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Voltron007:
It doesn’t matter how tough it is. He should at the barest minimum send an “Hwfa”. There is no excuse for such callous behavior. I’ve experienced same from someone I thought was a “friend”. Na the same abroad wey he go I don dey live too for almost 3yrs.
Thank God say man no be god biko.

HEAVEN4444:
He is facing depression. That's the only reason people don't call. Abroad causes depression. After spending 20 million of your hard earned naira you get abroad to see that it's not the heaven you thought. Coupled with weather bills and racism and very high cost of living. It causes depression

Natbrowny:
U knw whether ur friend don kpai

Do u know if things hasn't gelled yet

To be successful no by American visa atyms

Wat if he's living in the slum with no phone

U helped him doesn't mean he'll help u bak.
Its life.

SocialJustice:
Bro live your life abeg. Some people are the reincarnation of ungratefulness. You call him your friend but he treats you like an enemy, even getting a visa and not letting you know. That was the biggest clue but you missed it.

Teeklef:
✓ What do you expect me to say again. I'm not trying to be a messiah or paint him black. But this is not a matter of may be he is still struggling,no. He is a millionaire now. I know wetin I dey talk. I know about his doings here and abroad!!! Ajeh. We were good and cool and nothing like fight between us until I asked for help and he declined,so I couldn't take it again and I move on.
Note: I wish him well!! He is still my friend but just that we can never be best of friends again in this world.

Firebox123:
which one is that you're feel betrayed

Did you even know maybe you're better than him that live in USA

Maybe your friend is suffering in USA like that you don't even know

Kobojunkie:
Now you are at least getting the gist. Trying to win sympathy by telling a half-baked story of how you are some sort of messiah without faults ain't supposed to cut it in the world we live in, thankfully.

Kobojunkie:
When you are ready to tell your story on another thread, go for it. What is clear is that your story is nothing like OPs or the other guy whom you responded to.

SocialJustice:
Bro live your life abeg. Some people are the reincarnation of ungratefulness. You call him your friend but he treats you like an enemy, even getting a visa and not letting you know. That was the biggest clue but you missed it.

Asuun:
Possible Reason

While he squatted same friend, he would have also mistreated him badly and he had to endure the mistreatment. Some friends are terrible. When u start cohabiting with them, that's when you will know their true colors. I am speaking from experience. I was once squatted by a friend for two months and I saw Shege Banza in his house. He would text me to delay my coming home from work because he is Knacking a woman at home. Sometimes he will even preinform me to look for somewhere else to pass the night since his woman would be coming to sleep over for two or three days.
Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water. And I'm even five years older than him o. The day I finally got my own place, I had a relief. But I remain grateful to him.
It's well

HEAVEN4444:
✓ He is facing depression. That's the only reason people don't call. Abroad causes depression. After spending 20 million of your hard earned naira you get abroad to see that it's not the heaven you thought. Coupled with weather bills and racism and very high cost of living. It causes depression

Asuun:
“Not even enemies move like that” — Man recounts how a friend he sheltered for 9 months ghosted him after relocating abroad without a word 🥲✈️

Maliq said he never expected betrayal from someone he fed and housed during tough times. Three years later, he’s still processing the silence.



https://x.com/MasterMaliq/status/1951754152532468046?t=hWo9loDCp0Mt6AqRjcPC2A&s=19[/quote]The guy has always been an ingrate! There are people like that...... While helping them wholeheartedly, they are envying you, they see you as a fool they are using. Wishing in their hearts that they will make it far more bigger than you, and you can always figure this out in their actions sometimes. Such people will never update you on any information that will benefit you, that has been helping them. So the best you can do is to avoid these people if you are able to figure who they are early enough cosvthey dont have friends ........

Teeklef:
But wait,let's believe all my write up are false accusations,are you trying to tell us that some people doesn't pay good with evil? Ingrate are real. Stop trying to defend evil.

Kobojunkie:
I didn't say all what you wrote up there is false, I am saying that there should be more than just a couple of, "I am the angel and he is the devil..," texts to the story.

NiceLegs:
✓ The annoying part is those that will be telling you abroad is hard but they will never come back home to noisy generators.

004gist:
Bro nothing like ungratefulness.

His friend might be facing tougher time outside. Or u think say if u travel u don make am?
It take time to start afresh build up and become legal status in the land.
At times it takes 10 years etc

ernieboy:
don't people who face tough times in Nigeria still communicate with her friends and loved ones?

Btruth:
I totally agree with you bro. But, what about if his friend has some health challenges or dead like someone mentioned above? Not that I am supporting the nonchalant of the person though. And truly, some people can't be predicted after using you as a ladder to climb up. All is well IJN 🙏

Kobojunkie:
Not all of them do in Nigeria. Same psychological sheet happens to even those abroad.

I recall some family members cutting communication for many years back in Nigeria after they and we were hit by tough times. Nothing out of place there.

Obinoscopy:
The unfortunate thing in all this is that we don't get to hear the other side of the story

Bar1941:
You may not know what your so called friend is passing through!

Yankiss:
That's not the point. You missed it. Someone was under same roof with you and never breathed a word that he was as much as travelling abroad. That's a serious red flag.

Voltron007:
/✓ What “psychological “ sheet will you go through abroad that supersedes people who face kidnapping, banditry, extreme hunger and poverty?🫤
✓ We are all in the same abroad, there’s no justification to cut off close friends especially someone you supported you in your most difficult moments. Anyone who supports this must be practicing witchcraft. 🫤