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Some persons are born ingreate. Maybe you didn't tell us all whole the story too.

Oh, boy if I know you get and I asked you to borrow me 400k and you're giving me 20k, you for kuku no give me at all . Though, I hate asking any anyone for anything and God forbid I beg. I rather, give.

I used to call 50k "just", until someone told me that it is what some people earn.

If you intend to send someone 50k, try 25k first; the person's reaction will tell you to arrange yourself or send the money to someone who truly needs it.

Many of those asking do so for fun. They don't really need it.

A person truly in need would be grateful for 20k.

Nigerians and their sense of entitlement is out of this world.

Not even appreciation? wetin you dey talk

Kobolander:
Painful though but stop expecting anything from people.

Hhh4444:
Lol....Una still dey dash people money? Lessons will have to be learnt in a hard way sometimes.

We shouldn't stop lending a helping hand to people, we just need to learn and know who to avoid

olaniyilukman:
don't judge bro, the other guy might have done something more tangible financially than that before

Really

ediko5:
A fellow ingrate has dropped a motivational quote. I'm not surprised sha, Naija ladies are naturally entitled and ungrateful

How did she sound entitled?

You didn’t see the one dripping of full fledged entitlement, because misogyny can cause selective anopsia, I suppose. 🤧

Na so I gave my friend owo omo in 2008 equivalent of $100 then. This guy no even say thank you. What pain me pass na inside sangotedo the guy dey live. The traffic i faced from VI that day no get part 2. At some point I took bike and still got to his house at 11pm when party don end tey tey. I put money for envelope give am. My guy no even reach out to me for over a year. No thank you, no thanks for coming.

He is still begging me for money till date. Thank God I don forgive him long time ago. So I still dey dash am money.

That so called friend must have done something to him that is more than millions.. This kind of people are very quick to white wash others so I will not judge from this!!!

Let him tell us when this so called friend helped him and how much or what did he help him with?

Chilipepper:
Man shares his ungrateful friend's response after sending him ₦20,000 for his newborn

Sorry to bother you, if "Thank you" isnt enough what exactly are you expecting?

judetov2:
Entitlement mentality is that you? I have a friend who behaves like this.

Oga entitlement mentality is relative. People are human and make ends meet through interactions. You cannot be rich and have a sibling struggling and looks to you to find his feet, you then say he feels entitled. You personally, no matter how well to do on you own level, you cannot tell me your childhood friend that slept and ate in your family house, your close paddy paddy roommate in uni now gets in a position and you require him to do something for you and you put pressure on him, he then says you are felling entitled. No be your persin?
Meeenn that is why northerners are different from us. I remember 1999/2000 I and a bro went to a ministry in fct, out of the 3 directors we met, the northerner was the one that treated us young men with dignity acknowledging our hustle, directed us to the Yoruba guy who was polite but said it was not under him, he then referred us to the igbo chap. Omo, let's just forget the experience with that fellow.
Aboki will not tell you entitlement. They will assist their blodas, we down south will say they are feeling entitled.
There is this politician from delta state, when his community was sponsoring village boys to go study abroad. It was his cousins turn, for reasons I cannot remember, the cousin stepped down for this fellow giving him his slot. Unfortunately after that the community scholarship stopped. This guy went abroad and excelled, a big time solicitor. A big man in the country. Will you say the cousin is entitled if he asks for connections for himself? If he eg has a child that just graduates and needs a job and is now pressing for his cousin to help out? Will you say he is entitled to ask for assistance from his cousin? Oga pray you have no need to ask someone you feel is your person for one thing or the other, you then hear tori that he says you are felling entitled.

oluwatomiwa:
Some people are ingrate sha. In this Tinubu regime giving out the whole #20k

Some people are like that, not that they don't value you or the money, they just don't see it as wrong. You can only call them ingrates if they fail to reciprocate when they are in position to do so.

I do thank people that do me good, even in the following day but I don't get mad at those that fail to do the same to me, because I've seen people that genuinely value/appreciate my good genture by their actions afterward rather than by saying thank you.

Tmex:
Sorry to bother you, if "Thank you" isnt enough what exactly are you expecting?

Don't mind him... Some people will want you to go on ur knees because they dash you money... Mostly the Yorubas due to their traditional way of doings..

They don't know that times have change and things are no more the same...

papyjaypaul:
Please if you can withdraw the money, get it back. Just tell him, Abeg send that thing back if you no like am.

Let no one pressure you on anything in this life. As long as your friend is an adult, you owe no one anything in life. Nothing at all. Let me tell you, that is the harsh truth of life. It's his kid, it was his conjugation, now it's his congratulations not your calculation.

I have read this book before Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter by 50 cent
Though the guy is too proud

Rubyjade:
1. Don’t Take It Personally – Their lack of gratitude reflects on them, not you. Don’t let it rob you of your peace.

2. Limit Your Giving – Stop overextending yourself. Ingrates often take more when they know you’ll keep giving.

3. Set Boundaries – Be clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. Protect your time, energy, and resources.

4. Don’t Expect Appreciation – Give only when it’s from the heart, not for applause. That way, you’re not disappointed.

5. Let Actions Speak – Sometimes, the best response is to quietly withdraw your support and let them feel the difference.

6. Learn and Adjust – Treat their ingratitude as feedback. Adjust your future interactions based on how they value (or devalue) you.

7. Keep Your Integrity – Stay kind, but wise. Don’t let ingratitude turn you bitter or make you stoop to their level.

Be helpful, not a doormat. Give smart. Love yourself enough to walk away when your kindness is being wasted.

I loved this post. Allow people to introduce themselves and reveal who they are❤️💯

pcagbaji:
I have read this book before Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter by 50 cent
Though the guy is too proud

I don't blame him. I think he suffered and learned from the pain of suffering. He's street smart.

People who lived with their grandparents as kids don't know the treasure chest they have. I think that's one of the things that helped him in life. His grandparents.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8MNtt0q1xs

Sender no dey naija now Abi you no see say he wan buy 5guys abi 5 guys dey naija ni

oluwatomiwa:
Some people are ingrate sha. In this Tinubu regime giving out the whole #20k

Not all givers should appreciated... U can ask me why...

Probably, he may be the ungrateful one. Until you hear the full story, you never can tell.

nedekid:
Oga entitlement mentality is relative. People are human and make ends meet through interactions.

Aboki de talk nagode to him brother. Their religion has a huge influence on them. An ungrateful person is an ungrateful person. Don't forget the rich man is also going through life struggles. Don't assume money has solved everything for him. Who's asking about that? Selfish mindset will never let you have abundance mindset. A heart that is thankful will always get more, no matter what! Most religions know this. Even atheists who claim to not worship anything know the power of gratitude. That is the lesson here.

People want what you have, not what you give them.

This may be a case of one good turn deserves another but was under reciprocated.

Everyday247:
If they included that option, won't people just abuse it to cheat people?

That’s flashing someone with money.

The statement "to buy 5guys" I dont understand. And that word he censored there. Why censoring? How can we understand ur message with slangs and censors?

guywitzerogal:
you self na wa ooooo.... atleast he said thank you, you wan him to write Epistle before you know he appreciates, e better person dt didn't acknowledge at all...

He wants him to idolize him ni o.

E thank me e no thank me.e no mean anything.
Everybody get target.
Client pay me 50 dollars and my target na 6k dollars.who I go thank. Any pay Is a goal

Ehen, dat na why this woman no tell me thank you. Still Dey shadow request for more money dey tell me say

Ehen, dat na why this woman no tell me thank you. Still Dey shadow request for more money dey tell me say she no get money to reopen her shop, meanwhile na party she go use d money wey she get do. I come dey wonder whether I dey owe her anything. All these people wey go by force dey greet you so dem fit start to dey ask you for money.

lailo:
The statement "to buy 5guys" I dont understand. And that word he censored there. Why censoring? How can we understand ur message with slangs and censors?

5 guys is a fast food chain in America. Use context to understand the rest.

Had it been it was 1k nkor? Lmao 🤣

papyjaypaul:
Aboki de talk nagode to him brother. Their religion has a huge influence on them. An ungrateful person is an ungrateful person. Don't forget the rich man is also going through life struggles. Don't assume money has solved everything for him. Who's asking about that? Selfish mindset will never let you have abundance mindset. A heart that is thankful will always get more, no matter what! Most religions know this. Even atheists who claim to not worship anything know the power of gratitude. That is the lesson here.

People want what you have, not what you give them.

O deep.

After taking sef, they will revenge for the humiliation you made them feel. Humiliation that had nothing to do with you but self shame they are feeling for asking for money.

I dislike people who don't show appreciation for kindness even if it's little. A little drops of water make an ocean.

I used to have a friend I lent 50k to fix his vehicle, to pay me back became an issue. After couple of months of repaying his debt, he was detained by police, I still paid to obtain his bail but he didn't show appreciation but I didn't care because he was my friend before passed on. His death pained me so much because If he had heeded my advice to seek medical attention at the early stage of his sickness and to give his life to Christ, he wouldn't have died.

realsoftouch:
Don't mind him... Some people will want you to go on ur knees because they dash you money... Mostly the Yorubas due to their traditional way of doings..

They don't know that times have change and things are no more the same...

So you are saying because times have changed, they did not teach you morals ahome? It’s clear you are a taker and will likely never be a giver.

123readygo:
I promised someone 100k today but things didn’t go as planned for me and I sent 50k.
The only response I got was, ‘thank you’.
Me no send anything again because I wanted to give more later

So, saying 'thank you' wasn't enough? Were you expecting him to write a novel just to appreciate you? The truth is, some people don't know how to express their feelings to suit others. Just manage such people like that.