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My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

The day you stop worrying about people's thoughts and opinions of you is the day you'll start living a much better life.

Do you, personally, approve?
Does God approve?
Does the lady approve?

If you get three yeses to these questions, anyone else's approval is just extra.

I'm hoping you're thinking about marriage—if she's wifable and the girl's family are not against it, then do the needful and start focusing on more salient matters.

However, there's a generational difference between you guys. If you're jumping into this pool, be prepared to encounter differences in thinking. You're both at quite different stages in life.

If you can't be patient enough to deal with it, kindly leave her be.

Go and ask Regina and Ned Nwoko...


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Is the feeling mutual, cos it seems you are just thinking about yourself alone ignoring her own aspirations.

Do you know the girl outside of the employer employee relationship? She can be responsible and accountable to her boss and be weird in her personal life.

Are you guys already into something together outside work? Is the feeling mutual?
Is she mature enough for marriage?

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

You're only thinking about yourself. What about her and what she wants to do with her life? Is she even interested in you? I doubt she's thinking about marriage at 18 but probably wants to go pursue her education to achieve whatever goals she wants to achieve for herself, so why not help her with that first? You didn't mention that in your post but just want to marry her to use her for your business. Get her talking and ask her what she wants to do with her life and if she's interested in you. If you love her, you will provide her the funds she needs, then you can marry her later when she finishes. Even if she says she's not interested in you, you can still help her, if you're capable.

To think you think an 18 year old girl is ready for marriage just because she knows your business well and trustworthy sounds cringy…

Have you ever asked her about her dreams and what she wants in life first seff

Age wise, I don't think that should be an issue but I think you are rushing things.I suggest you slow things down a bit, have some discussion with her about her own plans, does she have someone else seeing,is marriage on her to-do list at the moment and do you have the qualities she wants in her ideal man.After these conversations and her response is convincing then you can proceed with your own plan.

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

She’s an adult according to the law. Encourage and send her to school to further her education.

By the time you are 41, she’ll be 30. This is not a Ned and Regina case here. The age gap isn’t bad

This is one reason why I didn't allow my ex banny to work as a sales rep for any man . Cuz what is this? . You aren't even considering if she has bf . How will you feel if someone snatches away your GF simply because he feels she's a good sales rep for him . You're not even considering sending her to further her education...instead na how to use her to cure your conji be your problem


Na wa for some men cha..

brain54:
Go and ask Regina and Ned Nwoko...


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It is not that type of age gap o. Just 11 years age difference, you dey shout Regina and Ned.

Just allow the girl to get to 20 years, the age gap is cool. 11 years no plenty for age gap.

spencekat:
It is not that type of age gap o. Just 11 years age difference, you dey shout Regina and Ned.

It's exactly why I referred him to them...

If they can with a wider age gap then why can't he?

It's just around the same age gap between Jay z and Beyonce.(12 years)

I see nothing wrong in the age gap alone without consideration for other factors yet!

KosiGee:
She’s an adult according to the law. Encourage and send her to school to further her education.

By the time you are 41, she’ll be 30. This is not a Ned and Regina case here. The age gap isn’t bad

Yes,it is a cool age gap.

Sonnobax15:

This is one reason why I didn't allow my ex banny to work as a sales rep for any man . Cuz what is this? . You aren't even considering if she has bf . How will you feel if someone snatches away your GF simply because he feels she's a good sales rep for him . You're not even considering sending her to further her education...instead na how to use her to cure your conji be your problem


Na wa for some men cha..

I feel you talk for talking sake or you're just ignorant.

The way you casually said send her to further her education as if I am her father shows how careless you are with resources as a man.

I rather marry her and ensure she is carrying at least 2 of my children before furthering her education.

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

I know a couple whose age difference is about 20yrs, the people whose opinions you should be concerned about are the girl and her family

Sonnobax15:

This is one reason why I didn't allow my ex banny to work as a sales rep for any man . Cuz what is this? . You aren't even considering if she has bf . How will you feel if someone snatches away your GF simply because he feels she's a good sales rep for him . You're not even considering sending her to further her education...instead na how to use her to cure your conji be your problem


Na wa for some men cha..

What are you even talking about?

Auxtan:
My salesgirl [/b]understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family[b].

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

Sorry to say, that marriage/relationship might not last since you obviously don't love her...
You like her and how she handles your business but you need more than likeness to commit to someone...
In other words, the relationship is based on how she handles Ur finances..

Brother, let’s talk woman-to-man, no judgement.

You're clearly thinking long-term, and that’s commendable. You want someone solid by your side — someone who understands your grind and won’t mess around. That’s not easy to find, and if your salesgirl has proven herself to be dependable, loyal, and smart, it’s normal to see value in that beyond just business.

But now let’s talk about the hard part: the age gap. 29 and 18.

Yes, legally she’s an adult. But mentally, emotionally, and experientially, there’s often still a big gap. At 18, many people are still just figuring themselves out — their dreams, identity, confidence, even what love truly means. You, on the other hand, are already thinking about scaling business, settling down, and building legacy.

In the eyes of the general public, especially today’s society (including Nigeria), a relationship between a 29-year-old man and an 18-year-old girl often raises eyebrows. Not because it’s illegal, but because many fear there’s a power imbalance — that the younger partner might not fully understand the weight of the relationship she’s getting into.

Now let’s bring it home:

1. Is she mature enough for marriage, or just loyal to you because of her job security?
2. Would you still want to marry her if she didn’t work for you?
3. If she decides in 2–3 years that she wants school, freedom, or change — are you prepared for that?
4. Will your future kids ask you how you met their mum, and would you be proud of the answer?

Also, bro, love isn’t just about utility. It’s not just about “she understands my business.” That’s valuable, but marriage is a lifetime of emotional connection, growth, and partnership — even when business fails or changes.

Here's a suggestion: You can continue working with her, even grow her in the business, support her if she wants to go to school or grow in any way. Let time reveal her maturity and whether the bond between you is real beyond just work. You don’t have to rush.

And finally — if you feel like the dating scene is a distraction, maybe it’s not marriage you need right now, but focus, discipline, and clearer filters on the kind of partner you want. You’re not in a race. You’re building. And builders think smart, not just fast.

Much respect for even thinking deeply about this. Many wouldn’t. Whatever choice you make, make sure it’s from a place of truth, not pressure or convenience.

🙏🏽

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

NotOfThisWorld:
You're only thinking about yourself. What about her and what she wants to do with her life? Is she even interested in you? I doubt she's thinking about marriage at 18 but probably wants to go pursue her education to achieve whatever goals she wants to achieve for herself, so why not help her with that first? You didn't mention that in your post but just want to marry her to use her for your business. Get her talking and ask her what she wants to do with her life and if she's interested in you. If you love her, you will provide her the funds she needs, then you can marry her later when she finishes. Even if she says she's not interested in you, you can still help her, if you're capable.

go back and read again you will see where he Said he has done interview on her

Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

The age gap is perfect. She will even get older than you in 20 or 15 year's time.

The concept of marrying one's age mate is modern obfuscation of marriage that often lead to she-males, effeminate men and children who are not well balanced

You want to marry her not because you love her but because she's good for your business......You've studied her so that means you've been showing interest before she turned 18, that's grooming!

Finally, grow some balls man! You don't need strangers to tell you what to do, deep inside you know your intentions, stop looking for validation or invalidation!

My brother go ahead...you won't regret this. You will thank me later

NotOfThisWorld:
You're only thinking about yourself. What about her and what she wants to do with her life? Is she even interested in you? I doubt she's thinking about marriage at 18 but probably wants to go pursue her education to achieve whatever goals she wants to achieve for herself, so why not help her with that first? You didn't mention that in your post but just want to marry her to use her for your business. Get her talking and ask her what she wants to do with her life and if she's interested in you. If you love her, you will provide her the funds she needs, then you can marry her later when she finishes. Even if she says she's not interested in you, you can still help her, if you're capable.

Madam, when you see a girl you like, you think only about yourself. Even if she doesn't want you, you do and say all you can to make her change her mind. You don't need to wait until she wants you back for you to begin making moves and planning. That is how the world has always been. If you don't believe me, ask all the men you know.

This one is a cradle robber.

As far as I'm concerned you cannot have a meaningful relationship with any person below the age of 22years

She's intelligent and I like that nothing beats a woman that's intelligent, that settles all for me.

Jaycobbs:
The day you stop worrying about people's thoughts and opinions of you is the day you'll start living a much better life.

Do you, personally, approve?
Does God approve?
Does the lady approve?

If you get three yeses to these questions, anyone else's approval is just extra.

I'm hoping you're thinking about marriage—if she's wifable and the girl's family are not against it, then do the needful and start focusing on more salient matters.

However, there's a generational difference between you guys. If you're jumping into this pool, be prepared to encounter differences in thinking. You're both at quite different stages in life.

If you can't be patient enough to deal with it, kindly leave her be.

You said it all. Nothing to add.

I don’t have 16 characters left.

Stop taking advantage of the girl. Have you sat down to think about her future ambitions, her feelings etc

KosiGee:
She’s an adult according to the law. Encourage and send her to school to further her education.

By the time you are 41, she’ll be 30. This is not a Ned and Regina case here. The age gap isn’t bad

If he sends her to school, otilo be that oo!
Enough said!

columbus007:
She's intelligent and I like that nothing beats a woman that's intelligent, that settles all for me.

That does not change the fact that she's still not fully mature

Discuss it with her, if she is okay with it, meet her family.