₦airaland Forum

There's nothing wrong with testing a man's masculinity while the relationship is still new.

In that way, if he starts ranting like this one, you can run and never look back...

SeriouslySense:
Duty ke, its not natural to begin any sensible thing with demands. Its Nigerian women.

Its the reflection of the society, every one demands

smart sami

descarado:
It will never change till thy kingdom come.

Nigerian men set these standards. Why complain.
They believe relationship is transactional. As long as you have the money, you can get any woman you want. Flaunt the money.
Spoil her.

So what is buying food. Will not even reach £10. And as he is coming he is thinking of entering. So he can enter but will not buy food. See foolish sense.

At least, she is even considerate. No be person wey chop belleful dey nak?

it is not a standard, it is Love and care.



U people should not turn everything into a crime.

bemeruca:
My friend is married to a Chinese American woman. When we go out together, he usually asks her if she needs anything so he can buy it for her on the way back to their place. If she needs something, she calls him to ask. Their relationship has been established; they are not just starting out. She isn’t asking him to buy her an expensive phone or a car. it's just for him order a pizza for around £10 or less.

This expense isn’t going to break his bank at all. He should be able to do these little things for her, and she should be able to reciprocate as well.

Oga, your friend married her,there’s a big difference. I have no problem with a man moving mountains for his wife,that’s his covenant.
But let’s not confuse dating with marriage. A man pouring his whole life into every girlfriend he dates is walking on a cliff edge with no safety net.
I pray you’ll give your son the same advice,to treat every girl like a wife even when they’re just dating. Let’s see how long that lasts.

He probably was hungry himself and tired.


He just wanted to talk to somebody outside work and then get hit with another bill.


He wondered whether he was paying to say how are u doing?


If they build up a relationship, that would be nothing but they just met.



Now some show men might welcome the request because they want to put up a show and need an excuse. She sef go know their mugu button and will be pressing it anyhow from day 1.

Chubhie:
What if she's genuinely hungry? How much be the food sef? If you truly love someone, you should only seek out the absence of pain and stress in their live. That we're discussing this shows how decadent humanity don become. I also understand drawing a redline against abuse of such good heart. Even in war, using hunger as a weapon is war crime against humanity how much in love?

Omg... you are a very intelligent and Interesting individual. I love the spun in this. Wow. So brilliant.

Mckandre:
oga,your has married her, their's difference. Relationship and marriage is different,investing overly in a relationship is detrimental to a man than it is for a woman. I pray u will advise your son to do the same to every girl he's in a tender relationship with.

You don't get it. Before a woman agrees to date a man, they should both have gone through knowing each other and that involves being there for each other.

Unless you want to tell me they skipped the knowing each other part and just go into a relationship the day they said hi to each other.

If you are in a relationship with someone like he claimed, you should not run to the internet and start crying because your girlfriend ask for something that cost less than £15

Samantha125:
Why change your duty?🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

Do u even understand your own duty?

This is the part where she runs away.

nnamdi640:
It is very hard to see Nigeria lady that will love you without seeing a good leverage in you, there is no true love in Nigeria ladies dictionary, that gender are something else. This present hardship just brought out the demon in them

Lets not be gender bias. Would you enjoy yourself without leverage, empty and naked? Hardship brings out the demons in humanity. Make i shock you small? If and when Nigeria truly works, Nigerian men go find am hard to get Nigerian women. Then, only the best naturally will get the chance to get a mate.

DyshApp:
Abroad-based Nigerian man shares his experience dating a UK-based Nigerian lady.

The man identified as Daniel shared what transpired between him and the Nigerian lady he was dating.

He shared a video recording of the WhatsApp conversation he had with his girlfriend.


Apparently, the both of them had returned home from work and the guy had sent a VN asking after her day.

The lady had proceeded to lament over how stressful it had been for her and how hungry she was and asked the guy to order something for her.

However, the guy had flown into a rage, wondering why she would ask him for that when there relationship had barely gone anywhere.

“Relationship wey never enter 24 hours, you say make I rush order you something…” he said.

This is Nigerian women for you, that's their behavior. Just get used to it.

My question,will he have sex with her if requested by the same lady?

DyshApp:
Abroad-based Nigerian man shares his experience dating a UK-based Nigerian lady.

The man identified as Daniel shared what transpired between him and the Nigerian lady he was dating.

He shared a video recording of the WhatsApp conversation he had with his girlfriend.


Apparently, the both of them had returned home from work and the guy had sent a VN asking after her day.

The lady had proceeded to lament over how stressful it had been for her and how hungry she was and asked the guy to order something for her.

However, the guy had flown into a rage, wondering why she would ask him for that when there relationship had barely gone anywhere.

“Relationship wey never enter 24 hours, you say make I rush order you something…” he said.

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, what is a man's duty in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔

Any relationship that's transactional based is a prostitution relationship

Chubhie:
Lets not be gender bias. Would you enjoy yourself without leverage, empty and naked? Hardship brings out the demons in humanity. Make i shock you small? If and when Nigeria truly works, Nigerian men go find am hard to get Nigerian women. Then, only the best naturally will get the chance to get a mate.

Chubhie:
Lets not be gender bias. Would you enjoy yourself without leverage, empty and naked? Hardship brings out the demons in humanity. Make i shock you small? If and when Nigeria truly works, Nigerian men go find am hard to get Nigerian women. Then, only the best naturally will get the chance to get a mate.

Wrong u out number the men and live longer.


Who will marry them nau? U think it is easy to meet their demands.


Who wll buy house, car and pay bills for them?


I'm still searching to see who else do these things

Chubhie:
What if she's genuinely hungry? How much be the food sef? If you truly love someone, you should only seek out the absence of pain and stress in their live. That we're discussing this shows how decadent humanity don become. I also understand drawing a redline against abuse of such good heart. Even in war, using hunger as a weapon is war crime against humanity how much in love?

love? In 24 hours? Genuinely hungry? What did she eat last week?

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, what is a man's duty in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔

to buy food

So basically what you're saying is that the entire humanity has been indulging in prostitution relationships since the beginning of time?🤣🤣🤣

Because men have always been the sole providers...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

ediko5:
Any relationship that's transactional based is a prostitution relationship

My brother suffer no dey tire you? You leave naija come Uk 🇬🇧, still dey reason to date naija.

Suffering no dey tire you?

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, what is a man's duty in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔

Only 24 hrs relationship? Com'on. How much is food? It's the entitlement mentality.

NwaliE01:
Within 24 hours of meeting a guy, she's already hungry.

She dey work for gym?

Are you minding her? UK of all places where you should never go hungry, almost every street kebab, fish and chips shops dey or corner shops with ready to eat meals. How about tossing some chicken wings and potatoes chips into airfryer to chop, abi egg no de to burst? Noodles nko?
Naa.. the chick has seen mugu that will order for her, what will you order that will cost less than 30 quid sef. Heavy waste of money.

bemeruca:
Food is not expensive. If he truly likes her or care for her he would have spent £10 to buy her something. That's not asking for too much. Instead he is complaining online.

Without asking a reasonable guy, he will do it in less than 1 Hr of meeting you. When you ask, it sends wrong signals. You wanna test a guy if he cares for you, watch out for those caring signs, don't ask, never demand...

Lionessza6:
Why is he complaining instead of taking care of his woman ...isn't that what Nigerian men claim to be good at? . Be a good ambassador of Nigeria and take care of your woman....what a lazy man .

I'll take care of you if you accept to marry me Lionessza6 my SA friend. I wanna make you a jollofina but you'll come and live with me in Nigeria o

Not all Nigerian men are romantic. Some are kids playing adults game.

Lionessza6:
Why is he complaining instead of taking care of his woman ...isn't that what Nigerian men claim to be good at? . Be a good ambassador of Nigeria and take care of your woman....what a lazy man .

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, what is a man's duty in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔

There is no duty on both sides unless agreed between the couple.

Don't mind him dear he is broke.i don't see how buying someone food can be a big deal.

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, what is a man's duty in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔

Stingy guy

Samantha125:
So basically what you're saying is that the entire humanity has been indulging in prostitution relationships since the beginning of time?🤣🤣🤣

Because men have always been the sole providers...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

Men haven't 'always' been the sole provider.
To your question, No it wasn't prostitution then cos we didn't have low budget feminists who clamoured for gender equality and there was no gender equality then.

We are now in the era of gender equality and as the word equality literally mean, it's now abnormal for a man to be the only provider.

What ladies like you don't understand is that civilisation and gender equality of the 21st century is not to the advantage of the ladies alone. Gender equality makes it abnormal for a lady to have an entitled mentality

DyshApp:
Abroad-based Nigerian man shares his experience dating a UK-based Nigerian lady.

The man identified as Daniel shared what transpired between him and the Nigerian lady he was dating.

He shared a video recording of the WhatsApp conversation he had with his girlfriend.


Apparently, the both of them had returned home from work and the guy had sent a VN asking after her day.

The lady had proceeded to lament over how stressful it had been for her and how hungry she was and asked the guy to order something for her.

However, the guy had flown into a rage, wondering why she would ask him for that when there relationship had barely gone anywhere.

“Relationship wey never enter 24 hours, you say make I rush order you something…” he said.

I don’t really see that as a big deal if she’s just asking for the first time as you might agree with me that you won’t mind doing anything for someone you are into even if you are just meeting them for the very first time. I believe you can only tagged her as Almajiri when are Billings is per seconds😄😄😄😄

Lionessza6:
Why is he complaining instead of taking care of his woman ...isn't that what Nigerian men claim to be good at? . Be a good ambassador of Nigeria and take care of your woman....what a lazy man .

Wetin Nigerian men do you ?

Dating Nigerian girl's should be added to the list 1000 ways to die

The cultural expectations of Nigerian girls have practically turned most into glorified confident self entitled beggars