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ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Is he left handed and you forced him to be right handed.

likita27:
I used to have a daughter that stammers, and I happen to have a stutter as well
She no longer stammers what did I do?
Stammering runs in family.
Ensure no one makes fun of her when she talks. Making fun of them makes conscious of the stutter.
2) allow them to speak, even if they are going to stutter, listen to him,

Rubyjade:
Model slow, calm speech: Speak slowly and clearly around him. Let him see that it's okay to take time to express thoughts.

Give him time: Don't finish his sentences or correct him. Let him finish what he’s saying, even if it takes longer.

Maintain eye contact and smile: Show him you're patient and listening, not rushed.

Normalize mistakes: Say things like, "It's okay to repeat sometimes. Everyone does."

Build confidence in private: Use positive affirmations, like:
"You're a great speaker. I love hearing your stories."

Talk one-on-one in low-pressure settings: Maybe during a walk, or while drawing or playing with him.


🚫 AVOID:

- Correcting or pointing out stammering directly.
- Telling him to "slow down" or "take a breath" repeatedly — this can make it worse.
- Showing frustration or anxiety when he stammers.
- Comparing him to others (even siblings)Your concern as a father is a powerful first step in helping your son. Since you know what it’s like to grow up with stammering, you are uniquely positioned to:

Break the cycle, not just by correcting speech, but by creating a safe and confident environment.
Use your personal experience to support him emotionally and prevent the shame or self-doubt that often comes with it.
And again — the fact that he doesn’t stammer with other children is a very strong sign this is something you can successfully address now.

papyjaypaul:
That's because he may be afraid of you. It's the fear that makes him look for the right words to say that will not make you angry.

How patient are you when you are inquiring something important from him.

Mariangeles:
Sending him to a relative for what exactly?
To get abused into talking straight?

jambclick:
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yesloaded:
.he's afraid of you

The fact that he communicate fluently with his peer shows theres nothing wrong with the young lad

Show him more care and attention and make him free with you, play with him like a little child

brightk:
@ConcernedDad i have this childhood friend who once suffered from this same issue.. please get coconut.. remove the water and the fruit... do it in such a way that the shell resembles a cup.. let it be his official cup @ home.. he should be using it to drink anything liquid. by Gods grace he will be fine...

ConcernedDad:
Aw thanks a million times. You don't know how useful this is to me. God continue to bless you.

ConcernedDad:
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ConcernedDad:
Bro please which calabash and how could I get it.

ConcernedDad:
Good day nairalanders. Please how do I stop my four year old son from stammering. He doesn't do it when speaking with his fellow kids, but when talking to his mom or me especially. He is my first son and can't imagine how it will be for him when he grows and wants to express himself.

A quick background to my topic. I'm the only one that Stammers in my family. Both in maternal and paternal. None of my siblings or relatives Stammers. I learnt it from a childhood friend when growing up. I know how it has limited me from reaching my full potentials in life.

Now my son is about to start his own and I'm wondering if stammering is hereditary. Please how do I stop it now he is still young. Medical experts in the house, any medical remedy for it. Thanks for your contribution.

ConcernedDad:
I'm usually calm. Except when he does something bad.

ConcernedDad:
He speaks fluently when conversing with his fellow kids, but if he wants to speak to me, especially when I'm inquiring something important from him.

blingxx:
“Think before you talk” works all the time everytime I remember I stutter I don’t at that particular moment

ConcernedDad:
Good day nairalanders. Please how do I stop my four year old son from stammering. He doesn't do it when speaking with his fellow kids, but when talking to his mom or me especially. He is my first son and can't imagine how it will be for him when he grows and wants to express himself.

A quick background to my topic. I'm the only one that Stammers in my family. Both in maternal and paternal. None of my siblings or relatives Stammers. I learnt it from a childhood friend when growing up. I know how it has limited me from reaching my full potentials in life.

Now my son is about to start his own and I'm wondering if stammering is hereditary. Please how do I stop it now he is still young. Medical experts in the house, any medical remedy for it. Thanks for your contribution.

ghettochild:
Adaptive observation...
Ur son knows how you to talk n he's trying to sound like you....
You shd tell him to speak well and he shouldn't be afraid of talking to u..
Let him know stammering isn't good...
U should even tell him how it hindered, maybe he will adjust

chiboycue:
I don't think it a problem as long as he is able to communicate orally effectively. Just keep encouraging him to excell academically and the sky is his spring board

papyjaypaul:
I think others have said it here, you are the best teacher. It's a privilege to have a dad and you sir should just give him all the confidence he needs in this world. Someone posted a Steve Harvey video there and if you watched it, you would've seen the stammerer only needed someone to trust in them for them not to stammer. Good luck in your parenting 🙏

ConcernedDad:
That's encouraging. Thanks.

RadianceRR:
Talk to him often, even if he doesn’t reply, use short, simple sentences.

Give him choices (e.g., “Juice or water?”) to encourage speaking.

Don’t pressure him, rather create a calm, loving space.

Sing songs, read picture books daily, and use gestures.

Repeat his words correctly without correcting harshly.

Reduce screen time, face-to-face talk helps more.

Celebrate small wins and be very patient.

If possible, work with a speech therapist early.

asfrank:
That it. Culture may differ, I am from Benue so it might be different where you come from.

RillJ:
He speaks good with his friends but stutters before the parents especially you the father.
He is traumatized and scared of you especially. The child may only speak with you when he cannot avoid it.

You need to build bond with him and make him feel free around you.
Work on developing friendship and trust with him.
Avoid hash words with him and around him.
Engage him from time to time on informal things- plays, cartoons e.t.c.

Generally, some students may stammer at first but it tends to reduce with which comes with better self-control etc

Olushylay1:
Don't disturb yourself.
My two daughters did the same thing.With time,it will be resolved on it own.
A four year old child is still learning how to talk.
Tell him to talk gently and not rush himself while talking.
By age 6 to 7,my daughters,stopped the stammering.

aribisala0:
You are right like HIV and COVID

Bahamas95:
Even you it's not too late for you to overcome stuttering, your son could even be the solution to your challenge.

Learn how to talk slowly and calmly most especially when he's around you, children are very fast to copy and paste. The surprising thing about them is that they learn bad habits faster.

Make him feel relaxed when speaking, he's traumatized.

Arabk25:
Perfectly said it worked for me 100%

ConcernedDad:
Good day nairalanders. Please how do I stop my four year old son from stammering. He doesn't do it when speaking with his fellow kids, but when talking to his mom or me especially. He is my first son and can't imagine how it will be for him when he grows and wants to express himself.

A quick background to my topic. I'm the only one that Stammers in my family. Both in maternal and paternal. None of my siblings or relatives Stammers. I learnt it from a childhood friend when growing up. I know how it has limited me from reaching my full potentials in life.

Now my son is about to start his own and I'm wondering if stammering is hereditary. Please how do I stop it now he is still young. Medical experts in the house, any medical remedy for it. Thanks for your contribution.