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I have a friend, we served together during our Nysc days in Abia state and I was his bestman during his wedding
He confided in me about his plan to end his marriage on these three reasons

1: The wife still contacts her ex, as in they are flirting on WhatsApp messages
2: His wife always visit his senior brother, my friend senior brother without his knowledge. The senior is leaving alone because his family resides in USA
3: His wife has reported him on several occasions to her family and his family saying negative things about him and he is angry that his wife always speak negatively about him to people

The best advice I gave him is to have a private discussion with his wife, if they are to involve people, it should their sponsor not family members

A wife wouldn't one day wake up and decides to report her husband to her family while speaking negatively about him to the public for no reason.

There are two sides to every story.

Metrics4tea:
I have a friend, we served together during our Nysc days in Abia state and I was his bestman during his wedding
He confided in me about his plan to end his marriage on these three reasons

1: The wife still contacts her ex, as in they are flirting on WhatsApp messages
2: His wife always visit his senior brother, my friend senior brother without his knowledge. The senior is leaving alone because his family resides in USA
3: His wife has reported him on several occasions to her family and his family saying negative things about him and he is angry that his wife always speak negatively about him to people

The best advice I gave him is to have a private discussion with his wife, if they are to involve people, it should their sponsor not family members

Before ending the marriage, he should:

Set boundaries and give her a chance to adjust.

Be clear with what behaviors he will not tolerate again.

Decide based on patterns, not emotions. Once trust is broken multiple times and she doesn’t change, then separation becomes a healthy choice.

Let him know it’s okay to walk away from a marriage that feels unsafe, toxic, or disrespectful—after making honest efforts to resolve it.

Judgement cannot be one-sided. Why not hear from the woman too? Anyways, they can sort each other out. It doesn't warrant ending the marriage