, but constant communication with someone is a hassle to me, or maybe i have not found someone that interest me enough to not find it a hassle.

yes thats true, u hvnt found ha yet, once u find ha, u wl be forced to cros ur own boundaries

dkidd:
Any love U fall out of was never love in the first place. Don't base it on those dreamy Hollywood and Bollywood bs stories. It's why it's best not to pay them any attention when they claim to love U. They're just either infatuated, lusting, love the idea of having u as theirs etc. Apart from familial love, agape love, friendship love, love for pets objects and ideas, crafts etc that romantic love is 98% fake. Don't look for it cos U will only find the duplicates and it will turn U into something U never imagined U could be. If it's out there and it's for U, it will find U. My 2 Naira

you are not wrong, but then romantic love exists, just that this generation has made it almost impossible to find.
truly, if its for me, it will find me.

peanutbutterr:
man listen, don’t expect agape love from a woman because they are not capable of giving what they don’t have, so it’s better you save your self the stress of falling in love. even the bible never instructed a woman to love a man, rather it said men should love their wife and women should submit to their husband.

thank you for the comment. love and submission, yes.

advanceDNA:
Baba...love is just an addiction fueled by sexual pleasure, ... Do urself a favour by not looking for that shiit...it messes up your mind, makes u lose leverage and opens you up to exploitation....

Open ur eyes and consciously look for a kind, team playing woman...trust me..u will enjoy and be happier living with such a woman than someone that makes ur heart race, exploiting your emotions

team playing woman, a woman that wants to be a companion rather a liability.

mnuggets:
team playing woman, a woman that wants to be a companion rather a liability.

Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you!


Baba ...U will fulfill your days......

AdvancedDNA, why are you always typing bad things, prompting spambot to ban you?

mnuggets:
you are not wrong, but then romantic love exists, just that this generation has made it almost impossible to find.
truly, if its for me, it will find me.

That means, you have never suffered a heartbreak?

There's nothing like love. People get lost out of there emotions with time they get tired. You can only love yourself.

When you love someone and importantly they love you back; it brings you joy, confidence, peace, a sense of safety. Those are the psychological benefits.

The emotional benefits are you feel content with your life, you feel full, you feel enough. The physical benefits/sensations are you smile brighter, you walk taller, your skin glows, and you’re less stressed by outside influences.

People see this change in you so you become attractive to others. You’ll think the devil is trying to spoil your joy because all of a sudden the opposite sex notice you and want you. That’s what being loved does for you. Love is easy!

Double0h7:
When you love someone and importantly they love you back; it brings you joy, confidence, peace, a sense of safety. Those are the psychological benefits.

The emotional benefits are you feel content with your life, you feel full, you feel enough. The physical benefits/sensations are you smile brighter, you walk taller, your skin glows, and you’re less stressed by outside influences.

People see this change in you so you become attractive to others. You’ll think the devil is trying to spoil your joy because all of a sudden the opposite sex notice you and want you. That’s what being loved does for you. Love is easy!

Thank you for this!
This is how i have always thought it to be.