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No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old. Modified: Only exception is if 2 are twins or family planning failed you. If you willingly chose to have more kids, train them. Get a side hustle if need be. The Lord is your strength.

The reason why so many men go back to their grave early 😅😅

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

You be smart lady and your husband must be a lucky man. In 2025, I advice people to have only one child got the sake of their mental health.

I have 4 and three are teenagers but If I have a do over, it will be only one child.

Nnamdipapa:
You be smart lady and your husband must be a lucky man. In 2025, I advice people to have only one child got the sake of their mental health.

I have 4 and three are teenagers but If I have a do over, it will be only one child.

Children are luxury. They require a lot of intentionality and resources. If you have more than 2, I take it that you are rich and I will come to you for loans. 😂😂😂

pocohantas:
Children are luxury. They require a lot of intentionality and resources. If you have more than 2, I take it that you are rich and I will come to you for loans. 😂😂😂

But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

That is why I said they require intentionality and resources. This covers emotional, physical, spiritual, educational and financial needs. I don't know how Nigerians handle the first 4 needs, but I am tired of people with more kids than me asking me for money because they think I have less(er) responsibilities.😩

pocohantas:
That is why I said they require intentionality and resources. This covers emotional, physical, spiritual, educational and financial needs. I don't know how Nigerians handle the first 4 needs, but I am tired of people with more kids than me asking me for money because they think I have less(er) responsibilities.😩

I agree with you. I told my youngest sister who depends on me that I will cut her off if she gets pregnant the third time when they can barely feed two.

Chilipepper:
➜No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much! Is this what you go through as a father?

That is, instead, what being an incompetent father can be like.

columbus007:
The reason why so many men go back to their grave early 😅😅

It is by their own hands too.

As far as Nigeria is concerned now,it's not even easy for anyone whether married or single.

Only those who are strategic are the ones winning massively.

Nnamdipapa:
I agree with you. I told my youngest sister who depends on me that I will cut her off if she gets pregnant the third time when they can barely feed two.

Don't threaten, advise her.
Abi she no dey see economy?
Hopefully she listens. 🙂

pocohantas:
Don't threaten, advise her.
Abi she no dey see economy?
Hopefully she listens. 🙂

Her husband fit dey do strong head nau as head of the family. Hehehehe. I had to lay it down in the strongest terms for her to understand

Nice2023:
As far as Nigeria is concerned now,is not even easy for anyone whether married or single.

Only those who are strategic are the ones winning massively.

In and outside nigeria. The world has moved pass breeding like a rabbit.

Nnamdipapa:
Her husband fit dey do strong head nau as head of the family. Hehehehe. I had to lay it down in the strongest terms for her to understand

Head of family suppose hold funds.

pocohantas:
Head of family suppose hold funds.

I honestly wonder where my sisters jam these kind of men. She said he is God fearing while the kids are starving. I seriously weak.

Nnamdipapa:
I honestly wonder where my sisters jam these kind of men. She said he is God fearing while the kids are starving. I seriously weak.

Lmao! Guys with sisters. It is either a hit or a miss. Either they marry well or you go just tire for their husbands. No worry I understand.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Lols.... It takes a very strong couple to be determined to have just 2 kids o...
They need to look and focus on the future of the unborn child o...
Government isn't helping matters...
Everybody just dey advise everybody to keep borning(😂 pardon my grammar)..
Born two, dem go say e too small..
Born two boys, society will taunt the wife "boy na the papa get am ooo, try born girl for urself...."
Born two girls, society will taunt the man " as U dey so, you Neva born pikin o, na woman gets girl pikin o"..

All these leads to excessive offsprings...
Then we all gather and complain about the government of neglecting to Provide a better life...
It is well o

Nnamdipapa:
You be smart lady and your husband must be a lucky man. In 2025, I advice people to have only one child got the sake of their mental health.

I have 4 and three are teenagers but If I have a do over, it will be only one child.

Which three children wld you have loved to do away with.

May the 1st , 2nd and the 4th one. You wld keep only the 3rd.

Abi which one you go like keep?

tunjijones:
Which three children wld you have loved to do away with.

May the 1st , 2nd and the 4th one. You wld keep only the 3rd.

Abi which one you go like keep?

Logically, I would have been with the first child only because she came first. We are not allowed to "do away" with people.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

As long as you plan yourself well as a bachelor and avoid getting married to a liability, you'll definitely survive every challenge associated with being a father.

Nnamdipapa:
Her husband fit dey do strong head nau as head of the family. Hehehehe. I had to lay it down in the strongest terms for her to understand

The head of the family is the breadwinner of the family. You are the head of that family..

missjekyll:
➜The head of the family is the breadwinner of the family. You are the head of that family..

So, how come when the woman is the breadwinner, she is not regarded as the head of the family? Take the case of Osinbajo as an example, the woman was the breadwinner, yet her husband, children, and family did not see her as the head of the family.

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

Not everyone with many kids planned it — unexpected pregnancies, lack of access to birth control, or cultural pressures play a role. Struggling parents still deserve empathy, not judgment. Having more than two kids doesn’t automatically mean someone is irresponsible. Life circumstances change, and people shouldn't be mocked for tough seasons. Instead of shaming, focus on education, support, and better access to family planning to create real solutions.

Puss360:
Lols.... It takes a very strong couple to be determined to have just 2 kids o...
They need to look and focus on the future of the unborn child o...
Government isn't helping matters...
Everybody just dey advise everybody to keep borning(😂 pardon my grammar)..
Born two, dem go say e too small..
Born two boys, society will taunt the wife "boy na the papa get am ooo, try born girl for urself...."
Born two girls, society will taunt the man " as U dey so, you Neva born pikin o, na woman gets girl pikin o"..

All these leads to excessive offsprings...
Then we all gather and complain about the government of neglecting to Provide a better life...
It is well o

While society pressures couples to have more kids, the final decision is theirs — and they’ll live with the consequences, not society. Since the government offers little support, it’s wiser to plan based on personal capacity. Having fewer kids isn’t weakness; it’s being responsible. Children deserve quality of life, not just existence. Strong couples resist pressure and choose peace, stability, and future readiness over public opinion.

Nice2023:
As far as Nigeria is concerned now,is not even easy for anyone whether married or single.

Only those who are strategic are the ones winning massively.

Strategy helps — no doubt. But in Nigeria today, even the strategic face serious roadblocks. Many are grinding in silence, and massive wins are rare and often exaggerated. So while being smart is key, let’s not ignore the power of grace, opportunity, and resilience too.

You’re doing an incredible job — but your exhaustion is the very reason so many people advocate for smaller families. Money can't buy presence, peace, or time — and sometimes the best thing you can give your kids is a healthier, more fulfilled version of you.

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

Nnamdipapa:
You be smart lady and your husband must be a lucky man. In 2025, I advice people to have only one child got the sake of their mental health.

I have 4 and three are teenagers but If I have a do over, it will be only one child.

it's true that raising multiple children can be mentally and emotionally draining, especially in today’s fast-paced world, many still find deep joy, purpose, and lifelong support in larger families. With the right support system, intentional parenting, and boundaries, it’s possible to raise more than one child without losing your peace. For some, the richness of sibling bonds and shared memories outweighs the challenges.

IyaTola:
it's true that raising multiple children can be mentally and emotionally draining, especially in today’s fast-paced world, many still find deep joy, purpose, and lifelong support in larger families. With the right support system, intentional parenting, and boundaries, it’s possible to raise more than one child without losing your peace. For some, the richness of sibling bonds and shared memories outweighs the challenges.

my dear the world has passed richness of siblings bond. The world is fast paced and interconnected now. You have to be emotionally and spiritually invested at the same time working hard to give them a better life or else they wont compete with orhers in the future.

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

Papa Nnamdi,
Which kain school dey hold PTA meeting reach dat kain time? PTA meeting suppose to dey hold close to dismissal time so that once una finish na to carry d children home. I no come understand this 10.30pm own

CJStarz:
Papa Nnamdi,
Which kain school dey hold PTA meeting reach dat kain time? PTA meeting suppose to dey hold close to dismissal time so that once una finish na to carry d children home. I no come understand this 10.30pm own

He surprised me. There was a time at public school board that I was at a meeting till 10.30pm. Not in Nigeria though