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The want Lagos, but Enugu and Anambra cannot marry in peace

fxexperts:
And who are you to tell her what to do? Most of you are just so selfish and lack every form of human sympathy.

You really do not know Igbo women. Most of my friends are igbo and I can tell you these for a fact, I have even had this conversion with a lot of igbo guys are I even sampled more than 10 of my colleagues who are igbo and trust me 9 out of that 10 got married to woman from the same village as them and the truth is their mother played a major role in making that marriage happen. And these men at some point before they got married to their village wives, were dating girls from other places. So it is an Igbo guy's thing. Those guys are extremely tribalistic. This is a fact, if you think it is a lie, just check out any Igbo guy around you who grew up in the southeast, if they are married, they most of the time picked their wives from their villages.

If you put your private and family matter on social media for the world to see, why would you develop emotional epilepsy when the world you were talking to offers its own opinion?

Makes sense? If you pray for rain, expect to deal with the mud as well. If you post your issues on social media then expect comments and feedback.

You don't need blood transfusion or brain surgery to know this.

And stop stereotyping other tribes when you haven't traveled beyond Nairaland front pages

oluwaseyi0:
especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.


dont tell me this is true

The people that are not together themselves are crying for one Nigeria. Anambra cannot marry Enugu.
They are fighting over Yoruba land..

Let me warn my sister running after this Igbo guy from Imo State that life doesn't start from Aba and end in Alaba.

okoloto:
Marrying into a family that you are not accepted or loved is a time bomb. You will never have peace. But most times, the hate is out of bad character that the wife in question doesn't see as bad. It's rare for a family to hate a good wife.

What about the bad character of the man's family? His mother doesn't have bad character, his siblings don't have bad character, but only his wife has bad character. They play, you hear just dey play. When you grow up, I pray you don't find yourself or someone you love in this kind of situation. No matter how good the person is to the family, they will still hate you; they will turn your good into bad. Especially in this part of the world, Africa, where we are actively looking for the slightest sin or wrongdoing, angels are looking for the slightest act of purity from the devil, so we can amplify it and use it to judge their entire being. It may shock you that bad wives who are sensible last longer in this kind of marriage than the good ones.

thatigboman:
very true. i know a couple that went home for introductions. the man's family refused because the man is from Anambra while the woman is from imo. They didn't marry.

And this is how to want to have their Biafra so they can go about hating themselves and becoming tribalistic towards themselves. You are very correct because I have an Igbo friend who similar stuff happened to. He is from Imo, while his wife is from Annambea. His father-in-law said he cannot allow him to marry his daughter, the guy went behind to get the girl pregnant because of love, still father-in-law insisted that he is looking for another child and still will not allow him to marry his daughter. After series of begging from the guy to all the girls family members and assistance from the girl as well the father inlaw decided to bulge. Another of my friend he is from Abia while the girl is from IMO state, his long-time friend he told me he wants to get married together, when he met the girls father he refused to get her married to him, he even went with his people, and they were denied marriage. Thank God guy man had a second option girlfriend whom he finally decided to marry.

Any man sh catches now go suffer and pay for the sins of her husband.

Some people are olodo ,how can you live in a house with a man whom you claim is your husband and you have not talked with him for one full year yet you still regard yourself as still being married to him

NNtv:
Sorry but the man must have genuine reasons for such action

If you believe the man must have genuine reasons for such action, then I hope you also consider that women who allow their husbands to unknowingly father another man's child must have genuine reasons as well.

kingthreat:
Women like these dey tire me. You think because you are married to man, it is by force that you must stay married? His family didn't like you before the marriage, is it when you are married they will suddenly love you?
For you both to be in the same house and not talk for one year, what makes you think the marriage is still in tact? You chose not to do anything to make your marriage work but now you're here crying foul because the man chose to seek happiness elsewhere. Abeg let us rest. Marriage is not by force. If it doesn't work, you move on.

She would have preferred he stayed unhappy under the same roof more years. She didn't cry out then. It is now that he's moved on she is crying wolf.

Husbands come
Husbands go...
They should put head together to raise the kids. That is the most important thing to me.

Women do worse than this against men. Anyway Carry out DNA on your first child.. u might be shocked to bone marrow.

DrFunmisticGlow:
shows how bad the stock of men present today are.

Bad men prosper when good men stay silent. At least the children are seeing what is going on. They see what the judas iscariot behavior is doing to their mother.They will only grow up to resent their father and his family.

And as for his second family, I wish nothing on them, but for that wife tho. The man will still cheat on her, na their way.

I don’t know what you mean by cheating or how you portray it , as far as I am concerned there’s no need to hide another wife else where , just let her know I have gotten or I am marry another wife if she’s no comfortable with it she should divorce him

oluwaseyi0:
especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.


dont tell me this is true

It is true. And Igbo land is popular for such.

alphonsoolajide:
Wife Discovers Husband’s Secret Second Marriage on Facebook — After 3 Kids and Years Together!

The tearful story was shared in a viral video on X (formerly Twitter), where the woman emotionally narrated her ordeal. According to her, she had been married for years but always faced rejection from her husband’s family — especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.
“His mum never supported our marriage. She even sent demonic messages to me, saying I’ll die if I don’t leave her son,” she said.
Despite the warnings and red flags, the couple tied the knot and started a family. But things never got better.
“We lived in the same house and didn’t talk for a whole year. He was tired of me. He lied and pretended a lot,” she recalled.
At one point, the husband returned from a trip with a young woman who began following him around. When questioned, the man’s mother claimed the girl was “just the neighbor’s daughter.” But things took a darker turn.

This is a warning for all the women out there who think they are divinely powered to overcome all red flags. E no dey work at all! Now this woman is crying after the red flag has abandoned her and 3 of her kids in her life. 😩😩😩😩

franchasng:
I know a Yoruba guy that her mother refused him from marrying an Ijebu lady because he said her mom said Ijebu people too like juju, that her son can't marry from Ijebu Ode.



But all these Yoruba boys will come online and be looking for every opportunity to castigate Ndigbo and their culture whereas they do same or worst

For your info, I am not a Yoruba boy, I am from the South-South south and I know you Igbo guys like the back of my palm. I will tell you the truth. You know deep down in your heart I am telling you the truth; however, this does not really apply to the Igbo girls so long as the person she is getting married to has money. But you see, the guys' mothers will always insist and try to force them to marry an Igbo girl, especially from their village.

JIBO4REAL:
What do you want us to do like this ? There’s a lot of woman out there with no husband, who will marry them ?

Women are just too selfish. They don't mind the many ladies should be single o...it beats my imagination how women are selfish in this matter

fxexperts:
Sometimes your advice is not right. Because the woman is not marrying the family, the most important thing is for her to know the type of man you gets into that kind of marriage with. If he is the mummy's boy or a weakling before his family, then girl, I will advise you to run away. But if he is the opposite, I will advise you to stay and wicked that his family, just cut him off from his people, and you will leave a happy life.

Your advise is even the worse. You want to cut a man off from his family? Good luck with that. Hope you read that the man's mother went spiritual? So wrong advice. Prevention is better than cure.

oluwaseyi0:
especially his mother, who strongly opposed the marriage because the woman is from Anambra while her husband is from Enugu.


dont tell me this is true

It is true, most Igbos don't want to marry from Imo and Anambra.

fxexperts:
For your info, I am not a Yoruba boy, I am from the South-South south and I know you Igbo guys like the back of my palm. I will tell you the truth. You know deep down in your heart I am telling you the truth; however, this does not really apply to the Igbo girls so long as the person she is getting married to has money. But you see, the guys' mothers will always insist and try to force them to marry an Igbo girl, especially from their village.

I know you watched a lot of Nollywood movies.



Nollywood really made you guys to have a very poor and wrong understanding and orientation about Igbos. Most of the nonsense and negative things some of you talk or believe about Igbos it's mostly formed from watching Nollywood movies of the past because most Nollywood movies were acted based on Igbo culture since most of the producers and actors back then were Igbos. Unfortunately for you guys, I use to write movie scripts and some if not most of the movie scripts were created from the writer's imagination and creative thinking, not necessarily the reality

JIBO4REAL:
I don’t know what you mean by cheating or how you portray it , as far as I am concerned there’s no need to hide another wife else where , just let her know I have gotten or I am marry another wife if she’s no comfortable with it she should divorce him

Do marital vows mean so little to you?

Shows that you aren't a reliable person.

NNtv:
Sorry but the man must have genuine reasons for such action

Exactly.. some women are evil

xynerise:
No force yourself enter family wey no want you. E get why. Don't let Nollywood movies deceive you

Exactly

But Nigerian women are brainwashed to think that with prayers everything go sort out

They don't know that there are some battles you just don't bother yourself with especially when you know you can definitely avoid them

franchasng:
I know you watched a lot of Nollywood movies.
Nollywood really made you guys to have a very poor and wrong understanding and orientation about Igbos. Most of the nonsense and negative things some of you talk or believe about Igbos it's mostly formed from watching Nollywood movies of the past because most Nollywood movies were acted based on Igbo culture since most of the producers and actors back then were Igbos. Unfortunately for you guys, I use to write movie scripts and some if not most of the movie scripts were created from the writer's imagination and creative thinking, not necessarily the reality

Can you please paste a link to one of the scripts you were involved in writing? I am interested in reading one please.

Man is not created for one woman.
Monogamy is impracticable and rarely exists.
Obviously the woman has not been a good wife for not talking to her husband for one year.

franchasng:
My brother with all due respect, you are talking nonsense and you know it.


I am an Igbo guy I grew up in the Southeast like most of my childhood friends and male siblings. All of us are married today.


Some married Yoruba, foreigners, Igbo, Delta, and the last of my friend that is yet to marry will soon wed a lady from Kaduna State.


I almost married a Fulani girl if not that I was still struggling financially then and didn't have the confidence to marry then and she was so ready and waiting, I had to let her go because I was so scared to marry as a broke young man.



My elder sister with grown kids that will soon marry too married from another state in the Southeast.



You guys will just wake up and be typing nonsense based on one or two events that happened around you and then you generalize based on them, that's called fallacy of hasty generalization, please desist from it for your own good, thank you

Just swear you do not know that what i am saying is the truth. and can you boldly claim that your mother never pressured you to marry a girl from the village. See this is common among igbo guys the truth is 95% of my friends are igbos and i even schooled in Unizik Awka, Anmabra state. This is not an assumption or an isolated case. It is a common practice among them. Maybe your family might be different and maybe more exposed, but the truth is this is what most igbo guys are doing.

Everfrank:
Man is not created for one woman.
Monogamy is impracticable and rarely exists.
Obviously the woman has not been a good wife for not talking to her husband for one year.

And the husband is a good man, because he is a big baby with no responsibility, the way some of you reason, ehnn..

Lezzlie:
If you put your private and family matter on social media for the world to see, why would you develop emotional epilepsy when the world you were talking to offers its own opinion?

Makes sense? If you pray for rain, expect to deal with the mud as well. If you post your issues on social media then expect comments and feedback.

You don't need blood transfusion or brain surgery to know this.

And stop stereotyping other tribes when you haven't traveled beyond Nairaland front pages

Living in delusion and lying to yourself knowingly is a trait far worse than being a hypocrite. I told you I spent five years in Igbo land, and even currently, 95% of my friends are all Igbos. So I know the Igbos more than you. You are the one stereotyping a woman without knowing a thing about the situation.

franchasng:
I know you watched a lot of Nollywood movies.



Nollywood really made you guys to have a very poor and wrong understanding and orientation about Igbos. Most of the nonsense and negative things some of you talk or believe about Igbos it's mostly formed from watching Nollywood movies of the past because most Nollywood movies were acted based on Igbo culture since most of the producers and actors back then were Igbos. Unfortunately for you guys, I use to write movie scripts and some if not most of the movie scripts were created from the writer's imagination and creative thinking, not necessarily the reality

Oga don't use that Nollywood lies. Truth is I have stayed in igbo land for years and a lot of my male friends are igbos. During when they were ready to get married, this is exactly what happened that I have stated. So I decided to take a sampling of each of them. My best man during my marriage is an Igbo guy, although he married another tribe, but that was because he didn't grow up in the east, and if you see hi,m he doesn't behave like a typical Igbo, he is someone with a open mind. but you see the other of my friends more than 10 of them that was the case. there was one who wanted to marry another tribe girl. He told me his mother will cry for him anytime he mentions that girls name and finally, he went to his village to marry. And funny enough the village girl he married which his mother hand-picked for him, is not in talking terms with his mother. They do not call each other year in year out. They had a big quarrel, like a year into their marriage. One was even telling me the reason he cannot marry a non-Igbo girl is that if they are at home together, which language will they be using to communicate?

tesseract:
Your advise is even the worse. You want to cut a man off from his family? Good luck with that. Hope you read that the man's mother went spiritual? So wrong advice. Prevention is better than cure.

That is what fits those kind of wocked mother inlaw. I know alot of them and i am disgusted by their acts.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Do marital vows mean so little to you?

Shows that you aren't a reliable person.

Vow? I don’t vow for one wife for any woman and does that mean I am not reliable?