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spiceadole:
"Husband" is not constant.

Myself and my children are what I have.

Husband belongs to the streets.

Ok cool. 🙂

You may be surprise that woman may be lying when you hear from the man. I dont believe her because some ladies are terrible.

DrFunmisticGlow:
A man that gives a woman 1k to feed 6 people and ask for sex in the same day cannot raise children ALONE to be useful members of society. Period!!

Some of the children will die under his care.

Or he will pawn them off for his mother/relatives/ girlfriends to raise.

Is that not what most these poor single fathers do?


Lol!!

The man seems not to be financially buoyant "momentarily" based on what's made-known, so, the odds are against him currently, yeah.

Only God has the final say, so quit being judgemental and dismissive.
Today, he may be down financially, buhh tomorrow, he might be up there at the top of the ladder, financially.

Monetary-wise, character-wise, he might change, which could make my earlier made-known fact feasible.
Never say never.

TheBlueDiamond:
✓ The man seems not to be financially buoyant "momentarily" based on what's made-known, so, the odds are against him currently, yeah. Only God has the final say, so quit being judgemental and dismissive.
✓ Today, he may be down financially, buhh tomorrow, he might be up there at the top of the ladder, financially. Monetary-wise, character-wise, he might change, which could make my earlier made-known fact feasible. Never say never.

Thousands are dying of hunger related causes in Nigeria today many of them children and majority of them from very poor backgrounds. But your opinion is that these issues should not be judged...God somewhere with identity unknown should be allowed to do so?

2. Ah! The magical-mindset at it again... Naira 1000 a day feeding for six is temporary, tomorrow everything go better, right? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

DrFunmisticGlow:
But we know that men don't look for money when getting with a woman, that's not how the world works.

That was previously.

Men are starting to incorporate financial independence in their criterion for compatibility, when it comes to seeking women for marriage.

Bankowner:
Do me the honor of writing your own quality post.

Stop taking things personal.

The written sentence after the emoji is just so my comment can be submitted for the demanded "40 characters".

It's not about you.

TheBlueDiamond:
✓ That was previously. Men are starting to incorporate financial independence in their criterion for compatibility, when it comes to seeking women for marriage.

How? By opening stores which they then expect to thrive by magical means for the financially incapable women they marry? 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Thousands are dying of hunger related causes in Nigeria today many of them children and majority of them from very poor backgrounds. But your opinion is that these issues should not be judged...God somewhere with identity unknown should be allowed to do so?

2. Ah! The magical-mindset at it again... Naira 1000 a day feeding for six is temporary, tomorrow everything go better, right?

I won't engage in logomachy with you.

Your pronounced atheistic tendencies, coupled with illogically logical stances, invalidates me from indulging in any form of engagement with you.

You've been denying the basis upon which you're made for very long, so at a capacity, you're numb, antagonistic and won't pander to tendencies which are of divine source.

Until you back'pedal from being a juggernaut of atheism, you won't be engaged please.

Double0h7:
Example of why a poor man should never have an election 🥹

What about a poor woman?

Kobojunkie:
How? By opening stores which they then expect to thrive by magical means for the financially incapable women they marry?

This is parochialism at it's peak.

Why she go deny her husband his legitimate write?

Not enough original content
Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

Peakdesign23:
Poor man and sex, Holy moly! I wonder how they both fell in love with poverty. She better run for her life.

Run to where?
If your brother brings her home to marry after 5 children, will you support him?

Newyorkitis:
➜Run to where? If your brother brings her home to marry after 5 children, will you support him?

She should have left the children with the man, since it is about her getting with your brother, right? I am guessing you won't have a problem at all foisting the man with 5 kids on your sister, abi?

Kobojunkie:
Oh, you mean the man did not abandon his children? Did the children inform you of this?

Oga shift abeg.. U think i have time for noise

PastorFire:
➜Oga shift abeg.. U think i have time for noise

Says the one wth the most noise.🙄🙄🙄

TheBlueDiamond:
That was previously.

Men are starting to incorporate financial independence in their criterion for compatibility, when it comes to seeking women for marriage.

Yeah right!!

TheBlueDiamond:
The man seems not to be financially buoyant "momentarily" based on what's made-known, so, the odds are against him currently, yeah.

Only God has the final say, so quit being judgemental and dismissive.
Today, he may be down financially, buhh tomorrow, he might be up there at the top of the ladder, financially.

Monetary-wise, character-wise, he might change, which could make my earlier made-known fact feasible.
Never say never.

past behavior is always a good predictor of future behavior

Lazy woman ..in this present economy u sit at home all day waiting for ur husband to give u 1k. Don't u have hands..can't u help ur husband with money to start a good business..in Indian men don't work .the wife's family help the geoom

osazsky:
✓ Lazy woman ..in this present economy u sit at home all day waiting for ur husband to give u 1k. Don't u have hands..can't u help ur husband with money to start a good business..in Indian men don't work .the wife's family help the geoom

Why she go do am and at the same time be a housewife as per the marriage agreement between her and her husband? If her position is to change per the economic condition, shouldn't her husband's demands on her equally need to change?

DrFunmisticGlow:
past behavior is always a good predictor of future behavior

"The best predictor of the future is the past."

This above ipsissima-verba is apt.
Even the present, just like the past, is a true pointer to how the future could be like.

Buhh both predictors and pointers, though valid, are tethered to limitation, so they aren't the ultimate.

Change is constant.
There are individuals who used to be rich in the past buhh presently, they're impoverished due to a reason or the other.
And, some individuals were pauperized in the past, buhh when whirligig of time happened, they're presently wealthy.

In both cases, their pasts didn't determine their future. The same also applies habit-wise. That an individual used to be belligerent and cantankerous, doesn't mean he won't eventually grow into a very gentle and peace-loving person

It's up to the man himself, to take hold of his destiny and command it.

bionixs:
so a richman that already has many children that later turns out poor, should kee them to reflect his later poor status.

It should be to conform to your belief that poor men shouldn't have many children

As a poor man you are not supposed to have more than 2 kids. Why bringing plenty children into this harsh world just to come and suffer.
If you ask them, they will say one day one of the children will become president. Imagine

TheBlueDiamond:
✓ It's up to the man himself, to take hold of his destiny and command it.

It is up to the ma but earlier you had mentioned it was the responsibility of a god somewhere. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

OnyeAghaJesus:
Very disturbing but we need to ascertain what really transpired from the husband's perspective.
But #1000 for five children

Guy you won't believe the level of poverty in the country, what if that's what he has left on him and the wife isn't working or doing anything to support the family? This is what the yorubas brought upon the country. That 1k would have gone a long way back then but not today. May God deliver his children.

Kobojunkie:
Says the one wth the most noise.🙄🙄🙄

U think say an everybody no get work to do

He's a wicked man.

Kobojunkie:
It is up to the ma but earlier you had mentioned it was the responsibility of a god somewhere.

For God's will to be established, man's input is needed.

Man's availability and actions are needed to actualize and perpetuate God's Cause.

As men, we are God-dependent. Though God-dependent, men are to be proactive in the course of fulfilling their purpose. It is in men's intentionality and zealousness, that God's involvement would find expression and manifest, if the purpose behind the proactiveness is consistent with God's Will.

That I wasn't fully expressive in my previous comment, doesn't invalidate my claim.

I won't engage you more than this.

TheBlueDiamond:
"The best predictor of the future is the past."

This above ipsissima-verba is apt.
Even the present, just like the past, is a true pointer to how the future could be like.

Buhh both predictors and pointers, though valid, are tethered to limitation, so they aren't the ultimate.

Change is constant.
There are individuals who used to be rich in the past buhh presently, they're impoverished due to a reason or the other.
And, some individuals were pauperized in the past, buhh when whirligig of time happened, they're presently wealthy.

In both cases, their pasts didn't determine their future. The same also applies habit-wise. That an individual used to be belligerent and cantankerous, doesn't mean he won't eventually grow into a very gentle and peace-loving person

It's up to the man himself, to take hold of his destiny and command it.

And you think he will do all that?

His actions of sending his wife and 5 children packing will forever be a stain and a curse on anything he wants to be in future.

TheBlueDiamond:
➜For God's will to be established, man's input is needed. Man's availability and actions are needed to actualize and perpetuate God's Cause. As men, we are God-dependent. Though God-dependent, men are to be proactive in the course of fulfilling their purpose. It is in men's intentionality and zealousness, that God's involvement would find expression and manifest, if the purpose behind the proactiveness is consistent with God's Will. That I wasn't fully expressive in my previous comment, doesn't invalidate my claim. I won't engage you more than this.

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

DrFunmisticGlow:
And you think he will do all that?

His actions of sending his wife and 5 children packing will forever be a stain and a curse on anything he wants to be in future.

whether or not he would change, is something I won't know, since I'm not pansophical.
Omniscience is God's Divine attribute, so only Him, who Sees and Knows all things, is in the Ultimate Position to Judge.

Besides, the past deeds of many people in this world, are much worse than this man's. Yet, those people genuinely changed for the better, and went on to become great people.

The past can't have any hold on a man, unless he allows it.

The woman isn't saying the whole truth, there are a lot that happened between when the man came back and when he chased her out

Women will paint stories in a way you will blame everyone else and not them

There is a way you will tell a man that you are tired and hungry that he will understand and even go outside at midnight to get you food

Let's hear from the man first

DrFunmisticGlow:
There’s many ways to kill a person without beating them.


Can you do what the man did?

As he sent her out of the house. If something bad happens to her and the children, won't police come for him?

I wouldn't do that and I have sisters that I wouldn't wish such ordeal on. However, until you hear the man's side, don't conclude. I know there are many lousy men out there but not all men.

Close to my area, many women who know how little the financial income of their husbands are, still split the money for food to pay for asoebi, just to belong. They would rather choose to buy dresses over feeding their children well. I pity men sha. It is rampart here.
I have witnessed women who walked in to buy medicine, pay for them and connived with sellers to increase the price and record it as on credit for the husband to come and pay. They would always come back to collect it.

Aren't you satisfied that the man didn't raise his hands on her?

When did sex, especially in marriage,become a tool for tasking or holding ones' spouse ransom, even punishment for infraction