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Please you have to be sure it's rape, because girls of now adays can be manipulating , it might be because she saw blood that it's why she called you, rape in a car am not sure

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

First of all I don't support rape of any kind but your cousin sisters case and report is not clear to me.
She said there was no real penetration, that the man only released on her and not in her. If that's the case what does she need the drugs for?

It might be something consensual but she doesn't want to tell you, or she's hiding something. Pls vet her thoroughly. Don't go and react for the wrong reason. This women sometimes can put you in a big problem if you don't use your head.

nedekid:
➜Does madness run in your family? What has what you posted got to do with the topic at hand here in Nigeria? Did you even read the OPs post before commenting?

My apologies! I quoted the wrong person. Below is the comment that was intended for.

How is it possible for a man to rape a girl inside a car🤔,did he rape her in d front seat or at d back seat,cus I see no possibility of raping a girl inside a car without d girl been drugged ,are you this not a mutual agreement between the two of them

The woman from the night club was probably drunk this case is different

Omoapena:
You need evidence bro, they need to first of all make the man confess to his crime and once they have that evidence, they can now approach any authority with the evidence.

All they need is to manipulate that man and make him comfortable around the girl and once that is done, they will manipulate him into confessing to his own crime and they get evidence against him.

very true

Ekaka14:
Also to ensure that she keeps the evidence of his sperm "over her" or her clothes... it may become a very useful evidence. e get why...🤔
Also, what is an 18 year doing...with an older man alone not blaming her but the failed parents!!

true

Exactly, the girl wasn't raped, it was consensual but she's scared she might be pregnant and wanted to solicit him to get her some preg pills

Fiscus105:
Ur sister never tell you the truth about her incoming pregnancy. Maybe you are the one that is not perfect ur writing skills, wen u are dishing out ur figment of imaginations.

....... I stopped from where you said, he raped her inside his car, after telling you she was following the man because she wanted him to get job for you.

First and foremost, understand that one of the key elements for rape to be said to have occurred is that there must be penetration. While it is still repugnant to learn that things like this still happen, we must not ignore the fact that she put herself in such a vulnerable position by trusting some random man that comes to her mother's restaurant. Part of the reason why you feel this pain is because she didn't share her plan to meet someone about getting you a job. I'm sure you would have advised her accordingly or better still, discouraged her.

Kobojunkie:
My apologies! I quoted the wrong person. Below is the comment that was intended for.

My apologies for my fowl language, it is unlike me..
Much respect to you.

Firebox123:
if another man rape her 😎

No pictorial proof or evidence that the man rape her brr

Nigerian sef

CCTV caught baba ijesha sexually harassing the girl if not you think he'll be in prison by now

He's no longer in prison

Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

Why not respect her wish?

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

What concerns society with someone’s kink? Society didn’t teach him that and surely not his parents. He learned it on his own.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).
.

Have you gotten her the postpill?
Action over words.

Silentgroper:
You no get??


😏😏😏

Definitely...

I be human nah


😂

Your cousin is hiding something.

I lost interest when you mentioned the job part, she's just being manipulative......Most of these small girls nowadays are terrible beings.

dederocs:
Phone records can show that they were both together, it starts from there.

Well, it's still very much tricky

First foremost you need to assure her it's not her fault as she didn't walk into it knowingly.
Next is to take her for medical tests for STI/HIV to know her status including pregnancy test. If the outcome is all negative, encourage her to stay chaste. If positive 9in any way), immediately seek medical attention. All this should be done in a public health institution and well documented preferably a General Hospital.
But a more critical aspect of this whole debacle, is to encourage to speak out and get her parents to be supportive and report the matter to the Police or Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (if it happened in Lagos) for investigation.
While cases or rape are difficult to prove in Nigeria, with concrete evidence(s), justice will be served correctly.
All the best.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

Why do I feel she is not saying the whole truth about what happened. You need to thread carefully. You will look stupid if eventually she is lying and the encounter was consentual. Most girls I have met in the past claimed they were raped during their first sexual encounters but I know most of them are lying. Get your facts right before you act.

illicit:
Definitely...

I be human nah


😂

You sef don see say the question wey you ask dey weird...

Am even angry too, see take her to a police station and report the act , they will invite the man, and he will pay for it, one way or another.

Silentgroper:
You sef don see say the question wey you ask dey weird...

U still don't get it...


I don't expect u to have cousins


I have cousins cos I am human

🥵

😂😂😂😂😋

illicit:
U still don't get it...


I don't expect u to have cousins


I have cousins cos I am human

🥵

😂😂😂😂😋

So me na A.I ??


☹️☹️☹️

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=136032728]...If you don't know something, why not do some research before commenting? It is 2025, and there is absolutely no good reason to remain dense!

hey I am not dense, she said the man use to come to there restaurant, when will he go and meet the man if she is not interested, even if it's at night nobody pass. Abeg

Silentgroper:
So me na A.I ??


☹️☹️☹️

🥵😂

Jamsam:
hey I am not dense, she said the man use to come to there restaurant, when will he go and meet the man if she is not interested, even if it's at night nobody pass. Abeg

How does going to meet someone somewhere translate to giving that person authority to then violate your body? Are you sure you are OK in the head there?

Also, please use the internet to educate yourself. Women, children, etc., are raped in cars across even your own country there. Stop gaslighting victims, cause one day, it may be your mother, sister, daughter, or son in that position.

No addup

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

She wasn't raped.

She probably had sex with a guy or her bf and since it was her first time, the penetration was probably hurtful and of course she felt she'll likely be pregnant or she's already pregnant and she knows it, and so she came up with the rape saga.

You'll need to be very logical in thinking to outsmart the female being

LordBiden:
How is it even possible to rape a person in the car,in a public space with passersby?

These are some of the stories people cook up to make frontpage.

was scrolling to see who would first bring this up..if you ask me a car is one of the hardest places to rape some one ...unless there was a high degree of concsensuality until things went south when you had already agreed to lay naked at his back sit

Kobojunkie:
How does going to meet someone somewhere translate to giving that person authority to then violate your body? Are you sure you are OK in the head there?

Also, please use the internet to educate yourself. Women, children, etc., are raped in cars across even your own country there. Stop gaslighting victims, cause one day, it may be your mother, sister, daughter, or son in that position.

Hello, I am okay and very fine am not supporting rape but truth yourself there are a lot of innocent people in prison in which they were manipulated. This topic might be true or not. Think with your head man

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

It's always advised to report rape cases immediately because you can't preserve evidence for too long if left unreported! Sunday is like 4 days ago, I hope they can still get anything, considering our weak forensic investigation process. That said, head to the police station, they have an active gender desk in every police station... don't let a racist get away because of shame of victimization! You can get infected with an STD, not only pregnancy