₦airaland Forum

GloriousGbola:
Does any of the children in that ai generated picture look over the age of 10?

you are assuming i made reference to the pix.

Gerrard59:
People used sawdust as fuel during Abacha's regime. The only time in memorable history that Nigeria had it good economically was Obasanjo to Jonathan. Go and check the records, ever since 2015, we've not attained a GDP growth rate of 5%. Do you know what it means for a rapidly growing country to run a decade with anaemic economic growth?

If people who experienced Buhari go on to have more children than they can adequately take care, anything they see, they should take it like that.

The only time we had it so good was Obasanjo.
In OBJ period jobs were looking for people

Both Yaradua and Jonathan was a declining status from the OBJ period.

arantess:
10 years ago when the kids were born, was nigeria not better off?

arantess:
you are assuming i made reference to the pix.

Then create another thread for your assumption.

Maeve7:
I’m the least materialistic person, as my husband says, so it’s not only about money for me. How do you divide your attention? These men who say that it’s only the mother’s job to raise kids are irresponsible.

I do not think I can give the best to my kids if I have more than 3 (pushing it too far). I didn't even get the best attention'wise. So I take this very serious.

In as much as many people here made valid opinions, las las, pikin wey wan spoil go spoil. U can train s child in d best way, make at d end of d day, d pikin fall ur hand. It's all about Grace. Sometimes, parents give birth to 3,4,5kids at backups, because nobody knows wat tomorrow brings. U fit get 1, make dat 1 give u headache, pass person wey get 4. So it all boils down to d couple and how dey plan their family according to their strength in all areas.

pocohantas:
I do not think I can give the best to my kids if I have more than 3 (pushing it too far). I didn't even get the best attention'wise. So I take this very serious.

All I know is that we get to do it only once with our children until they grow up. Until then, I want to give my very best. If they fail, they will have themselves to blame, not me.

tonymyke4life:
In as much as many people here made valid opinions, las las, pikin wey wan spoil go spoil. U can train s child in d best way, make at d end of d day, d pikin fall ur hand. It's all about Grace. Sometimes, parents give birth to 3,4,5kids at backups, because nobody knows wat tomorrow brings. U fit get 1, make dat 1 give u headache, pass person wey get 4. So it all boils down to d couple and how dey plan their family according to their strength in all areas.

You are right.

Maeve7:
All I know is that we get to do it only once with our children until they grow up. Until then, I want to give my very best. If they fail, they will have themselves to blame, not me.

No lies...😀😀😀

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

Childless couples are not the richest in life.

Even some bachelor's cannot feed themselves

Some have dozens of children and they are doing well.

This is the mystery of life .As a man you must work,to earn money so as to take care of your responsibilities.

Celestialsword:
Childless couples are not the richest in life.

Even some bachelor's cannot feed themselves

Some have dozens of children and they are doing well.

This is the mystery of life .As a man you must work,to earn money so as to take care of your responsibilities.

Childless couples are not the richest.
Bachelors cannot feed themselves.
But they are not subjecting numerous kids to hunger or lack of medical care _in worse case, death. I think some of you just love shooting blanks, because the point here is quite clear. But if it flies over your head, a lot should be questioned.

Nnamdipapa:
You be smart lady and your husband must be a lucky man. In 2025, I advice people to have only one child got the sake of their mental health.

I have 4 and three are teenagers but If I have a do over, it will be only one child.

How come you didn't know that having one child would be the best for you when you were a kid, then teenager, then bachelor, then fresh in marriage, then after first child? Bammmm! You just realised that one kid would have been more perfect for you and your wife after having 4 kids and satisfied
You're so good in deception

Which pickin stand on top of pot again?
This A.I. ,mad oh.


All this is nothing if say money dey his pocket

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

it’s just a pictorial illustration.if u like no born at all bill go still choke u.man life na war.Bachelors r already crying.

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

It takes two to tango. Women are not really cool with one or two kids. The pressure on the man no be small

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

PTA meeting till 10:30pm? That one don turn witchcraft coven meeting be dat na.

Be fruitdul and multiply. Must you multiply by a factor of 2.5 or more?

2 parents X 0.5 = 1 child.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

The number of children you can finance is what you should produce.

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

only selfish and irresponsible fathers have a life.if u want to take on fatherhood as it should be u can’t have ur own life.if u no ready to sacrifice no near marriage

You cant be a champion in za oza room
and be forming mumu in providing for your
family....

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

This is not realistic, for one reason.

How many fathers have six kids nowadays?

Other than that, as a fully certified father of two, it's close.

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old.

That's not fair, to be frank. Currently, the children are nine-year old first, second one 7 years and third one five all came before Tinubu came to power. Father was earning 200k and mother was full time housewife and the money was far enough. Then Tinubu came and the value of the 200k reduced to the value of 50k of Buhari's era and you are here still blaming the father, rather than talking sense to your government. That isn't fair.

highchief1:
only selfish and irresponsible fathers have a life.if u want to take on fatherhood as it should be u can’t have ur own life.if u no ready to sacrifice no near marriage

I think I agree with you.

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

Jethro " Moses father in-law" advised Moses to delegate responsibilities and share the responsibility of leading the Israelites accordingly, been there for your kids doesn't mean you'll always be there for all of them at all the time. You should understand the concept of delegating some aspects into some trusted hands if you don't want to break down all exhausted.

Tohsynetita1:
The number of children you can finance is what you should produce.

Yes, people were able to finance 4 in year 2015. Then come 7 years later and the same income could not even finance the couple alone not to talk of their four children and we blame them instead of the government. It's not fair.

pocohantas:
That is why I said they require intentionality and resources. This covers emotional, physical, spiritual, educational and financial needs. I don't know how Nigerians handle the first 4 needs, but I am tired of people with more kids than me asking me for money because they think I have less(er) responsibilities.😩

I won't lie, it pisses me off. I don't even have one kid, and I know why, then you with 3 kids will be disturbing me for money, using emotional blackmail. Na me.say make you go get multiple kids way u no fit take care of

phorget:
Jethro " Moses father in-law" advised Moses to delegate responsibilities and share the responsibility of leading the Israelites accordingly, been there for your kids doesn't mean you'll always be there for all of them at all the time. You should understand the concept of delegating some aspects into some trusted hands if you don't want to break down all exhausted.

You cannot delegate fatherhood bro.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

The picture depicts why a man who isn't ready to be a father, shouldn't even think about being a father, talkless of having unprotected sex...

All these are the reason why men die early in marriage.

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old. Modified: Only exception is if 2 are twins or family planning failed you. If you willingly chose to have more kids, train them. The Lord is your strength.

some of you asking this questions cannot feed yourselves. Oga family planning

maasoap:
How come you didn't know that having one child would be the best for you when you were a kid, then teenager, then bachelor, then fresh in marriage, then after first child? Bammmm! You just realised that one kid would have been more perfect for you and your wife after having 4 kids and satisfied
You're so good in deception

I had it good first 9 years, Mother lived with us after marriage and took care of most of the responsibilities, so it was not felt at the time.

The only advice I have for every man reading this right now is to add value to yourself, stay neat and spend heavily on yourself when you finally make the dough.

pocohantas:
Children are luxury. They require a lot of intentionality and resources. If you have more than 2, I take it that you are rich and I will come to you for loans. 😂😂😂

This is not God’s intention for human. The word says go and multiply. So, when two people , husband and wife have 2 kids , that is not multiplication.
Except you don’t trust God, it’s understandable. Some don’t.
I am not an advocate of having too many children but 4 is a good number. And satisfies that part of God’s will for us.