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I'm single, but I think that if I were to be a married man, and a stranger called my wife beautiful in my presence, I'd say “thank you ” on her behalf, because her beauty is my beauty since we, as a couple, are one flesh and not two.

So no pictures of the said woman, what poor write up

profmallor:
Since my wife is beautiful I ld ask if i can get a discount...

Exactly! Come dey make issue out of ordinary compliment. One would even think the man believe he owns the woman's beautiful.

tnerro1:
So no pictures of the said woman, what poor write up

You want to judge if she's really beautiful; but remember the saying that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder

Mosco100:
You want to judge if she's really beautiful; but remember the saying that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder

True, but the majority opinion should settle the matter

Oga you get mental problem, carry your nonsense wahala go front, they don't even show us the wife's ujly face

ovie8200:
You don"t get it do you....those you mentioned are common when one say excuse me darling or sweetheart. What is being said here is that a man and his wife went to restaurant only for an employee to beautiful in front of the husband which is disrepeful and not compliment. To compliment another man's wife in front of the husband, it's best you say that your wife is beautiful or you guys look great together.

It’s really no biggie! It’s just a compliment. It’s not disrespectful to me.

He did that because he reckoned he could bully the guy. If it was some bouncer at the store or someone with the physique of a bouncer that said that, I bet you he (husband) wouldn't object at all or in this noisy and confrontational manner! He isn't crazy, so he wouldn't do that!

The man dey craze. I knew something was off when he said "this is not India" The man sef na Asian looking man. Anyway me I've stopped complimenting anybody here. I mind my work, run my hours and collect my salary. If you like wear the finest clothes in the whole world I will not say anything. Before they say it's sexual harassment. Abeg abeg.

Wizardslayer:
I like what the man did bcus women's brain works differently from that of men.

The woman in question will start feeling too beautiful and expensive for her husband. She'll start acting weird and disrespectful to her husband.

Whats bad in her feeling beautiful?
Whats bad in her feeling beautiful?
Whats bad in her feeling beautiful?

The wife fine abi she nor fine That's the issue here

Busybodies!
The employees were hired to do their job.
They were not hired to scan people's wives.
What is their business with the man's wife?

omoredia:
Wear her a burqa next time. That will help cos it is clear he is those extremist

”wear her” is grammatically incorrect. You probably meant to say that next time he should have her wear a burqa.

Busybodies!
The employees were hired to do their job.
They were not hired to scan people's wives.
What is their business with the man's wife, anyway?

Camera was just beautifully set to capture the moment at the right time 😀

Angelfrost:
There is something called "Cultural Sensitivity".

These employees ought to know better, or maybe they weren't taught properly.

Yes, harmless compliment in some cultures but seen as an affront in others.


Even here in Nigeria, you don't and can't relate with married women in the core North, the way you relate with them down South.


Personally, I won't ever compliment a woman's beauty in front of her husband, regardless of how liberal he seems or appears.

It might even be in better taste to do it indirectly by addressing the man instead... Something like:

"Sir, you are taking good care of your wife. She looks good".

It's not mandatory you even speak of someone's wife in the husband's presence. Just not right.

Saidfx:
It's not mandatory you even speak of someone's wife in the husband's presence. Just not right.

Totally true...! You are very correct.

People need to learn manners.

The customwer is overreacting.

It is wrong for the staff to call her beautiful. She is a married woman. I am even reserved commenting on their dressing. At best, "I like your outfit." It could be misread.

If your wife is there, you'd know why you should thread careful when complementing another woman.

Beey:
”wear her” is grammatically incorrect. You probably meant to say that next time he should have her wear a burqa.

Before you could read it, I had gotten my first degree.

Kobojunkie:
Where you offended by her calling you "Sweetheart" or was your offense on behalf of her husband, bayi? Na the woman's mouth! If her husband has a problem with her using her mouth in that manner, let him take it up with his wife.

I wasn't offended cause she often calls me that. I júst laughed it off since it was all joke. We men can be jealous o.

lenghtinny:
Make he come naija come see where stupid yahoo boys go Dey toast babe beside her boyfriend

Shey na compliment Dey disturb am

I swear most especially Lagos and port Harcourt boys Dem go even carry ur babe/wife for outing

SamuraiXXX:
Wait until you get married and they say it in front of your wife or a male admirer of your wife calls her darling in your presence

To be very honest
It's no big deal
Its insecure men (and inadequate I must add) that have issues with it

Kobojunkie:
The one taking offense is not the woman but the man. That is a problem. My guess is the woman probably smiled and went on her way, but the man, probably in some foolish, macho sense, decided he should take offense in place of her. Not realizing he made an eejit out of himself by doing so.

Your wife or woman you are in a relationship with is not your property, not by law or even by societal standards out here.

SMHFU!

Women generally need protections. They often don't know when they are being violated. That's why they are called weaker sex.

That said, irrespective whether there is relationship between them or not, when you see a man and a woman together, courtesy and civility demand he conducts himself in a professional manner. He wasn't employed to be complementing women up and down.

Glimpsetv:
I once witnessed a similar scenario at a popular mall. The guy in charge of the shawarma section was telling a woman, “Ah, madam, you are so beautiful. I like your this and that...” Meanwhile, her husband was standing right behind us.

I was beside the woman, waiting to place my order. It felt kind of funny to me, and a lot of thoughts started running through my mind — especially because he was whispering it.

I got my order first and left. I don't know if the husband heard or reacted, but honestly, I felt it was kinda creepy.

People should learn to keep quiet sometimes, especially when a lady is with her man.
You may mean no harm, but the guy might see it as you trying to flirt with his woman. People think differently, and levels of maturity vary.

You compliment a woman through her man if the man is there. Sir you made a beautiful pick of a wife. Sir you got great taste for beauty. In that way you compliment the woman while acknowledging the man.. I have applied it several times and it worked fine.

Make the wife go dey wear hijab then. Abi make im dey go dey body guard im him wife everywhere. Oda!

Glimpsetv:
I once witnessed a similar scenario at a popular mall. The guy in charge of the shawarma section was telling a woman, “Ah, madam, you are so beautiful. I like your this and that...” Meanwhile, her husband was standing right behind us.

I was beside the woman, waiting to place my order. It felt kind of funny to me, and a lot of thoughts started running through my mind — especially because he was whispering it.

I got my order first and left. I don't know if the husband heard or reacted, but honestly, I felt it was kinda creepy.

People should learn to keep quiet sometimes, especially when a lady is with her man.
You may mean no harm, but the guy might see it as you trying to flirt with his woman. People think differently, and levels of maturity vary.

A lot of people lack emotional intelligence.

Not enough original content

picture of the beautiful wife or it didn't happen

Treasure17:
✓ I wasn't offended cause she often calls me that. I júst laughed it off since it was all joke. We men can be jealous o.

Being jealous is one thing, acting out in am utterly immature manner is another thing, abeg. 🤔

CaptainFM1:
✓ SMHFU! Women generally need protections. They often don't know when they are being violated. That's why they are called weaker sex.
✓ That said, irrespective whether there is relationship between them or not, when you see a man and a woman together, courtesy and civility demand he conducts himself in a professional manner. He wasn't employed to be complementing women up and down.

1. Let the women decide for themselves when they need that protection from you all. A man is not a god or superhero to a woman that he should think it his place to fight her supposed battles for her, abeg! 🤔

2. Nonsense! That reasoning may belong to those of you from the religious world. However, in the real world were the rest of us reside, being married is just a contract between two folks on paper and that is all. I would have advised for folks who have this mentality of yours to carry themselves enter commune but having seen the many atrocities committed particularly by men against woman and children in such places, I am of course against such and would demand freedom for all. That used to be the way but thankfully no more of that nonsense allowed. All humans are individuals with individual rights until death.

Kobojunkie:
1. Let the women decide for themselves when they need that protection from you all. A man is not a god or superhero to a woman that he should think it his place to fight her supposed battles for her, abeg! 🤔

2. Nonsense! That reasoning may belong to those of you from the religious world. However, in the real world were the rest of us reside, being married is just a contract between two folks on paper and that is all. I would have advised for folks who have this mentality of yours to carry themselves enter commune but having seen the many atrocities committed particularly by men against woman and children in such places, I am of course against such and would demand freedom for all. That used to be the way but thankfully no more of that nonsense allowed. All humans are individuals with individual rights until death.

SMHFU!

I should leave you to it. Nothing more to say with 16 characters left. You won!

Gawsh! Arghhh!