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OgidiHerbals:
You've said it all summarily. Most divorces happens with LEARNED couples.

it is not really been learned dat causes divorce. it is more of character Dan sophistication , exposure or acquired higher knowledge.

You can have husbnd and wife both not educated and still pushing for separation.

There are plenty couples outside dat husbnd Nd wife are both learned but have stayed over 30yrs in marriage.

character here i mean has notin to do with he or she been decent or responsible. you cn be decent or responsible and nt have character one shud put up in marriage.

An educated or non-educated person cn have the character.

Forgiveness, tolerance,goodness,truthfulness,empathy,patience,love,kindness,self control etc are what holds marriage for long.

Keeping a marriage requires lots of sacrifices.
Many have no patience for such

Nonsense.

Gender equality is why marriages are collapsing. A man and a woman are not equal. Simple

Marriage is a cage and everyone wants to be free

Princeokwuego1:
➜Marriage is a cage and everyone wants to be free

Marriage has almost never been designed as a cage. Divorce has always been an open gate out of marriage for many thousands of years. Your traditions and religions instead taught you that it was a cage. The moment cuts out of those delusions, one begins to see things as they have almost always presented themselves. 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

lailo:
➜Gender equality is why marriages are collapsing. A man and a woman are not equal. Simple

When your ancestors abandoned wife and children for what were, many a time, selfish reasons, was it gender equality to blame then too?

movid:
Some people tie it to zodiac sign

Put simply; astral compatibility.

You might have 'compatible' Sun sign with another male or female, yet incompatible for long-term relationship like marriage.


There are so many other factors at play, apart from the popular Sun sign paraded everywhere.

SlavaUkraini:
➜Marriage cannot last these days because both husband and wife are always looking outside for pleasure and attention

Was marriage a lot better when it was mostly just the men looking outside for pleasure and attention?

Amotolongbo:
“Reason why marriages aren’t lasting again”.
Were marriages lasting before?
Tell me the time/period when marriages were lasting

Are you not too old for this question?

Dpaulie:
➜The least long marriage in my paternal and maternal party is 30 years and still counting, my parents marriage is over 50 years. Speak for yourself madam. Marriage Dey last well, well!

Here's the most important we would like to know. Would you have been willing to trade places with the woman in that 30-year marriage you referenced? Are you telling us that you would have gladly lived the exact life your mother did for those 50 years?

Gandah:
➜Na y I dey fear to marry especially with the current hardship

It is OK not to marry at all. Don't let society bully or browbeat you into doing what you are not built for or capable of living with.

Akuruoulo:
➜Are you not too old for this question?

Na because una no dey ask questions, una dey always dey extremely ignorant of the fact right before your very eyes.

Marriage is now outdated. The lies holding it together has now been revealed. Divorce will continue to increase and single guys will no longer be interested in marriage. Embrace the new reality.

Hhh4444:
➜Marriage is now outdated. The lies holding it together has now been revealed. Divorce will continue to increase and single guys will no longer be interested in marriage. Embrace the new reality.

I'd rather think it is now undergoing a much-needed evolutionary step.

Kobojunkie:
I'd rather think it is now undergoing a much-needed evolutionary step.

evolving into what exactly?The institution is heading into extinction and you are talking about evolution.

OgidiHerbals:
You've said it all summarily. Most divorces happens with LEARNED couples.

Back when your ancestors divorced wives, abandoning them in many cases along with the children they had, taking back bride prices, sometimes to appease other women/men or simply because, were they learned? Na school, your ancestors go go learn divorce ? Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Hhh4444:
➜evolving into what exactly?The institution is heading into extinction and you are talking about evolution.

We don't know yet, that is the thing, but judging from the various kinds of marriages popping up everywhere, we certainly know it is going to getting to be individually designed and no longer as designed by society.

Kobojunkie:
We don't know yet, that is the thing, but judging from the various kinds of marriages popping up everywhere, we certainly know it is going to getting to be individually designed and no longer as designed by society.

one thing I have come to realize about life is nothing is permanent.with time, everything eventually dies. Marriage is dying. It is more difficult to sustain marriage now than it was 30 years ago.

Hhh4444:
one thing I have come to realize about life is nothing is permanent.with time, everything eventually dies. Marriage is dying. It is more difficult to sustain marriage now than it was 30 years ago.

All relationships involving humans were only meant to be sustained for as long as the humans in the relationships are capable of doing so. It is no different with marriage. Yes, some societies have sort in the past to force couples into holding on until the literal end of their lives in marriage. "Till death do us part," was a scam written against people by traditional and religious scammers. But that charade is what is slowly being eroded with individuals choosing only to go for as long as they can or until they get bored out of their minds, and are ready to move on to the next.

That a marriage fails to last as long as the particular milestone you set in your mind for it does not make it any less of a marriage.

Marriage is not for this generation.

Kobojunkie:
All relationships involving humans was only meant to be sustained for as long as the humans in the relationships are capable of doing so. It is no different with marriage. Yes, some societies have sort in the past to force couples into holding on until the literal end of their lives in marriage but that charade is what is slowly being eroded with individuals choosing only to go for as long as they can or until they get bored out of their minds, and are ready to move on to the next.

That a marriage fails to last as long as the particular milestone you set in your mind for it does not make it any less of a marriage.

You have a point. Marriage is suppose to be contractual. The idea of till death do us apart is too ideal to be sustained. It was even societal pressure,shaming that kept some women in their marriage. If I am to believe your evolutionary view of marriage, I would say it will evolve into a contract based arrangement where one can exercise right to opt out or renew the contract when due.

Hhh4444:
➜You have a point. Marriage is suppose to be contractual. The idea of till death do us apart is too ideal to be sustained. It was even societal pressure,shaming that kept some women in their marriage. If I am to believe your evolutionary view of marriage, I would say it will evolve into a contract based arrangement where one can exercise right to opt out or renew the contract when due.

Marriage was always meant as a business agreement between two individuals. Along the way, it was hijacked by families and then society. Now we see it making its way back to the original script, where the individuals decide for themselves the terms and duration of their marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage was always meant as a business agreement between two individuals. Along the way, it was hijacked by families and then society. Now we see it making its way back to the original script, where the individuals decide for themselves the terms and duration of their marriage.

Nice one,I hope people understand this now so they prepare their mind for the eventual divorce when it happens. The divorce is no longer of if but when,because in this present day virtually no man would want to renew his marriage contracts. Humans easily get bored with the familiar and crave mystery. I get bored easily living with women. This happens even with the gal I love most. After spending few days I’m already bored and want her to leave,so it’s almost impossible for someone like me to sustain marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Here's the most important we would like to know. Would you have been willing to trade places with the woman in that 30-year marriage you referenced? Are you telling us that you would have gladly lived the exact life your mother did for those 50 years?

Firstly I'll like to know your age, so that I'll know the generation u belong to... no offense pls

Dpaulie:
➜Firstly I'll like to know your age, so that I'll know the generation u belong to... no offense pls

Probably your father's generation.

Demigod22:
Our generation is not cut out for marriage. We are too sophisticated and nonconformists to respect the values in which marriage is built upon.

Hmmmm

Some facts you broadly stated

If you look at the women people in their 60s or 70s married, what they persevered, their standard

Many women or to an extent men can't withstand it

Eg some women now can't draw well

Dpaulie:
➜Ok, grandma

OK what?

Kobojunkie:
OK what?

I'm fine with ur response now, I concours

Honestey:
The main reason is economy higi-haga

I don't think it is bad economy. If it is, why would pastor Chris and his wife divorced?