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In most cases, it is true... I don't know what is it with some of my gender and their love for toxic men.

Like as for me, I'm tired of always backing up these ladies since they obviously enjoy toxicity, only for them to be coming out here playing the victim card and expecting us to be sympathizing with them as if they didn't see the red flags from the beginning but ignored them... Some of them would even go to the extent of cutting ties with their family members for advising them against such toxic relationships.

Just a couple of days ago, I got attacked by my own gender for telling this other lady how she got what she deserved for staying in an abusive relationship that nearly claimed her life.

Totally true. That is who they are and nothing can change it.

Women don't value peace of mind. There has to be toxicity for them to be comfortable

cutecommend:
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even when you keep a fowl in a clean room full of corn, bread and chicken feeds, as soon as it sees the slightest chance to go outside, it MUST still come outside to scratch dustbin and sand to look for trash to eat.

That is why it's very dangerous to give your woman everything she wants, absolute peace and satisfaction in arelationship. Spice it up with occasional troubles and stress even intentionally. Always keep her on her toes

FreeSpirited:
That is why it's very dangerous to give your woman absolute enjoyment peace and satisfaction in arelationship. Spice it up with occasional troubles and stress even intentionally. Always keep her on her toes

for relationship matter you take am very serious oo. Dem go still cheat on you wotowoto

Cum4me:
for relationship matter you take am very serious oo. Dem go still cheat on you wotowoto

Even you, that is not to say she won't cheat
At least she will be less relaxed. Women who are absolutely comfortable and relax in relationship na them cheat pass

Even if the relationship is going smooth, plant small wahala. A healthy relationship with a woman will make her cheat

Toxic relationships are emotionally addictive.

cutecommend:
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Absolutely true. Females hate a good man, but wants a good man.

marlow1962:
Absolutely true. Females hate a good man, but wants a good man.

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cutecommend:
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Only women that grew up in a abusive home with no love will choose this

Maybe because Eve listened to the toxic serpent despite knowing she was in a healthy relationship with Adam.

The more lovely they are, the more dangerous they become.

Majority of them I can say do such.. that is like 87% of them

In terms of Toxicity, i have heard a saying that: "An African woman that is not slapped, is not loved"...

THEY CHEAT IN HEALTHY RELATIONS BECAUSE OF TOO MUCH FREEDOM
THEY STAY FAITHFUL IN TOXIC RELATIONS BECAUSE OF FEAR

FreeSpirited:
That is why it's very dangerous to give your woman absolute enjoyment peace and satisfaction in arelationship. Spice it up with occasional troubles and stress even intentionally. Always keep her on her toes

Person wey go cheat go cheat. Leave story for Mathias

Fear woman..! Some of them may endure the situation they met in their marital life while this generation Facebook ones may not endure it at all.

Meanwhile, fear woman..!

Women are Women created by God.

I cannot question God for creating them the way they are .

Women thrives in chaos...if there is too much peace at home, they create chaos

Just here to learn as a single nigga...

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Women don't really know what they want..
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Samantha125:
In most cases, it is true... I don't know what is it with some of my gender and their love for toxic men.

Like as for me, I'm tired of always backing up these ladies since they obviously enjoy toxicity, only for them to be coming out here playing the victim card and expecting us to be sympathizing with them as if they didn't see the red flags from the beginning but ignored them... Some of them would even go to the extent of cutting ties with their family members for advising them against such toxic relationships.

Just a couple of days ago, I got attacked by my own gender for telling this other lady how she got what she deserved for staying in an abusive relationship that nearly claimed her life.

It is not true in some cases; it is true in all cases.

Know this and know peace.
If you are a peaceful man of zero drama, your wife doesn't fear you small, you are very predictable, you are not suspicious, you believe your wife always.

Bros, you are a SIMP in capital letters and your wife will cheat even if she doesn't want to.
WHY ?
You created a very conducive environment for her to cheat

Feel free to replicate the toxicity in your relationships and marriages.

One babe for my class back then in university, sy her guy must beat am at least once weekly to prove love for her.then after beating, he go come pet her

cutecommend:
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That statement — “A female would be cheating in a healthy relationship but be faithful in toxic ones” — is a provocative generalization that reflects more about emotional dynamics than gender itself. Let’s break it down thoughtfully:

What it might mean:
1. Emotional Conditioning or Trauma Bonding:
In a toxic relationship, some women (and men too) become emotionally dependent or trauma-bonded. Despite abuse or neglect, they stay loyal, sometimes out of fear, low self-worth, or hope things will improve.
2. Taking a Good Partner for Granted:
In a healthy relationship, a partner may feel so secure or "unthreatened" that they take the relationship for granted, potentially leading to boredom, curiosity, or attention-seeking behavior — which can lead to infidelity. Again, this applies to any gender, not just women.
3. Self-Sabotage or Internal Conflict:
Some people aren’t emotionally ready for healthy love. When they get it, it feels unfamiliar, and they subconsciously sabotage it — sometimes through cheating — while staying loyal to toxicity because it feels "normal" or "deserved."

What this doesn't mean:

That all women act this way.

That healthy relationships cause cheating.

That toxicity earns loyalty.
These are oversimplified views that ignore deeper emotional and psychological factors.

A better way to say it: “Some people stay loyal to toxic partners due to emotional wounds, while sabotaging healthy love because it feels unfamiliar or undeserved.”

cutecommend:
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The reply, most of them don't know what they really want...

Wetin she talk no be normal at all. E dey very dangerous make person believe say beating na sign of love.

Many times, when person think say na so love suppose be, e fit be because:

1. Trauma bonding – na when person dey used to abuse and e come dey see am as normal because after the beating, small love go follow.
2. Wetin dem grow see – if she grow up where dem dey beat each other for relationship, she fit think say na so e suppose be.
3. Low self-esteem – she no believe say she deserve better, so she go dey take pain as sign of love.
4. Movies, music, society – sometimes music and film dey show say if guy no dey jealous or beat you, e no love you. Na big lie.

Make we talk true: Beating no be love, na abuse.

Real love no go raise hand beat you. Love go protect you, respect you, care for you — e no suppose make you cry or fear.

If she still reason like that, she need healing, not insult. But person still suppose tell her the truth straight: that kain mindset fit destroy her life.

Creamypie:
One babe for my class back then in university, sy her guy must beat am at least once weekly to prove love for her.then after beating, he go come pet her

That statement — “Women thrive in chaos... if there is too much peace at home, they create chaos” — is a generalization rooted more in stereotype than truth. While it might reflect some people's experiences or frustrations in specific relationships, it's not universally true or fair.

People (not just women) who are used to drama, instability, or emotional turbulence may subconsciously recreate those patterns when things feel “too calm.” This is a psychological behavior linked to trauma, attachment styles, or emotional conditioning — not gender.

Healthy women, like healthy men, appreciate peace, stability, and emotional safety. If there’s chaos, it's usually a sign that something deeper is wrong — unmet needs, unspoken resentment, boredom, or a lack of emotional connection — not that they simply "enjoy" chaos.


If you're noticing a pattern like this in a relationship, it’s worth asking:

A. Are both partners emotionally secure?

B. Are needs and frustrations communicated clearly?

C. Is there mutual respect and understanding?

abc115:
Women are Women created by God.

I cannot question God for creating them the way they are .

Women thrives in chaos...if there is too much peace at home, they create chaos

No matter what you do
Do not be boring




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