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kolente:
The risk and probability of divorce and separation when marrying into a rich home is higher than a person from a poor or average home.

Living with a rich spoilt child is not fun and is frustrating.

Being rich doesn't necessarily mean one has to be spoilt please. There are lots of rich yet disciplined individuals out there

My Igbo brother spotted.
Married to rich Oyibo girl from a rich family living in the USA.

Melezenawii:
Nonsense

Rich
Poor
Big
Small
Tall
Short
No difference

Contentment is key

Anybody that is blessed with the bolded is living a happy and fulfilling life.

JovialJune:
Oh so now men are also gold diggers, good to know they aren't the only one wanting financial security in marriage.

Yes oh, the global financial hardship and dwindling economic opportunities around the world are reshaping men all over the world; the reasonable men who care about their future are now marrying beyond physical beauty and big buttocks, they are beginning to think about financial security; who is her father? What does she do for a living? Which Western country's citizenship/passport does she have to offer?

May God help us all.
To be a man is no childs play

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

rightly said 👍👍👍

SpencerForbes:
Nairaland mod let's take this to front page and I don't have 5 more characters

This post will get to nerves of nairaland urgent 2k mamas. To everyone with their wahala

The prayer is to date and marry a rich girl who spends money on you. Some rich girls ehn them no dey give shi Shi and you go spend. Them no dey ask for urgent 2k na urgent 500k

shortgun:
Marrying Into a Family that's richer than you?
Think Twice, Brother.
That guy just made the biggest mistake of his life.

No matter how nice they smile, he’ll never be truly respected in that family. To them, he’s not the man their daughter should have married he’s the one she settled for. Behind closed doors, her parents are quietly disappointed and her father probably mocking him in silence.

The ugly truth is, when a man marries "up," he often sacrifices his dignity for comfort. Every small disagreement becomes a reminder of what he didn’t bring to the table. The power dynamic is off from day one.

My advice to men:
Never marry into wealth thinking it’s a win. It often comes at the cost of your pride.

A man is nothing without his dignity and respect. Never trade that for fancy dinner tables and empty smiles.

Not true, unless you don't have anything to offer except to eat money.
I know some sort guy, his father in-law goes through (reflects) business ideas with him, because of what he saw in him. They brainstorm together, watch football together.

Always get value you are giving.
Money no be the only value.

Context is important.

First, the guy isn't living in Nigeria. He is a doctor in the US.

Second, his wife is not Nigerian, she is American either Haitian or some other central American country, but she isn't Nigerian.

The guy just wants to pepper you guys and everyone is arguing about this.

The rich father in law he is talking about is just another American citizen living a great life in America, not under T-pain's reign.

See why I said context is important?

shortgun:
Marrying Into a Family that's richer than you?
Think Twice, Brother.
That guy just made the biggest mistake of his life.

No matter how nice they smile, he’ll never be truly respected in that family. To them, he’s not the man their daughter should have married he’s the one she settled for. Behind closed doors, her parents are quietly disappointed and her father probably mocking him in silence.

The ugly truth is, when a man marries "up," he often sacrifices his dignity for comfort. Every small disagreement becomes a reminder of what he didn’t bring to the table. The power dynamic is off from day one.

My advice to men:
Never marry into wealth thinking it’s a win. It often comes at the cost of your pride.

A man is nothing without his dignity and respect. Never trade that for fancy dinner tables and empty smiles.

who no go no know. Na only movie this kind thing Dey go well. Real life scenario go humble person.

whippersnapper:
The prayer is to date and marry a rich girl who spends money on you. Some rich girls ehn them no dey give shi Shi and you go spend. Them no dey ask for urgent 2k na urgent 500k

Or urgent 100k USD.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

you said it all bro,that nigga has no single shame in him.

No be lie. I can't even imagine trying it. The financial burden will ruin you.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

Let me ass lick I like am like that…. Poor fellow

No just mistake shout for that woman or else her “rich” family go make you do frog jump till you faint 😒

shey him papa get money ni

Good for him but l would feel very controlled in such a relationship.Your wife might end disrespecting you or not listening to what you say.This might lead to frustration.The rate of divorce is higher where the woman is financially stable or making more than the husband.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

This one don take am personal.

Na once you go know them,when you say things like this to them, pepper body go just activate

He's been used as an errand boy and he's happy. Marry from a decent family where everyone is doing well and you're also doing well. If your wife's family is way richer than you and yours, they'll always talk about it behind closed doors, how much of a gold digger you look, how less of a man you're.

Tendd:
Good for him but l would feel very controlled in such a relationship.Your wife might end disrespecting you or not listening to what you say.This might lead to frustration.The rate of divorce is higher where the woman is financially stable or making more than the husband.

Na the one from poor background no go disrespect you? Oga if you respect yourself,them go respect you. If you disrespect yourself,you know d matter na. You see Temi and Mr Easi Abi. Get your money ,marry from a well to do family. Easy Pissy

LofP:
Context is important.

First, the guy isn't living in Nigeria. He is a doctor in the US.

Second, his wife is not Nigerian, she is American either Haitian or some other central American country, but she isn't Nigerian.

The guy just wants to pepper you guys and everyone is arguing about this.

The rich father in law he is talking about is just another American citizen living a great life in America, not under T-pain's reign.

See why I said context is important?

Yes context is good and we are arguing in the Nigerian context so allow us argue after all we are in Nigeria as Nigerians not Americans. We have to funnel it down to our dynamics and narratives in this subject.

Spiff20:
He's been used as an errand boy and he's happy. Marry from a decent family where everyone is doing well and you're also doing well. If your wife's family is way richer than you and yours, they'll always talk about it behind closed doors, how much of a gold digger you look, how less of a man you're.

If you hold your side, it doesn't matter oh. They can even be the Gates, Musks or whatever of this world.

If you hold your side and you are sound that's all. You are good.

Myrepublic:
Na the one from poor background no go disrespect you? Oga if you respect yourself,them go respect you. If you disrespect yourself,you know d matter na. You see Temi and Mr Easi Abi. Get your money ,marry from a well to do family. Easy Pissy

Correct... But most importantly hold your side. Be mentally strong and be a person of value, aside from money.

Funny enough some of the greatest disrespect can come from people from poor homes!

Key things: make sure you were not marrying because of the money. You were marrying someone you had a genuine bond and connection with and it would not have mattered what her family had.

DeepSight:
Correct... But most importantly hold your side. Be mentally strong and be a person of value, aside from money.

Funny enough some of the greatest disrespect can come from people from poor homes!

Key things: make sure you were not marrying because of the money. You were marrying someone you had a genuine bond and connection with and it would not have mattered what her family had.

That is it. Have your money and marry from influcial and well to do families. Ladies don't settle for poor men,even when their hymen has been broken and their hmmm turned tunnel. So why will you as a man,who has been able to settle himself,go so low to marry irresponsibility and community burden? I see it as fullishness on the side of guys actually..

Hhh4444:
who no go no know. Na only movie this kind thing Dey go well. Real life scenario go humble person.

Dem no dey tell person brother. Alot of people think money is everything, until they get it and realize that wealth and riches is nothing

vikstandon:
Not true, unless you don't have anything to offer except to eat money.
I know some sort guy, his father in-law goes through (reflects) business ideas with him, because of what he saw in him. They brainstorm together, watch football together.

Always get value you are giving.
Money no be the only value.

Dey play.
At the back of every successful person's mind is "he's broke because he's dumb"
We all do it bro. Do you ever respect anyone you are richer than?
Do you respect your domestic staff or take their advice?

No matter your tribe, if you marry into a poor family or a family with too many children, you will inherit their problems.

If you are rich and you jam someone who has contentment and discipline and also doing well for himself, even if you are richer than the person, you may be forced to greet him/her goodmorning sir/ma!

Be like you never jam such people who live in a world of their own. They don't care how rich you are!

shortgun:
Dey play.
At the back of every successful person's mind is "he's broke because he's dumb"
We all do it bro. Do you ever respect anyone you are richer than?
Do you respect your domestic staff or take their advice?

I respect people who have less than me ALL the time.

Love800:
If you are rich and you jam someone who has contentment and discipline and also doing well for himself, even if you are richer than the person, you may be forced to greet him/her goodmorning sir/ma!

Be like you never jam such people who live in a world of their own. They don't care how rich you are!

Gbam!