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a girl that captured me

I'm not well educated but try to read and understand me please.

good day everyone 🙏

There is this girl at my place of work, I didn't like her in the first place, I never thought I'd write about her today.

She likes coming close to me all the time, in a way people thought we were dating

My 23years on this earth aside from from my mom I have never seen The opposite gender care for me the way she does.

I called her yesterday, sat her down and ask her how is it about us.

What she said broke my heart——- she said "I see you as a friend and a brother to me😭"

This statement got me angry and I told her to stop coming close to me

I'm heart broken because I thought we were dating

But she only see me like a brother🥹

She been given me some money to save for her, I am planning on giving her back the money

But she hasn't ask of the money yet.

She will be texting me always to know how I’m doing, if I will need something.
I don’t know why she mention that bro thing to me though.


What advice can you offer me please 🙏

You can't force love, my bro.
If she doesn't have affection towards you, please don't force you.

What you feel towards her isn't really love. It's just a rush of emotions and chemicals flooding your brain.

Love is tough, tested, and intentional. You are young. You don't know what love is.

Treat her as a friend. Treat her as a sister. Live a good life. Live a simple life. Trust God. Soar!

Dunkjames5:
a girl that captured me

I'm not well educated but try to read and understand me please.

good day everyone 🙏

There is this girl at my place of work, I didn't like her in the first place, I never thought I'd write about her today.

She likes coming close to me all the time, in a way people thought we were dating

My 23years on this earth aside from from my mom I have never seen The opposite gender care for me the way she does.

I called her yesterday, sat her down and ask her how is it about us.

What she said broke my heart——- she said "I see you as a friend and a brother to me😭"

This statement got me angry and I told her to stop coming close to me

I'm heart broken because I thought we were dating

But she only see me like a brother🥹

She been given me some money to save for her, I am planning on giving her back the money

But she hasn't ask of the money yet.

She will be texting me always to know how I’m doing, if I will need something.
I don’t know why she mention that bro thing to me though.


What advice can you offer me please 🙏

Lies, a Nigerian girl would rather combust than confess her feelings to you, all my life na only one girl don tell me she likes me and na after something scandalous happen she get mind talk am, now there's a girl who's friends with my younger sister, she was so obsessed with me after hearing my voice for the first time, she literally disturbed until I gave her my Instagram and we became regular chatting buddies on insta, when I asked her what it is could you believe she said she loves me like a brother, but when she's with my sister she says something else including marrying me, then she talks about guys she wants to go on dates with and need my opinion, she does that so I'd get jealous and tell her not to go on the date, but na me dey encourage her to go on the date pass sef na reverse psychology, bottom line is they'll never confess it, it has to be you who does, they feel it is demeaning and you'll look down on them, tell her you don't see her as a sister, then ask her out, she will agree trust me.

PlasmaTV:
You can't force love, my bro.
If she doesn't have affection towards you, please don't force you.

What you feel towards her isn't really love. It's just a rush of emotions and chemicals flooding your brain.

Love is tough, tested, and intentional. You are young. You don't know what love is.

Treat her as a friend. Treat her as a sister. Live a good life. Live a simple life. Trust God. Soar!

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PlasmaTV:
You can't force love, my bro.
If she doesn't have affection towards you, please don't force you.

What you feel towards her isn't really love. It's just a rush of emotions and chemicals flooding your brain.
Love is tough, tested, and intentional. You are young. You don't know what love is.

Treat her as a friend. Treat her as a sister. Live a good life. Live a simple life. Trust God. Soar!

author=dauntless15 post=136170318]Lies, a Nigerian girl would rather combust than confess her feelings to you, all my life na only one girl don tell me she likes me and na after something scandalous happen she get mind talk am, now there's a girl who's friends with my younger sister, she was so obsessed with me after hearing my voice for the first time, she literally disturbed until I gave her my Instagram and we became regular chatting buddies on insta, when I asked her what it is could you believe she said she loves me like a brother, but when she's with my sister she says something else including marrying me, then she talks about guys she wants to go on dates with and need my opinion, she does that so I'd get jealous and tell her not to go on the date, but na me dey encourage her to go on the date pass sef na reverse psychology, bottom line is they'll never confess it, it has to be you who does, they feel it is demeaning and you'll look down on them, tell her you don't see her as a sister, then ask her out, she will agree trust me.[/quote]Same thing she does to me.

Thank you sir🙏

Dunkjames5:
a girl that captured me

I'm not well educated but try to read and understand me please.

good day everyone 🙏

There is this girl at my place of work, I didn't like her in the first place, I never thought I'd write about her today.

She likes coming close to me all the time, in a way people thought we were dating

My 23years on this earth aside from from my mom I have never seen The opposite gender care for me the way she does.

I called her yesterday, sat her down and ask her how is it about us.

What she said broke my heart——- she said "I see you as a friend and a brother to me😭"

This statement got me angry and I told her to stop coming close to me

I'm heart broken because I thought we were dating

But she only see me like a brother🥹

She been given me some money to save for her, I am planning on giving her back the money

But she hasn't ask of the money yet.

She will be texting me always to know how I’m doing, if I will need something.
I don’t know why she mention that bro thing to me though.


What advice can you offer me please 🙏

Omo! You've already flipped the coin by making her think you're the one who liked her. You misinterpreted her kindness and care for love. And she most likely act the same way to other people. And that's just who she is naturally as a girl.

You'd be surprised that she doesn't feel a thing for you. You just played yourself here and let her know you're in love with her.

Just continue relating with her as a coworker that you both are and don't make it awkward. And don't ever make the mistake of revealing feelings because its not love, trust me. If anything intimate happens between you guys, let it be consensual but never try to define a relationship with her if that was not your plan from the beginning.

Do you understand?