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Domyresearch:
Genuine reason to abandon 3 children?
That's not a man, that's a man child.

where in the post did you read he abandoned the children?

Very annoying everytime
Not enough content already

cyrusmillz:
Enough of all these fake twitter stories that are just for engagement and clicks. Abeg

I fell for what she's going through but some women will force themselves to a man who clearly doesn't want them for marriage, hoping that one day the man will start loving them.

If love no dey, it didn't dey simple.

Miraculously it might develop if there is something to build it on. But if it is clear the man no get small love for u, why force urself on him.

make she codedly begin her JOURNEY today too and use IG or TIK TOK in coming years!

Domyresearch:
Genuine reason to abandon 3 children?
That's not a man, that's a man child.

there's no place she said he abandon his children, she only said he married another wife and now a single mother...

religion is the saving hide out for so many women, if not many of them will be in the same situation like her, you forgive, tolerate, love and care but never contented, there's always one thing not satisfying them.

how are this human wired like this?

When u failed to make the man happy, he resort into that. Men do what will make you happy and live longer. These women are knife to you just to kill you and enjoy the children alone. Take care of yourself as much as possible.

JIBO4REAL:
What do you want us to do like this ? There’s a lot of woman out there with no husband, who will marry them ?

shows how bad the stock of men present today are.

Bad men prosper when good men stay silent. At least the children are seeing what is going on. They see what the judas iscariot behavior is doing to their mother.They will only grow up to resent their father and his family.

And as for his second family, I wish nothing on them, but for that wife tho. The man will still cheat on her, na their way.

Very sad development...💔

marriage is a union of two lovers bond by tolerance not annoyance.

Saao:
When u failed to make the man happy, he resort into that. Men do what will make you happy and live longer. These women are knife to you just to kill you and enjoy the children alone. Take care of yourself as much as possible.

it is never a woman's job to make a man happy, neither is it a man's job to make a woman happy. We find happiness within ourselves and with God.

Why should the woman be responsible for the man's happiness?

Why are you making the man sound like an emotional parasite and an energy vampire?

OkoAnike:
there's no place she said he abandon his children, she only said he married another wife and now a single mother...

religion is the saving hide out for so many women, if not many of them will be in the same situation like her, you forgive, tolerate, love and care but never contented, there's always one thing not satisfying them.

how are this human wired like this?

he will eventually abandon them after some time, especiallywhen the mother thoroughly heals and stops giving 2 sh¹ts about him and he can'tgain access to her anymore. One cannot serve two masters. His attention and resources are forever divided.

elobrave17:
I fell for what she's going through but some women will force themselves to a man who clearly doesn't want them for marriage, hoping that one day the man will start loving them.

If love no dey, it didn't dey simple.

Miraculously it might develop if there is something to build it on. But if it is clear the man no get small love for u, why force urself on him.

that is very true. She saw the red flags and chose to ignore.

A forcibly ripened fruit can never be sweet.

xynerise:
No force yourself enter family wey no want you. E get why. Don't let Nollywood movies deceive you

Love is not enough
Once the family don't want you
It will take grace of God for your marriage to suceed, the family won't rest until they see the end of the marriage.
But I won't blame them, they must be acting based on past experiences and experience is the best teacher

You put yourself in a mess the mother-in-law did not support your marriage you used strong head let the strong head continues when she suffers to raised her son were you there? your husband will still marry another woman don't worry

NNtv:
Sorry but the man must have genuine reasons for such action

Genuine reason ba
But if woman does the same she is Olosho

oluwaseyi0:
especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.


dont tell me this is true

That's all you could pick?
Everybody has their own individual preferences, my friend's mother from Ijebu Igbo frustrated his Awori fiance because she didn't want the son to marry from there.
They had to eventually break up

tesseract:
A major deception is thinking that if you marry into a family where they aren't unanimously in agreement with your marriage to their son or daughter, is that they will eventually come around to liking you.
If they didn't like you in the beginning, they can't and will not like you in the long run, nothing you do will ever be enough for them. Have some self-esteem, refuse desperation, and move on and away in order to avoid a lifetime of unending battles with your in-laws.

Sometimes your advice is not right. Because the woman is not marrying the family, the most important thing is for her to know the type of man you gets into that kind of marriage with. If he is the mummy's boy or a weakling before his family, then girl, I will advise you to run away. But if he is the opposite, I will advise you to stay and wicked that his family, just cut him off from his people, and you will leave a happy life.

Marrying into a family that you are not accepted or loved is a time bomb. You will never have peace. But most times, the hate is out of bad character that the wife in question don't see as bad. It's rare for a family to hate a good wife.

oluwaseyi0:
especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.


dont tell me this is true

very true. i know a couple that went home for introductions. the man's family refused because the man is from anambra while the woman is from imo. they didnt marry.

BadBradley:
The question is what's she doing on social media ? Terrible wife who has no respect for herself, children or family.

And who are you to tell her what to do? Most of you are just so selfish and lack every form of human sympathy.

franchasng:
The reason the man's mother didn't want you is not because you are from Anambra while they are from Enugu

You really do not know Igbo women. Most of my friends are igbo and I can tell you these for a fact, I have even had this conversion with a lot of igbo guys are I even sampled more than 10 of my colleagues who are igbo and trust me 9 out of that 10 got married to woman from the same village as them and the truth is their mother played a major role in making that marriage happen. And these men at some point before they got married to their village wives, were dating girls from other places. So it is an Igbo guy's thing. Those guys are extremely tribalistic. This is a fact, if you think it is a lie, just check out any Igbo guy around you who grew up in the southeast, if they are married, they most of the time picked their wives from their villages.

sylve11:
The reality is that it's quite rare for an entire family to harbor dislike towards someone; if that’s the case, it may indicate significant issues with your character.

You are absolutely wrong. Not in all cases, this is African, where some people can just hate you all because of your tribe.

You guys stayed in one house for a while year without talking and you still remained in that marriage. She could have left but she stayed. She could have moved on with her life, probably marry another man who will love her better , but she chose to stay on with her oppressor. For what reason. She never talk am finish

Must be a toxic lady that gives the man stress at home....let her find another husband so they even out....after all, what a man can do, a woman can do better......

Anambra and Enugu can not even be brothers in peace let alone In-laws. No wonder Obidients are sowing seeds of discord between Lagos and Osun indigenes

tgmservice:
Genuine reason ba
But if woman does the same she is Olosho

Of course she is. Do not for once compared our culture to the Europeans. A man and a woman are not equal in an African culture... There are one thousand and one reasons

I stopped believing these tearful stories once I realized the extent people are willing to go for trends and clicks.

fxexperts:
And who are you to tell her what to do? Most of you are just so selfish and lack every form of human sympathy.

You really do not know Igbo women. Most of my friends are igbo and I can tell you these for a fact, I have even had this conversion with a lot of igbo guys are I even sampled more than 10 of my colleagues who are igbo and trust me 9 out of that 10 got married to woman from the same village as them and the truth is their mother played a major role in making that marriage happen. And these men at some point before they got married to their village wives, were dating girls from other places. So it is an Igbo guy's thing. Those guys are extremely tribalistic. This is a fact, if you think it is a lie, just check out any Igbo guy around you who grew up in the southeast, if they are married, they most of the time picked their wives from their villages.

My brother with all due respect, you are talking nonsense and you know it.


I am an Igbo guy I grew up in the Southeast like most of my childhood friends and male siblings. All of us are married today.


Some married Yoruba, foreigners, Igbo, Delta, and the last of my friend that is yet to marry will soon wed a lady from Kaduna State.


I almost married a Fulani girl if not that I was still struggling financially then and didn't have the confidence to marry then and she was so ready and waiting, I had to let her go because I was so scared to marry as a broke young man.



My elder sister with grown kids that will soon marry too married from another state in the Southeast.



You guys will just wake up and be typing nonsense based on one or two events that happened around you and then you generalize based on them, that's called fallacy of hasty generalization, please desist from it for your own good, thank you

Zeebuy:
That's all you could pick?
Everybody has their own individual preferences, my friend's mother from Ijebu Igbo frustrated his Awori fiance because she didn't want the son to marry from there.
They had to eventually break up

fxexperts:
And who are you to tell her what to do? Most of you are just so selfish and lack every form of human sympathy.

You really do not know Igbo women. Most of my friends are igbo and I can tell you these for a fact, I have even had this conversion with a lot of igbo guys are I even sampled more than 10 of my colleagues who are igbo and trust me 9 out of that 10 got married to woman from the same village as them and the truth is their mother played a major role in making that marriage happen. And these men at some point before they got married to their village wives, were dating girls from other places. So it is an Igbo guy's thing. Those guys are extremely tribalistic. This is a fact, if you think it is a lie, just check out any Igbo guy around you who grew up in the southeast, if they are married, they most of the time picked their wives from their villages.

I know a Yoruba guy that her mother refused him from marrying an Ijebu lady because he said her mom said Ijebu people too like juju, that her son can't marry from Ijebu Ode.



But all these Yoruba boys will come online and be looking for every opportunity to castigate Ndigbo and their culture whereas they do same or worst

Your happiness is in your hands!
Find something useful and engaging to do and stop crying over spilled milk.
Your marriage to that man may be over but your certainly is intact and so should be your joy.