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The husband should divorce the wife ASAP.

do4luv14:
➜The most important question is usually leave aside. What did the wife did, that anger the husband to beat her, As for me after her brothers are done, I go traditional to separate she and me, then divorce her, she should carry her bags to her brothers house

That is not important at all. The people who taught you that such things are important would themselves never allow their own daughters to be beside someone who abuses them for any reason.

Kaido:
The husband should divorce the wife ASAP.

Immediately before he ends up killing her next time.

columbus007:
The after I collect the beating finish, then we no get marriage again na, the beat the marriage join, inshort the marriage die sef, so make she dey waka.

The marriage ended the moment the man and woman resorted to assaulting each other.

Kobojunkie:
Domestic violence is not caused by the victim of domestic violence but rather by the emotional immaturity of the abuser in the case. If a man chooses to pummel his friend until he has to be hospitalized simply because his friend slapped him or kicked him will have to pay up or go to jail if the case reaches the court. That is the general legal stance. Know this and get sense.

You are entitled to your opinion, but we know SIMPs when we see one

A peaceful home is everyone's responsibility, but when men like you tells a woman that no matter what she says or do, no man should touch her, she becomes irresponsible and uncontrollable, the major reason marriages fail today.

I am not supporting the husband, but we all know that there are better ways that woman should have manage her home for peace to reign. men are not always to blame when domestic violence happens, some men have breaking point that if crossed, they could lose their cool.

Everyone has a role to play!

yemmit90:
Exactly, women should learn to be peaceful during an argument.

It's not that some woman are not peaceful but some man that are from a polygamy family some of them are brought up in violence it's in there mentality. I understand what I'm saying because I'm living in it

I don’t encourage violence but I support this act with my two balls 😂😂🙏

Lol…the man go don dey do am tey tey for it to get to this level

That's good!
No level of provocation should warrant you to beat your wife.
If you can no longer tolerate her, send her back to her family in one bit.

Lovit:
➜You are entitled to your opinion, but we know SIMPs when we see one
A peaceful home is everyone's responsibility, but when men like you tells a woman that no matter what she says or do, no man should touch her, she becomes irresponsible and uncontrollable, the major reason marriages fail today.
➜I am not supporting the husband, but we all know that there are better ways that woman should have manage her home for peace to reign.
➜ men are not always to blame when domestic happens, some men have breaking point that if crossed, they could lose their cool.
➜ Everyone has a role to play!

1. This is wrong thinking on your part. The legal code in the land is firm that no citizen has the right to physically assault another citizen. So, when you say a man can assault a woman, what you are saying is that the man can break the law. Why?

By the way, if a man believes his wife is irresponsible or, according to you, uncontrollable, what stops him from leaving the environment entirely or getting a divorce from her? Why must he break the law in this case?

2. NO! We don't. You are not making sense to me at all. Again, I am with the marriage is not by force crowd out there. If a man and woman are not happy in their relationship, they can easily get a separation from each other or a divorce. Suggesting there should be a place for the man to assault the woman in the name of what you term peaceful home is what I find utterly absurd.

3. In a case of assault of every kind, the victim of the assault is never to blame. The one who assaulted... caused the most harm is the one most likely to be penalized by the law. If you don't know your law, you'd better pick up a copy of the code and begin familiarizing yourself with it.

Jamsam:
➜ It's not that some woman are not peaceful but some man that are from a polygamy family some of them are brought up in violence it's in there mentality. I understand what I'm saying because I'm living in it

No one is entitled to that mentality. We all have violence in our veins, and we are all expected to learn to tame that violent streak in ourselves. Anyone who came from a violent past can equally learn to take their emotions as others have been able to. No one has a valid enough excuse for violence.

Tinubumustgo:



Something like this happened in our community some years ago.

The wife left the house with the brother after he and his friends beat up her husband when she reported to the brother.

Two days later, the husband went to the family home and later to the igwe palace to report the matter.

The matter was later settled by the igwe and the wife followed the husband back home, but........ The marriage never remain the same.
Its not advisable to beat up husband with relatives in marriage

It's something the woman will live to regret.

If I was the man I would have sent the woman back to her parent house If can't tolerate her behavior anymore. It's even more shameful that way than to be beat her. Anyway that marriage has ended forever.

Wait o what if the man's brothers too takes the war to the in laws?

Kobojunkie:
No one is entitled to that mentality. We all have violence in our veins, and we are all expected to learn to tame that violent streak in ourselves. Anyone who came from a violent past can equally learn to take their emotions as others have been able to. No one has a valid enough excuse for violence.

Someone that was brought up in love can hardly be violence,one the order side if the people is willing to learn for good, bring down his or her ego

dollytino4real:
i will soon be a grand ma,

So your daughter don go carry belle for unknown man

Kobojunkie:
1. Look up the details of the punishment as prescribed by your law; I believe it should be something like a fine or a possible jail term. Assault isn't about whether one is married to one or not. A husband had the right to have his wife fined or jailed in the case of an assault, and the woman has the same right.

2. Quarrels, arguments, and the like happen between humans in general, not just married couples, so this, again, is not about marriage but about the rights of individuals. Common-sense things for all humans to do when we notice we are getting in over our heads are to run. That ability to run away from damage is common to all humans. Trying to use marriage as an excuse not to engage your brain is what is ridiculous.

Have you ever sees or heard about any couple being fined or jailed for an assault that is not classified as murder or attempting murder?

It is called civil case in the court of law, the judge would rather ask them to go home and settle it amicably or separate for awhile and return for divorce if they can't settle it.

A man or woman you jailed will possibly end his/her marriage with you. Couples are better off settle their differences withiout interfering of a third party. A stubborn woman that got a resounding multiple slaps in return for pouring hot food on her husband face will think twice before attempting the same next time. A man that got his face bathed with hot food will possibly watch his tongue next during an argument. Though going physical is absolutely out of it but there must be occasional fight in marriage for both side to reach a level of equilibrium.

Jamsam:
➜Someone that was brought up in love can hardly be violence,one the order side if the people is willing to learn for good, bring down his or her ego

There are 10s of millions of people out there who were brought up in violence but would rather die themselves than inflict violence on others. Some orphans never got a break in life to date would rather remain alone than pass the same hurt that was doled out to them as children on others. 🙄🙄🙄

Stop making excuses for what is a lack of emotional maturity.

The husband must have been consistently beating his wife after several warnings from his in-laws

Zooposki:
Very good. Next time the husband will think twice before beating the wife. Them no flog am well. Them for give the cane to the wife to flog him too.

U be wer ey

The marriage has ended already
She'll pack and follow her brothers as they're leaving

Kobojunkie:
There is never a good enough reason for a man to lay hands on his wife.

It's also not right for the brothers to flog him like a child. It's embarrassing. Two wrongs never make a right. The woman should leave the house as the backlash of this event won't go down well with her.

Are they from IBADAN?



I had a similar experience

My wife's sisters slapped and stoned me. The slapping and stoning took place in IBADAN. The marriage never remain the same, I have sent her packing

Jamsam:
It's not that some woman are not peaceful but some man that are from a polygamy family some of them are brought up in violence it's in there mentality. I understand what I'm saying because I'm living in it

You self, these are the things you should've watch out for before you say I do.. Anyway, you just have to manage him like that and always avoid anything that will provoke him.

These guys will regret doing this.

You don't put mouth in husband and wife matters.

They will still settle.

Women are known to love their oppressors.
They can tolerate and endure all sorts of abuse just to remain married .

The husband can end up killing their sister.

Emma09:
This is what my friend and his brothers did to their in-law some years back that ended her Marriage.

After spending millions on wedding including all the necessary payments for a woman. Everybody come go their separate ways.
Marriage na just another method of scam.

Kobojunkie:
The marriage ended the moment the man laid hands on the woman. That she remained does not mean a marriage continued; rather, that a victim of abuse submitted to trauma and her tormentor.

Abi o..all these people talking bla bla bla I bet it's because they've never been in that position. A man consistently beating your sister just cos he married her deserves proper beating back by her brothers

dollytino4real:
i will soon be a grand ma,

Dis one shock me aswear
And the funny thing there is that you are saying the truth

yemmit90:
➜Have you ever sees or heard about any couple being fined or jailed for an assault that is not classified as murder or attempting murder?
➜ It is called civil case in the court of law, the judge would rather ask them to go home and settle it amicably or separate for awhile and return for divorce if they can't settle it.
➜ A man or woman you jailed will possibly end his/her marriage with you. Couples are better off settle their differences withiout interfering of a third party. A stubborn woman that got a resounding multiple slaps in return for pouring hot food on her husband face will think twice before attempting the same next time. A man that got his face bathed with hot food will possibly watch his tongue next during an argument. Though going physical is absolutely out of it but there must be occasional fight in marriage for both side to reach a level of equilibrium.

1. Yeah! Divorce cases where a woman or man divorced and charged the woman for assault are plenty out there.

2. Asking them to settle could also mean to reach a settlement agreement — the amount of the fine to be paid to the assaulted by the assailant— and this can easily be handled by the lawyers of both parties involved.

3. Once one party assaults another party, the logical thing to follow should be divorce. Once the environment has become toxic, the only solution is for both to get out of it. You can try to argue otherwise, but there is no other more reasonable solution in that case. And there is no need for additional storytelling!

spiceadole:
These guys will regret doing this.

You don't put mouth in husband and wife matters.
They will still settle.
Women are known to love their oppressors.
They can tolerate and endure all sorts of abuse just to remain married .
The husband can end up killing their sister.

As long as it is a man.
Nothing they cannot do for man.
If it is a fellow woman, they will be wailing like bushbabies. "My gender this. My gender that. I don't flow with women...yenyenyen"

😂😂😂😂

Oga forget sentiments ,all this long story na for wetin? [/quote]

AngelahFlo:
➜It's also not right for the brothers to flog him like a child. It's embarrassing. Two wrongs never make a right. The woman should leave the house as the backlash of this event won't go down well with her.

That one is easily blamed on your numerous useless traditions in Nigeria. I am made to believe that is the solution that traditional leaders came up with, and the same traditional leaders may also send the woman — victim — back to the same husband who was beaten up, eventually. Just imagine the wickedness of all that.

Kobojunkie:
That one is easily blamed on your numerous useless traditions in Nigeria. I am made to believe that is the solution that traditional leaders came up with, and the same traditional leaders may also send the woman — victim — back to the same husband who was beaten up, eventually. Just imagine the wickedness of all that.

Na so o my brother. Otherwise who'll stand for this kinda treatment. That woman should live that house for the time being.