₦airaland Forum

A lot of those women are witches tbh,they're the pillars that are holding those guys.most times they eat their husbands and other children just for one to make it big.

yemre:
This your comment reeks of what I can not say. If you don't understand something, you ask for clarification before jumping into conclusion. There's no ambiguity in what the guy has posted but your own thought process is quite laughable. "Fathers, take good care of yourself as much as you can, so you too can enjoy good and long life like the mothers". It's that simple!

Na wa o! My people and comprehension!

That is my perspective. One which is also very correct in context promoting unselfish caring for our loved ones.

So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

helinues:
Don't be a wrist watch working for the family always. Make sure to take time and enjoy yourself

Asin my bro

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!

That is not what he means ? To me it mean as a man do not over work yourself if you dead your wife will enjoy herself

VinnyBaba:
Nigerian men are very POOR planners.

They don't plan their lives well.

@60,65, they start Drinking Burukutu with lowlifes,play Drafts, spending their Pension on small girls and move to the Village.

5years later, they die from Witches Attack or Polygamy Gbasgbos.

My dad is 95 and my mom late 80's... They moved to the village from Lagos when he clocked 75years... He said city life is now too fast for him...

We objected but popsy left anyways .. momsy followed him 2Yrs later.


guess what .? All the remaining parent in our growing up compound who didn't move to village at old age are all dead even before 70.. All of them .. I mean both parents dog at least 12 families..

My both parents are still alive till date

Pat081:
That is not what he means ? To me it mean as a man do not over work yourself if you dead your wife will enjoy herself

He wasn't particular with his message by directing it to men. He made a general projection by saying 'TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF'. He would said, 'MEN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF'. Thanks for the explanation.

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!

He's talking about our wives,duh!!

He's saying that women/mothers/wives tend to live longer than Men/father's/ husbands...

Men should therefore beware and look after themselves.

How old are some of you on Nairaland sef?

highchief1:
biased opinions.pa Edwin Clark died at 97,the other yoruba man afenifere leader or so died at 97 too.some men still outlive their wife’s.okowas father died at 86 while Okowas mom died when she was about 40yrs old or so.

Rare cases...




No 40 characters to give seun abeg

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

🙄🙄🙄🙄

Nonexisting1:
You didn't have to explain all that to the agbado agent. They always rush to comment without reading and understanding.

What tribalism will do to people like you is coming. Now tell me what this has to do with tribe. Tomorrow people like you will call others tribalist.

DmonSlayer10:
He's talking about our wives,duh!!

He's saying that women/mothers/wives tend to live longer than Men/father's/ husbands...

Men should therefore beware and look after themselves.

How old are some of you on Nairaland sef?

wellmax:
Is that what you understand? There’s a serious problem with your comprehension ability.

He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.

In essence, don't be buying Shawarma and fruit juice for babe, whilst you the man you are drinking kokosamba, babyoku, finisham, Canade, thinking of how you want to finish the babe on bed.

She will be getting fresh from Shawarma and fried rice, whilst you will be dying slowly from Kokosamba, Canade, tramadol, etc etc

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

My maternal grandfather was 19-20 years older than his wife. In that case his dying before his wife was because he did not take care of himself? LOL...the man was healthy till the day he passed on at 89.

My paternal grandfather died in his sixties. Oh yes, he overworked himself...but not just for his family, he was also involved in many acitivies for and on behalf of the village. All his wives (he was a polygamist), were some 20-30 years younger than him

Nigerians of fifty to sixty years ago, the men married women much younger than them. So, even if they took care of themselves, they would have died before their wives. Long before their wives. Especially in the North...dangote's mum was probably married to her husband when she was 13, and he was in his forties..lol. That's why the women outlive them so to speak.

Your comment is good...but I also detect hate for women in it. You ought to stop looking at women as bad and evil people. They are not. My paternal grandffather's wives were also his chief helpers on his various farms , and some of them worked alongside him. And the man had brothers who lived to 100 years old...in two cases.

You men on this site, better stop hating women. Yes, we should take care of ourselves, but that does not mean we should not take care of the women in our lives. And your examples are very poor examples.

Nonexisting1:
You didn't have to explain all that to the agbado agent. They always rush to comment without reading and understanding.

Do you folks know more than tribalism? Do you work?

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!

Is that what you understand? There’s a serious problem with your comprehension ability.

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

Are you guys not tired of playing victims

datola:
Almost everybody is the child of their mother not of their father. Always my mommy my mommy even though the father might be going through hell to build the family.

And some say it's a man's world. Indeed!

Because many men did not take time to know their children. Na to go work, then when work closes they go to the bar to gist, then they come home at 10 pm when kids are in bed, and wake up by five to get to work. When they are at home, they must not be disturbed.

Many men also don't play with their kids. Dem go say na hustle, dem go say they work hard, and so on and so forth.

Women, on the other hand take care of their kids, and get to know them, even if they are working because in Nigeria, women are judged by their children. Most of the time if a child misbehaves, it's the mother they judge (Yes, they also ask after the dad, but mummy is judged). Add the fact that we live in a patriachial society, and men are more likely to have the job than their wives...and you see the issue.

If Nigerian men went home and for effing once played with their children, or joked and jisted with their kids, dem go shout 'my mommy my mommy' all the time?

The men get used up; mentally, emotionally, psychically...

The engine is overloaded. Why won't it knock?

Better be wise, put yourself first. No one else gives a Bleep about you.

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

erad:
Do you know the age difference of between husbands and wives back then?

Must every nonsense be farmed for engagement?

Please, do tell..

Pat081:
That is not what he means ? To me it mean as a man do not over work yourself if you dead your wife will enjoy herself

Yeah it's quite true , but at the end of the day, many women who lose their husbands do not 'enjoy themselves'...many of them remain in mourning for some time, even thought they may look 'happy' . Many refuse to remarry because they miss their man. And many are often times left in dire straits economically...that's why we have NGO's that look after widows.

MarketDispatch:
In essence, don't be buying Shawarma and fruit juice for babe, whilst you the man you are drinking kokosamba, babyoku, finisham, Canade, thinking of how you want to finish the babe on bed.

She will be getting fresh from Shawarma and fried rice, whilst you will be dying slowly from Kokosamba, Canade, tramadol, etc etc

I don't think Sahawarma and fried rice are 'healthy' either.

Rest well. Walk (7,000 steps min daily). Build muscle if you have no health issue that prohibits it. And eat very well (only organic food).

The issue is that you cannot get organic food in Nigeria. It is not possible. All grains are not organic. Storage sef..na war. If you know the kind of deadly chemicals used to store grains in Nigeria, you go fear.

Take care of yourself.

Until we start marrying our age mates or someone younger by 2 or 3 years men will keep passing before their wives.
In a normal case do you expect someone you gave 10 to 15 years to pass before you

Incomplete presentation of a partly factual scenario.
Better try next time, as this chance was only given for free.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vh2I2HabjEM&pp=0gcJCfwAo7VqN5tD

Celestialsword:
men should take care of themselves, because many men struggled and laboured for the family upkeep and they didn't get the rewards

They were stressed up and most of them died before their wives.

When the man has passed on, those he left behind will still survive and become somebody in life.

The Irony of it all ,is that it's the woman that now enjoy the fruits of the man's labour.

So,men should wise up and always take care of yourself, when the load is too heavy, please drop it.

The one who goes to the hospital for check up and the one who couldn't afford a check up when the time is right all will die.
We've seen men who lived way beyond the death of their wives does it mean those women worked themselves to death?
Make una Sabi talk for mouth abeg.

I've been going through some comments from men and I feel somehow disappointed, they're pretending as if they don't know the lifestyle of most Nigerian men.



Back then age factor was the major reason, the age difference between most husbands and their wives was at least 15yrs. If you nor know things ask questions. Buhari and Tinubu for instance, una need prophet or babalawo to tell una say the age difference between dem and their wives long from Nigeria to London?


As for lifestyle, most men don't help themselves. They take all sort of nonsense with friends in the name of enjoyment. They don't engage in exercise, where they'll easily take a walk to they would prefer to drive in AC cars forming big man.


Every bad thing is not caused by village people, men make una get sense. Your mission on earth is not to impress anybody, I have noticed some men hardly rest whenever they're working. They believe as a man you ain't suppose to take a break. If you're working with them and you tell those kinda men with that mentality you wanna take a break they start laughing at you calling you a lazy man.

I know of a welder in my former street who works from morning till night everyday, at times he even works on sundays. Tell me how that kinda man won't die young? In his mind he's a strong man because people are hailing him. He doesn't know they're hailing him to his grave.



Hustling to take care of your family doesn't mean you shouldn't rest or go for regular check-up......Take care of yourself and leave village people alone.

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

If there is any woman here reading this, I want you to know that this is why we are so close to our mothers. By the time we eventually make it, our fathers are mostly not with us anymore. So, our mothers are the ONLY chance we have to cherish our parent for all the love and support they provided us to shape us into the attractive man to you, you would like to marry.

Considering this, can you now see whyit doesn't make any sense to, after you've married the man, you now want to push his mother out of his own life?

To me its the age difference.
Some men senior their wives with almost 20yrs. So yea, thats the main cause apart from other things the OP wrote.

udemzyudex:
Tell us the age difference then since you know it.