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Nnamdipapa:
I think our parents had it way better than us as regards parenting. They were not as stressed out and parenting was not as hands-on as it is today.

We just went our ways and did whatever we liked, came back home for food and out again with my friends. Over 80% of the time, my parents did not know my whereabouts and it was fine.

Now, once I stepped out of the home, I get 7 phone calls asking my location.
The parents of 7 kids in the olden days is less stressed out compared to the parent of today with four.

franchasng:
Them no born me well to try cuddle my father, Idi Amin of Uganda and Adolf Hitler joined together


But my son will even tell me that he wants to sleep on my bed today and he won't even be scared, he would carry his tab and mount at the middle of the bed watching cartoon and expecting me not to complain but to comply by joining him to watch cartoon or play game, they are lucky generation sha, it's their luck lolzz

Na waaaaaa oooh! Combo of idi Amin and Hitler The man must have been tough!!

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Women don’t work?

Una still dey born children full everywhere in this great tinubulation.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Not really, being a father is tolerating BS from your partner for the sake of your kids.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

He never suffer.

Why is he having 5 children?

A poor men like him should have 1 child .

TUANKU:
Atiku has 36 children, OBJ has 20+ and i bet you they all have a better life than you. A man with 2 kids can still be dirt poor and hungry.

see people when you dey mention...this your comparison no gel at all.

IyaTola:
Not everyone with many kids planned it — unexpected pregnancies, lack of access to birth control, or cultural pressures play a role. Struggling parents still deserve empathy, not judgment. Having more than two kids doesn’t automatically mean someone is irresponsible. Life circumstances change, and people shouldn't be mocked for tough seasons. Instead of shaming, focus on education, support, and better access to family planning to create real solutions.

I’m afraid, I disagree with you on this one.
If you cannot decide on a number of kids to have and stick by it, then you ain’t fit to decide anything.

Tohsynetita1:
That’s why one needs to double one hustle and go with the economy tides.
So as to know what to do.

But you realize that sometimes people try to even triple their hustles, but they still couldn't achieve it. Then some even quadrupled their hustles but Tinubu's government brought them back to point zero.

Nnamdipapa:
You cannot delegate fatherhood bro.

Who's talking about delegating fatherhood? I only replied your comment due to how exhausted you sounded right in the comment. I only asked you delegate some activities regarding your kids to a trusted hand, you don't have to attend a PTA meeting, take your children out on their days, stay home with them so as to do your obligations as a father and so much more. Delegating responsibilities where necessary doesn't make you a bad father, If you feel you can chest it all all by yourself alone then that's cool too.

pocohantas:
People have 3/4 kids by mistake. Failed family planning mostly. But no one has PLENTY kids by mistake. I am not shaming anyone, so don't quote me with your Chatgpt response again.
Thank you.

They no go understand... If you marry healthy woman early and you are very fertile... You go born tire. If you like tie Womb or turn it upside down.

Poverty trap!
Income can't meet needs!
Doesn't know how to escape the Trap!

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old. Modified: Only exception is if 2 are twins or family planning failed you. If you willingly chose to have more kids, train them. Get a side hustle if need be. The Lord is your strength.

You don't understand the context of the message you replied to.....lol


So two kids can't demand all that?

That is pictorial reference, to buttress his point

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Why you sef born 5

I think the man is very lucky because the wife did not ask for anything. This shows she is understanding.

sonofsteven:
You don't understand the context of the message you replied to.....lol


So two kids can't demand all that?

That is pictorial reference, to buttress his point

Two kids cannot make demands that will keep mine frustrated with a landlord shouting over his head. If 2 kids kept you that way, please try not to have a 3rd. Simple.

When it comes to the business of procreation some persons don't listen to the voice of reasoning, it's only their sexual satisfaction that comes to mind. They tend to believe there are aunties and uncles who they can rely on in helping them train their kids

pocohantas:
Why do they have 5 kids?
In 2025, I don't take your complaints serious if you have more than 2 kids less than 10yrs old. Modified: Only exception is if 2 are twins or family planning failed you. If you willingly chose to have more kids, train them. Get a side hustle if need be. The Lord is your strength.

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Why have 5?

Chilipepper:
No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much!

Is this what you go through as a father?

Stop marrying a woman that brings nothing to the table.

See how she kept quiet cos she couldn't contribute financially to help her own children

phorget:
Who's talking about delegating fatherhood? I only replied your comment due to how exhausted you sounded right in the comment. I only asked you delegate some activities regarding your kids to a trusted hand, you don't have to attend a PTA meeting, take your children out on their days, stay home with them so as to do your obligations as a father and so much more. Delegating responsibilities where necessary doesn't make you a bad father, If you feel you can chest it all all by yourself alone then that's cool too.

Very wrong, you do have to attend every single PTA meeting, you need to spend time bonding with your children.

Being a father is more than paying for school fees and upkeep of the child. Any Tom, Dick and Harry can do that.

It starts with coming home tired after your day at work but finding time to change the baby's nappy at least once.

It carries on to knowing your child's friends and teachers names and being there to support them emotionally during their teenage years despite whatever it is you are facing in your own life as a man.

Delegate very little if at all any, the child is as much yours as anyone else's.

jaszplus12:
I strongly believe that 15 years from now no one will advice anyone about number of kids, the world economy will be the "adviser"!

15years too far. This current tinubulation is already advising people.

tivity101:
When it comes to the business of procreation some persons don't listen to the voice of reasoning, it's only their sexual satisfaction that comes to mind. They tend to believe there are aunties and uncles who they can rely on in helping them train their kids

Nigerians have coconut head. Later someone would say it is mistake. For the majority it is not a mistake and their responses proves this.

femi4:
Stop marrying a woman that brings nothing to the table.

See how she kept quiet cos she couldn't contribute financially to help her own children

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I almost choked here.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

1Sharon:
If they ,refuse’ to use family planning? Come, is family planning only for women?

Women has arrays of options in fp than men. Only of recent I hear of a research breakthrough of pills for men taken once a year, only option available had always been through surgery called vasectomy ( not sure I got the spelling)

If the pills becomes available soon, trust me. Men will have no problem using it.

1Sharon:
If they ,refuse’ to use family planning? Come, is family planning only for women?

Women has arrays of options in FP than men. Only of recent I hear of a research breakthrough of pills for men taken once a year, only option available had always been through surgery called vasectomy ( not sure I got the spelling)

If the pills becomes available soon, trust me. Men will have no problem using it.

Idaytesj29:
Women has arrays of options in FP than men. Only of recent I hear of a research breakthrough of pills for men taken once a year, only option available had always been through surgery called vasectomy ( not sure I got the spelling)

If the pills becomes available soon, trust me. Men will have no problem using it.

Sir, please go get snipped if you don't want more kids. I won't go through pregnancy, go through labour and still have to deal with FP. I told mine this and we knew from the onset he would take one for the team. Men will have a problem using it because men do not like things that invade their manhoòd in such a way. Researches that led to FP for women were done by men. If men wanted to be the bearers of FP, they would have done it for themselves. They never wanted that burden.

It is what poverty does

pocohantas:
Two kids cannot make demands that will keep mine frustrated with a landlord shouting over his head. If 2 kids kept you that way, please try not to have a 3rd. Simple.

Understand the context

sonofsteven:
Understand the context

Hopefully you do too.

Its really tough being a father especially in Nigeria but it comes it its joy too. Hustle rightly and wisely, have God on your side and you come through stronger.
Kudos to all the fathers in the house and may the merciful and gracious God bless your legit hustles.

IDERAWOLE:
It's clear you're not married yet.

Who told you that couples love plenty children?
.

It is clear you know nothing of what you are saying. Nigerian couples don't love plenty children? I should have this argument with you?
Better take your epistle to healthcare centers and your male groups.